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ok so ive had like 2 boyfriends before in my life, and i'm 15, sophomore. My relationships didnt last tht long because one is moving and he had complications and the other one had to go to college. But I'm really desperate for a new boyfriend. And I dont want to be desperate, its so annoying, i cant even be myself around guys anymore, without expecting that something "magical" or amazing will happen. I just want to be myself! Yes I would love a boyfriend! But to tell the truth I dont have a very good self esteem. most people cant tell unless I tell them. But I do. I think that I dont deserve to be skinny (i'm a little overweight and im in the process of losing my goal of 15lbs), i think i dont deserve to be happy, or i dont deersve to be loved or have a girlfriend. I'm not emo lol, but I think I do have some depression issues. I go through depression spells especially when I'm stressed out, or the fact when that I dont think I'm loved. And at my school, like alot of the guys are players and are rude, but alot are nice too. I just think I'll never be good enough for anything or anyone. It's like I'll always have the feeling of being alone forever.
15/f/usa
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Firstly, you have to believe in yourself and think that you are awesome and perfect for others to see it, you feeling like nonsense doesn't help anything or anyone, especially yourself. So until you build your self-esteem by yourself, don't date! Because then, when you do have a boyfriend, he'll obviously make you feel gorgeous and perfect, but when he leaves, will you still feel the same?! So build your esteem by yourself and then continue dating. Don't expect things, if they come, they come, if they don't... Nothing you can do about it. So just carry on talking and meeting up with new guys and see what comes out of it. Nothing too bad will happen. You're just being friendly, and stop telling people you have a low self-steem, you're just bringing yourself down, which isn't the way to go. Have the good friends that make you feel loved, or have that one good friend/best friend that makes you happy and things like that, don't dwell on the negative. When you feel negative, focus on the positive, think about how much your parents care about you, never forget them! They really do help. Talk to someone about it, whether it be a friend or a parent, tell them you are feeling down and just need a little help, the true ones will come running. And that is what friends are really for.
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Okay...so I know what you are going through. You are actually ahead of any game that I had...I never even kissed a guy until I was 16. I have had 3 boyfriends in my life and I married my 3rd boyfriend (I am 19). Now first of all, I know how it is to have low self esteem. I had very low self esteem until I got my first kiss. Only then did I think I was actually pretty and attractive. After that, I started to not care about having a boyfriend. I concentrated on myself and having fun with my friends and within a few months I got my first boyfriend. My advice is to relax...do not put so much pressure on yourself to get a boyfriend. You are 15 years old! Focus on school and your friends and making yourself feel good. I know it sounds cheesy as hell but you are most attractive to others when you feel attractive. Nobody is going to think you are worth anything until you think you are worth something! If you want a boyfriend to save you from your depression and to make you "feel pretty" it is not going to happen. Reality of it is...guys suck at being nice, guys suck at giving compliments and guys your age are very selfish. Most guys are not ready to "save" someone ever, and none of them should have to. I would suggest doing a lot of soul searching and fixing a lot of issues within yourself. Nothing is more unattractive to guys than a desperate, unconfident girl...so quit being desperate and get some confidence! Once you stop thinking about needing a boyfriend....a guy will actually want to be your boyfriend. Oh and p.s. You said that you only want to lose 15 lbs....if you are only needing to lose 15 lbs you are not overweight at all and are not fat at all...just thought I'd let you know.
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