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first time having sex...
okay how can i prepare myself for this? ive been dating him for a month and im ready. im 19 years old. ive been fingered/everything else besides sex. how much more painful is it going to be? i remember my last boyfriend when he would finger me i think he may have used 3 fingers because it hurt for the first time. is this how sex will feel? i dont mean to sound like a 12 year old who doesnt know anything but im nervous. helpppp!!! and also.. do you have any tips to make it seem like im really not inexperienced? and what position will be best for this? any other advice would reaaally be appreciated!
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I was in the same position a few weeks ago. My first time didn't hurt at all, i didn't bleed either. If your with the right guy and just relax you should be fine as you have probably been broken in without knowing it. I'm not saying you have but its more than likely. As for positions people say that him on top is better but i felt being on top was easier as you can control speed and depth nd stuff.
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Of course everyone is nervous when they have sex for the first time. Just relax and breathe, sex comes naturally and for me it hurt very little. Sex WILL hurt if you are not wet enough. So make sure that you are just turned on. And breathe, sex is much easier then you think.
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Make sure to get fingered before you have sex. By then hopefully you'll be relax because the more nervous you are the more it will hurt. When you're relax you're vagina muscles relax too but when you're nervous they tighten which will make sex hurt.
Your guy will love it if you get on top but that might not be something you want to do. It took me a while to get on top because i was scared iw oudln't know what i'm doing but honestly i wish i would've sooner because it just came natural. You can try getting on top of him with clothes on and see how that goes!
Hope i helped (:
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I know this isn't what you want to hear because I'm sure you've heard it a million times...but make sure that you are emotionally ready before you have sex. I was 17 when I lost my virginity (now 19 and married...not to the same man) and I do not regret it (surprisingly) but it wasn't very good and it wasn't special at all. Just because you are 19 doesn't mean you have to hurry up and have sex...there is nothing wrong with waiting until you are emotionally ready to have sex.
Anyway, I do not really know how to make it less painful. My first time wasn't painful at all. Earlier that day my boyfriend at the time and I were fooling around and he actually "popped my cherry" with his fingers. I have come to know that when you are actually really aroused and very much into having sex with a person you get really wet and it doesn't hurt. My first time I was on top and I didn't feel anything and it really sucked...and I have come to find out that when I am on top now I still can't feel anything and it really sucks...so obviously that position isn't right for me...but thats the least painful posistion I have ever done. My favorite and most pleasing posistion would have to be "doggy-style"...but if you do do that one make sure that you do not have any excess air up in your vagina otherwise it will hurt and will hurt very badly...but thats not from the sex...its from the air being pushed up there.
Thats about as far as my advice goes with the pain factor....if you are in foreplay and are worrying about how bad it will hurt...you won't get very wet and it will hurt. I suggest waiting until you are very comfortable with who you are with and so you won't worry about it hurting and then you'll be very moist and then it won't hurt.
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Sex is something you just dont want to HOP right into. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be sure that this is what you want and that this is the person you want to lose your virginity to. Some people may not think loosing your virginity is that important but you dont want to spend the rest of your life regretting it like I did.
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Anyhow there isn't really anyways you can prepare yourself for sex... however, should it be painful since it is your first true vaginal intercourse there are someways you can ease the pain of "doing it" (lol).... first things first, when a guy inserts his penis, make sure he enters slowl and gently, like strokes are keen. (Usually guys will ask you "does it hurt?" or "are you okay?") If you feel that it is too painful (cause all females are different)then by all means just stop. Also, lubericants are helpful because there are times when condoms are dry and they just DON'T FEEL GOOD when they are dry. Sex is supposed to be either sensual and magicial or rough and rowdy (whatever you may perfer). But yeah, remember slow strokes and lubricant will help a great deal, you kinda get used to it quickly and you were aroused beforehand, then sit back relax and let your mind go. Focus on the moment. (You want to make it magicial, IT IS YOUR FIRST TIME!)
*I hope this helped!
-Tara
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