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Hi All, My name is Tara, 22 yrs breathing, and living in Houston, TX. BORN AND RAISED... I am currently a Junior at UH, and work at a school. I am an education major... so as you can see my life is devoted to service and I love watching my students grow in character and learning abilities.... I will try to answer advice honestly and to the best of my abilities....I've been through alot of ups and downs, but they have yet to stop me... I was that go to friend when my friends had problems as well...
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this is really long, SORRRRYYYYY..... these people who are supposed to be my friends have been ruining my life for awhile now and this is the first time i've been able to explain it since late last year.
so, i've been friends with one of the girls, let's call her Mary, for a really long time. we had some REALLY good times together, and me & her were each other's best friends. then last year, she got a new friend, let's say her name is Barbie (lol first thing that popped in my head) and i was kinda forced to be friend with her too. that was fine with me, and of course i was a little jealous but not enough to say anything. i wasn't really bothered. then this year, everything changed. we were the 3 best friends to each other in the school until late last year, when out of nowhere, both girls completely ganged up on me, telling me i've been bringing them down ever since i met them, that i'm a bad influence, and all this other shit. i was soooo hurt, but luckily the fight only lasted for 2 weeks.. but ever since then nothing has been the same. i never know when they're really ok with me, or when they're secretly thinking i'm ruining their lives or something crazy again! the day before the fight, i had absolutely NO idea anyone was mad at me. they gave no hints whatsoever, texted me and stuff.. then the next day, i was the worst person in the world. so i can never know!
that's fight #1. next one only lasted 1night, but got me REALLY paranoid. I had a twitter, where i would put down all my thoughts and feelings.. it was like a diary. i have friends on there, it was just my owl little world to escape. everyone needs somewhere to vent, and since i obviously couldn't to my "friends" i did to my online friends who actually could help me sometimes! well,of course, Mary & Barbie (ahaha) find the Twitter, and text me telling me how much of a bitch i am for ever being mad at them. ......... like they never. did. anything. wrong. for example, i remember one of the tweets was calling someone a bitch. i was watching MTV for christ's sake! and both Mary AND Barbie accused me of calling them a bitch. on the tweet that was sent like 4 months ago. so they crawl into my own thoughts, and get mad about how i feel. the only reason we resolved the fight is because they both ganged up on me again, and said i had to "confess" to saying what i did. so i did, even though the tweets honestly weren't about them.. so that led me into a spot where i can't be unhappy, ever, and if i am, i can't express it in any way because then i'd be emo therefore ruining their lives.
yes, there's a fight #3, but it only lasted 2 days and it was only with Barbie.. it started on a friday that was an EXTREMELY BAD DAY FOR ME. worst day ever. so i didn't talk much, cuz i couldn't or i'd be "emo". but at one point, i called my mom and she was cussing me out so i had to break down and cry. THAT was the reason Barbie got mad at me. because i cried, she got the idea that i cut myself. not even kidding. she said she hated me, because i was annoying, emo, and i cut myself. ....... Mary was REALLY nice about it all, was on my side (for once) but remained friends with Barbie. Barbie soon acted like none of it happened, and hugged me. never really apologizing, which was becoming a trait. to this day i haven't gotten 1 apology!
soooooooooooo NOW I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO. should i just ditch them or something and become a loner? when they're being normal friends to me i have a lot of fun, but it's too much to handle not being able to think straight. i'm SO afraid of having another fight, i'll agree to anything they say. i sound like a fucking loser right now but seriously, i don't know what to do right now. i'm REALLY SORRY THIS HAD TO BE SO LONG but I really just need some help on this :(
I'm sorry, ditch them psycho chicks. JESUS your too young to have this DRAMA. They are nothing but drama and are bored and having nothing to do but make your life miserable. I mean you've done all you can at this point... don't you feel like a 3rd wheel? I'm sure you can find other friends who would treat you way better. These two chicks can KICK ROCKS!
I am a 23 year old female and I was raised Christian in a very religious family. As I grew up and started to form my own opinion I decided to not refer to myself as a Christian. I have not been to church since I turned 18 and moved out. I believe in God 100% but I do not believe in Christianity. I feel as if apart of me doesn't believe in religion. I'm trying to decide if maybe I just haven't been exposed to the right religion. Or maybe I shouldn't classify myself as one religion. Maybe I should just love God, live right, and treat people good and not study one religion. What should I do?
This is why I struggle with religion too. You can believe what you want to believe and claim to be spiritual. That's what I do because I don't believe everything I hear either. Like you I believe in God 2000000% and that he gave his only begotten son, Jesus and all that good stuff....Ultimately, God will lead the way in what he wants you to believe. Just keep the faith....
i m male/22 i don't musterbate ,but have sexual urge ,will i have sexual problem in future,i mean am i be good or bad at sex?
