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new school
i really had no idea where to put this. sorry.
so here is my dilemma... recently well about two months ago i moved and about a month ago i started a new school. i went from a small school, where i knew everyone to a school thats huge. i havent made any real friends. and im not doing so good in class, well in most classes. im tired of being alone, ive stayed at home with my family every single weekend, and it sucks. i havent even met anyone that i would really want to be my friend. well a few im just exaggerating. everyone i meet i cant stand. there are a few i take that back. but for the most part every single country accent gets on my nerves. which has never been the case before.
my family is military so ive moved a fe times before the last time was in the 7th grade. i was lucky to make friends they became the best friends i ever had, now i hardly talk to them, because things come up different time zones and one of them just got there computer taken away. and its killing me not to have anyone to talk to. i had this guy that i really really liked. and ive only talked to him a few times since i moved.
its not like people havent talked to me. it just really hasnt gone after the where did you move from? stage. i dont know how to remake friends.
and the guys, god. i think ive had 3 people who already like me since i moved here and we have had like one conversation. which bothers me so much. and the other ones who do have conversations with me (that like me) i dont like. i still miss the guy i left behind and i just want friends. whether guy or girl. and i like to take things slow. like everything here isnt like that. it goes from going out to having sex the next day. everything is just so so different. IM LOST. i dont know what to do. oh plus i dont know how to talk to a guy. when someone cute comes up to me i freeze up and walk faster. which i look like a loser. im not comfortable and this is totally unlike me. this whole blurb im writing it unlike me
im sorry to be so negative but i cant take it anymore. im shy i dont know how to make friends, and as cliche as it sounds im lonely. please please please help. im desperate.
thanks in advace
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i just recently moved to missouri my self from a big city. i can admit the first month i begged to go back to ohio and i am out of high school that looks bad although i got a job at the wal mart( which is the towns mall) i still dont have friends i go and hang out with and i dont have a friend to talk to. but the girls i work with help and myspace helps.
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Hi,
It's tough bing a military brat; being in a new school where everything that you have grown accustomed to has now changed. It seems to me that you're not giving yourself a chance. You're sentencing yourself to doom before you try anything. Because of that you're letting your education suffer. I know you know how imortant your education is.
YOu have to put yourself out there. Show people what a good person you are and how nice it would be for them to hang around you.
Try joing some organizations that really interest you, not just the ones that are popular. By doing this, it will ensure that you will be mingling with people who share your interests. YOu will begin to form a bond.
Once you do that, you will begin to feel more confident. Then try inviting one or two of them over for whatever. this will allow you to get to know them on a more personal level. Soon they will spread the word about how cool you are to hang out with.
Before you know it, you will feel wonderful about yourself and your new school. This process will take time. Don't rush yourself. Take one step at a time.
As far as guys are concerned, you are right. Don't sacrifice your values for what everyone else is doing. I'm sure there are some people who share your values about sex. Take time and let a guy get to know you. YOu're not going to know if you like him until you talk to him.
Cheer up, this too shall pass. I hope I helped. Keep me informed.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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Ya i knoe wat u mean i was going through the same thing a little while ago but then i decided that the best way to make friends is to be a friend im a really shy person too and just talking to my classmates was wierd but i did it and when they realized that i had a great personality we became the best of friends all u have to do is start up a conversation with whoever is sitting by you so atleast u'll knoe one person and then slowly start talking to everyone who you think you wuld enjoy talking to and then jus ask a few of them if they would like to have lunch together or something and as for the guys just talk to them like you would to your girl friends well i hope i helped good luck
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