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wierd
I have a strange situation here. I'm 18/m, in college, and there is a girl in my class with whom I was really good friends with, then we added each other on myspace (I REALLY like her by now), I ask her to the movies, during the movie we cuddle/hold hands. If felt right and she was the one who initiated everything.
Then the next day she asks me if we are dating, to which I say yes, then she says that we should be going out instead, and on her profile she puts the 'in a relationship' status. Then the next day we have class together, and she seemed really seemed more quiet. That night she tells me she might be a lesbian, or bisexual, but she still really likes me and wants to work this out. Then she tells me she only likes me as a friend but we can still hang out and stuff. She changed her relationship status to single. We went out to dinner, it was awkward, and she kind of completely stopped talking to me since. I asked her about it and she told me she wasn't mad at me, and she'll explain next class. She didn't. I asked her about it again and she said she'll explain this weekend. Well, its Sunday night, and she still hadn't said a word to me. She won't even look at me.
I'm confused. First she was telling me how much she liked me (I believe she was being genuine, just trust me on this), then how she didn't like me that way and how she still wants to work this out, now she isn't talking to me at all. And we are in the same group of friends and she still talks to them. Whats happening? What should I do? She is 17 by the way but also in college.
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I would have to say that she is a lesbian. Girls don't tell guys that they are bisexual or a lesbian unless they are trying to get attention at a party, unless they actually are.
Believe me, I would just give this girl space. My mom is a lesbian and this girl is probably a lesbian but is very scared about it and is very confused. She probably did rush into a relationship with you because she wanted to hide her feelings for a girl...but then realized that wasn't fair to you so she told you about what she was thinking. I would tell her that you are here for her if she wants to talk and let her know that you still like her but you will respect any decision she makes in her life. If she is a lesbian she probably really does like you....but she's a lesbian...and just doesn't like guys like that.
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She rushed into this 'relationship' and then rushed right back out.
There isn't too much to understand about what happened here hun. She's not that interested in you, and she incapable of dealing with the other issues in her life in a mature, communcative way.
It would be nice if she would be clearer and more consistant in what she tells you, but after such a short aquiantance she doesn't OWE you a better explination.
Leave her alone. Be friendly in large groups, but don't show her any preference. She's been impolite and flakey. You'd be best to move on.
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Hi,
I think she is confused about her sexualtiy and the reason that she is not talking to you now is because she feels guilty and wierd about leading you on.
I don't know about you, but I would personally not want to be in a relationship with someone who obviously has some issues to work out.
If she is bisexual, are you ready to deal with that; one minute she is with you, the next she is with a girl? It's only going to bring you heartache because you are really feeling her.
I think you should let it go before you get in too deep.
It wasn't fair for her to pull you in that deep. I'm sure she was geniune, but she is confused. For now, if you want, be friends with her, but be careful. She won't be able to be in any kind of serious relationship until she figures things out. I hope I helped.
Hi, it's ediemarie,
I don't have a clear picture of what you are trying to ask. Are you saying that you still want to be with him or are you asking about how to make things more clear for him. If you want me to answer you privately send your question to my inbox. I would be happy to help.
Ediemarie,
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