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he loves me, he loves me not?
I usually don't ask questions, but well, this is important. So I am taking summer gym so I don't have to do it during the year and it's all the people from my grade from our district middle school and 3 students. I am friends with all 3 of them. One of them is a guy and we always run into each other everywhere and anywhere somehow. He and I talk a lot and whenever we walk together, we walk slower than usual. We talk a lot and we goof around together during class. Whenever were playing a game, were totally competitive and we try to out do each other. I really like him, but I have no idea if he likes me back. I love being around him and he makes my life so much more fun. Especially when he comes up to me and asks me if I'm hot and I respond yes, and he pours his water bottle all over my head!!! I laugh and yell in a joking way, "I'm going to kill you" while I'm still laughing and I chase him until we both can't breath anymore. I just can't ask him if he likes me...should I? And, when, how? Ugh! I'm confused! Someone help me! I'm love struck!
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Everyone has already said to ask to hang out. That is good. I just want to cover the part of your question, should I ask him if he likes me?
That sort of question puts the guy on the spot and makes them feel uncomfortable. It also makes some guys wary and suspicious thinking that some girl is in love with him which feels to him like jumping ahead too fast for him when he may not be there yet. Most guys don't fall in love at first sight.
The word "like" is also problematic at times because the two sexes often have different meanings for that word. When a girl says she likes a guy, her feelings are often stronger than his. Sometimes she feels she loves him and acts accordingly with him trying to act as if they are a long dating couple who have made a commitment to each other when to guys, using the word, I like you is much more simple. It just means, he finds you attractive on the eyes and may have observed enough of your personality to know he likes how you act too, its also part of what makes you appealing. BUT...that does not mean the guy has deep feelings for you yet. He needs to spend time with you to get to know you even better and allow for time for those feelings to develop. Sometimes they don't, even though there was an initial attraction on both sides. That is normal and part of what happens in dating. But if you never take the chance to ask him to hang out, it doesnt have a chance.
If a guy asks you out, or you ask and he accepts, you can take that as a 'given' that he is attracted to you. Would you accept a date from a guy who looks unattractive to you and you don't like some of his mannerisms you've observed? Probably not, because you are not attracted to him or in other words, you don't like him. So rest easy if he accepts and have fun together.
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It sounds like he's at least interested in you. So you're headed in a good direction.
Sometimes it's hard to tell when you're not being direct. If you have the courage, you should ask him to hang out. Just plan something fun and casual, something you guys would both have fun doing.
Or even ask for his number.
That would give him the sign that you're interested in him and if he does give you his number, then there's a good chance he feels the same about you too.
A lot of the time, teasing is flirting and he seems to do that to you.
So I'd definitely go for it and take the risk!
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Hey there,
I think you should invite him to hang out with you. Next time he comes over and you two are chatting or flirting, just ask him 'Hey, I was wondering if you would like to hang out sometime?'. If he says yes, you're on the right track and if he says he's not available, ask him if another time will work for him. One time he will say yes and then you'll be able to hang out with him more and become great friends which will evolve into a relationship. Try it and I'm sure you'll be off to a great start :)
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