No of course not, this is COMPLETELY natural... its all apart of the hormonal changes that go on in your body and its cool... you might even release some of that urge when you have nocturnal emissions too so no need to worry or be ashamed.
There is a guy down the street, he is over 20 years older than me. I am 16. He is really good looking, funny, cool, calm, and collective. We have the same interests (movies, motorcycles, cars). He sits next to me sometimes at parties. We have had conversations about stuff like Cialis (ED medication, we were joking about it), and once Dirty Jobs with Mike Rowe came on and we joked about the subliminal messaging in that title ;). I took his chair once when he went to the bathroom, and when he came back he laughed and totally pretended to sit on me and put his butt all in my face. I laughed back. Everytime he walks his dog, I go outside for some reason, and he talks to me. Once, I had texted him and he never responded. I went outside the same day, and he cut his walk short (he always walks to the same spot, this time he stopped and turned around waaaay before that) and he came and talked to me. He said he got my text and answered my question about motorcycles, then we talked about age and how I was sick of being young because I needed a parent signature on EVERYTHING. He said the government was just protecting me from myself. I laughed. I have a friend who is helping try and get more friendly with him. Me and her are planning on inviting him over tonight to help us looking for bikes online since he knows more about them than we do. I hope we can be flirty. Can you give me some advice? I want to be able to be flirty with him and be on a more than friend, summer fling, level. I know the age difference is illegal and bad, but I'm not talking about sex or anything. A kiss would be nice. Can you help me? He is single and lives alone, two doors down on my street.
If I am reading this correctly it says the man is 20+ years older than you and you want to kiss him. Are you trying to get the man put in jail???? No bueno! I can understand you being a attracted to the man, I almost started dating a guy who was 10 years older then me, I was 20, he was 30... and let me tell you, he was nice and all, but at the end of the day, us younger girls have a WHOLE LOT more living to do while they are settling in their lives that they have. You can't teach a old dog new tricks and it won't be long before they tell you what you can and can't do and try to be extra controlling. Whatever you decide to do, I hope you just think it through logically and be super careful....
I'm a girl and 14 almost 15.I have liked this guy for a really long time.For the past few days we have been talking non-stop.He told me that he really really likes me and that he wants to be with me forever.I want to be with him forever to and i love him and he knows that i do but he has a girlfriend.He doesn't want to be with her so he can be with me but he doesn't want to break up with her.what do i do???
Girl let me tell you, sounds like your still in high school, there are going to be plenty other guys that you are going to talk to at school. You might not even talk to him ever again after high school (unless yall connect on facebook lol). But umm I would say cut your losses, why is he still with her if he likes you? No since in getting your feelings hurt, you don't want to be is side salad while is girlfriend is the main course of the meal... that's messed up. Just be his friend....
How do you fight so you can stay in the school district you've been going to your whole life? I moved before my senior year, which starts in Sept. (NY resident)...is their a way I can try to stay?? I already wrote a letter to my principal explaining my situation. I will be delivering it to her soon. Please help. I've been so stressed out about this..I understand if you want to stay you have to pay around $-9,000 to $12,000 a year..but im poor :/, I really don't want to have to leave my senior year..
Can you try to use someones address that lives in the district and say that you live there?
okay, so when you give a guy a blowjob, i know you dont actually blow, but when a guy says suck his d*ck. does it mean actually suck it? what are some tips. thanks.
Yes you have to suck on it like sucking on ice or a lollipop. Some tips maybe stroking his d*ck while sucking him, or even playing with his testicles, over time you'll develop your own ways andd techniques. hope this helps.
I have a best friend. We've been friends for about three years, and she used to be a really cool person. She's still a nice person, but she's changed. She smokes and drinks occasionally, sends naked pictures of herself to guys, does so while she has a boyfriend, and hangs out with a...well, slutty girl who is a horrible influence on her. She won't tell me about this stuff, but I hear it from other people. I confronted her about it, and she said she was scared to tell me about it because she thought I'd freak out and throw her out of my life. She only partially admitted to doing these things, and I keep hearing more about her everyday. I have a lot of good people in my life, and a lot of friends. It's sad to me that she's turning into such an insecure moron lately. How should I handle this? It's getting exhausting to be her friend, not to mention it's not a great feeling to see someone you care about be so stupid and lie about it.
