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I don't have to have sex?
16/F
Okay, my friend always asks me how my boyfriend and I are doing and I always just reply with 'fine. After all, I like to keep my relationship with him between us, that and we're both too shy to start gushing about how we cuddle and stuff. Not to mention, our relationship involves mostly talking to each other. I like this relationship and it's my longest and best so far. Well, my friend exploded one me the other day about it and she asked what the sex was like and I was like what the heck?! She's younger than me by a few months and she already has weird problems of her own. Yet, she kept saying that I should've had sex with him by now, three months is enough. Uhm, nooo, I'm only sixteen and he's younger than me, so there's definitely no freaking way it's legal. Is there anyway I can get her to shut up about it without actually being rude? Because I think she might be trying to anatagonize me... You don't HAVE to have sex in a relationship, right? Especially at age sixteen?!
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Tell your friend that minding one's own business is a good thing.
No, you don't have to do the wild thing at your age. It is your body and your life, so do what is right for you and don't let others try to control you. You are the only one who can live your life after all.
Now when you get into adulthood the guy will assume that you will have sex with him, especially since you are old enough to obtain birth control by yourself. It is still up to you whether you guys actually do it, but adult men will quickly leave when no sex is forthcoming because they can get it from other women.
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No, you don't have to have sex. In fact, you shouldn't! At least until you're married.
I think you should tell her that having sex is not what you want right now, and that she should stop bringing it up. If you feel uncomfortable with it, then tell you feel that way. If your friend is like any of mine, she'll stop talking about it when you ask her to.
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If it bothers you that your friend is being nosey, Then tell her, You don't have to be a bitch about it but simply telling her "I'm sorry, I didn't want to be rude but I feel that my relationship is my business and I don't like discussing it" It isn't too harsh and it is pretty straight forward.
Continue your relationship the way it is, There is no rush to have sex and I give you the applause for waiting. You tell your friend to worry about herself.
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Just continue your relationship, the way it is. Everything sounds just fine in your relationship. Don't pay her no mind. She isn't you, she isn't in a relationship with you. And sex is not a necessity in a relationship. That's why its called, an "Extra Curricular Activity" it doesn't make a relationship.
Respect, honesty, care, etc are the main essentials. Simply tell her that its your relationship, and your going about it the way you want it to go. If she's more of a friend, she'll snap out of it and leave it alone.
16 is young, wait until you're much older and emotionally/physically ready for those 'older people' responsibilities. Once that occurs, you're 100% responsible for whatever may happen during, and beyond that point.
Good Luck.
Let me know how things go.
-Cinnamon B-
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