Sadly enough, I had the same thing happen to me with a "best friend". Sweetheart, unfortunately there's nothing you can do. You can't not hold yourself accountable for her actions and if you keep telling her over and over again that this is nothing healthy for her then there's nothing you can do. Honestly, you have to sit bit and let nature take it's course and in time, she'll realize the advice you gave her when something goes wrong in her life. I don't wish her bad, but I can almost guarantee that something is gonna happen and that's when she'll open her eyes. Sometimes you have to let people fall on their faces and let them learn on their own... I hope this helps.
I noticed recently (about two weeks ago) that inbetween my left leg and pubic area (where there is a crease) there is a lump underneath the skin that feels like a small grape. It's not painful and I checked my right side to make sure I didn't have one on the other side. I can feel it intensely when I lay down. I'm not sure if it has anything to do with this, but I am sexually active and always use protection. I know this should be a question for a doctor, but I was wondering if anyone has had this before that could maybe give me some infomation to spare me a visit? Or is this something that should be checked out? Thanks.
It's not really anything to be too worried about, it is quite normal for girls to get them on their thighs (usually in the crease like yours) and even on or in the lips of the vagina. They are offten reffered to sebacious cysts. They aren't really pain but are REALLY ANNYOING. If you feel the urge to go to the doctor then do so. However, in time they will go away on its own. For some girls it comes and goes quite frequently. But like I said, nothing to be alarmed about... at any rate, don't try to pop it cause I'm sure it was cause a GREAT DEAL OF PAIN especially being under the skin. Hope this helped. If you have any questions feel free to contact me...
the way i masturbate i rub my vagina against a chair and i achieve an orgasm that way. usually when i have like a pad on it helps with the orgasm alot. am i making my vagina less tighter, am i making the hole wider?
No hun, you dont have any penetration therefore nothing is going to widen/tiden.
okay how can i prepare myself for this? ive been dating him for a month and im ready. im 19 years old. ive been fingered/everything else besides sex. how much more painful is it going to be? i remember my last boyfriend when he would finger me i think he may have used 3 fingers because it hurt for the first time. is this how sex will feel? i dont mean to sound like a 12 year old who doesnt know anything but im nervous. helpppp!!! and also.. do you have any tips to make it seem like im really not inexperienced? and what position will be best for this? any other advice would reaaally be appreciated!
Sex is something you just dont want to HOP right into. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be sure that this is what you want and that this is the person you want to lose your virginity to. Some people may not think loosing your virginity is that important but you dont want to spend the rest of your life regretting it like I did.
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Anyhow there isn't really anyways you can prepare yourself for sex... however, should it be painful since it is your first true vaginal intercourse there are someways you can ease the pain of "doing it" (lol).... first things first, when a guy inserts his penis, make sure he enters slowl and gently, like strokes are keen. (Usually guys will ask you "does it hurt?" or "are you okay?") If you feel that it is too painful (cause all females are different)then by all means just stop. Also, lubericants are helpful because there are times when condoms are dry and they just DON'T FEEL GOOD when they are dry. Sex is supposed to be either sensual and magicial or rough and rowdy (whatever you may perfer). But yeah, remember slow strokes and lubricant will help a great deal, you kinda get used to it quickly and you were aroused beforehand, then sit back relax and let your mind go. Focus on the moment. (You want to make it magicial, IT IS YOUR FIRST TIME!)
*I hope this helped!
-Tara
okay so i know this isnt about cumputers but theres no fone catagory!! so my plan, i have 300 minz a month, and free weekends and nights after 7 and tmobile to tmobile. and you know how wen u dial #646# it tells u how many minz are used? well, wenevr i call during weekends or nights, it adds to that! and so im just wondering, is that the simple version, and when they bill me it dosent count? because if it does count im way over my minutes, but i never call anyone until after 8. also, when you go out of the country and you change the time on your fone, does the billing time change to? or do i have to wait until its 7 at the place were i bought it. and, sorry this is so long, but when somone calls me, and i dont pick up, it STILL takes my minutes. any help would serously rock!!! thank you
Can you tell me this first, Do you have the Basic plan, because I have t-mobile too,but my plan is 300 mins unlimited weekends ( and then I have my sidekick unlimited....), so I can see if you have mobile-to-mobile but how did you get nights after 7? Are you sure you have that... cause if you do, it shouldn't count towards your mins, and all it should show is the mins that count towards your 300. On the weekends, my phone tells me how many weekend mins I use... Let me know cause I want to find out...
Is there any way you can be pregnant and still get your next period? If so, how can you tell the difference between this and a regular period? I heard that one girl was actually pregnant for like 3 months and didnt know cause she had been getting "fake periods". Could this happen to me? I'm not sure if I am pregnant. I still have to wait like a week and a half before i can take a pregnancy test. I'm supposed to be getting my period any day now or I could even be a few days late. I'm really stressing out over this. I dont want to get my period and think that I'm not pregnant and then 3 months later find out I am. Is this true??
Actually you still can get your period while being pregnant. Your flow should be about the same and it should be around the same time. Now for others, I think about 2-6 weeks after you conceive, there's this thing called implantation bleeding, where the egg is attaching to the _______, therefore this blood is usually like spotting, brown and very light... nothing that should last too long. I hope this helped.
Ok how can i make this short.. me and this guy dated for 7 months.. and i broke up with him because i thought I could have someone better.. and then i got back together with him like 3 times and then i broke up with him.. then just around my bday.. we started gettin all good again.. cause i missed him.. and then i found out from his friend that he had a gf.. well i felt like i could die.. i was so upset i cried everynite and i made myself so upset I threw up.. all the time.. I really love him it seemed.. and it was scary.. but then they broke up and i thought it was a chance for me then he got a new gf.. and i thought i was over him but i totally wasnt i still would cry everytime i thought about it all.. then she lied to him so they broke up.. but he wont give me a chance now and i really love him.. i really no it.. But i have about 5 guys after me now.. and i cant choose because i really love none of them i still love the other guy.. he says he just wants us to be bestfriends.. and its killin me i love him.. but its like he has no feelings for me now after 7 months.. i just dont no what to do* help me out..What should I do?
I guess what they say is true, "You never know what you have until it's gone....". So my best advice to you is to let him ULTIMATELY know how much you feel.... trust me, if you don't, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. I mean if he loved you alot, then he should be able to give you another chance. But bare in mind it's completely up to him.... but at least give it a shot.... and if you think about it, your not gonna loose your life over this or him, at least you'll still have his friendship. You need to let him know how you feel and that your sorry.
okay so i have this pain on my right breast on the far right side. i have also had relle bad cramps. yesterday not so much today.
now i have never had any sexual intercorse or anything. are these just signs of getting my period or is there something wrong with me?
p.s. i am on anti bioctics if that maybe has any side affects. =/
Yeah, it could be a possiblity that your starting your period. And if you do get your period, then this may happen everytime your period comes. Hope this helps!
hi 14/f here and i just got my period for the very first time last night, but there is soooo much blood ! i dont know if this is normal or not . and i had cramps and got whiney and everything and i dont think that im suppossed to get this on my first time !! is this normal ?? help me im so scared !!
Yes it is normal... usually it's heavy on the first day... that's all, nothing to worry about. And the cramps and everything are gonna happen everytime.
My boyfriend and I have been going out for a year and a month, on Decemeber 15. We are always together, and I think that I love him. I know it's like, oh your a child you don't know what love is, but I really do believe that I am in love. We were laying on my bed on each other and I was thinking about how I love him, and I was about to tell him.. I asked him what he was thinking about, and he said, "I love you." It was like so strange though because I was just about to say the exact same thing, but anyways.. Wow, totally off topic. I'm 13, and whenever we are making out.. We get a little too into it, I suppose. Where it gets to the point when it's "dry sex", or having sex with your clothes on.. Yes, I know it's weird.. But, I feel the erge to want to have sex with him, and go farther, sexually. I am only in 7th grade, so of course I don't want to go that far.. All I have done with any guy is "feel up", because I refuse to go farther.. He was trying to finger me and I wouldn't let him. Basically, I am trying to ask..
Would it be wrong if I had sex with him?
I don't think I am ready, at all.
I could be wrong? Maybe, I am.
But - I am scared that next time we hook up that it will go a little too far.
And it's not like a 10 second hook up, it's more like 10 minutes.
Really, how far is "too far"?
I believe feel up is far enough for 7th grade.
But I'd love your views.
Okay but if you don't think your ready, then why do it? That right there proves your not ready. but like I was saying be aware of what your doing cause if you do go and have sex, there is always the possibility of getting pregnant, and getting preganant before high school isn't cute. And do you really think that he'd be with you taking care of a child.... umm no hun. And if he's your boyfriend and he "loves" you. Then he'd respect your decision whatever it may be, sex or no sex.
Okay I asked the question earlier about my blood on my pad ( from my period ) was brown. Well now I checked again and it's so dark its black. Is this STILL normal or do I need to talk to my mom about this ?
yes, i think you need talk her immediately....
whats the difference between fraternity and sorority?
fraternity- males
sorority- females
does anyone know any good love songs about having a really good relationshiop, and things like never wanting it to end? im putting together a CD and just thought id ask here. ill rate.
"I'm your angel" By Celine Deon and R.Kelly