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he said he lost feelings
Me and my boy had been together almost 1 year and a half... we did long distance for 9 months while i was away at school. he started to act different after christmas... like a little less caring. He told me thats just how he is he's not an emotional or expressive person. We ended up breaking up after he forgot our one year... he told me at that point, after i told him im done with not being cared about, that he is not ready for commitment and he needs to experience things in life (hes 20) because now is the time. He cried to me saying how amazing of a wife id be and how he hates himself for feeling this way.. then two nights later he called back and said he made a mistake.. he sounded sincere. Well now here i am. ive been home frmo school for a month and we've been together every day. It's been the most different ever. We hardly had sex, he truely made me his last prioroty, and just always treated me like an annoyance. I asked him, do you still feel the same way as when we last broke up? he said no. I asked because i thought maybe he was unknowingly pushing me away. I always would say to him.. i wish you loved me, or you dont love me. he's say stop it i do love you. He has very rare cute moments where i feel slightly like he cares. The other night i brought up to him how im really upset cause i feel like im his last priority (when we hung out, we never hung out alone... he would invite his friends over and hang with them while i waited with his parents, he would work out, eat, shower, play video games, all while i waited, literally every single time we hung out) anyways, his response in a text was, ive lost feelings for you, they've faded, im not feeling this anymore, i havent had feelings for you for awhile.
How can i guy lose feelings when i've literally never lied to him, cheated on him, gone out without him, gotten into a serious fight, done everything for him, and we been together for that long. We also work together, which is going to be hard. Not only was he my boyfriend but he was my best friend we did everything together. Guys, or girls i guess, i need some advice on why he lost feelings or why he might of, or if a guy at 20 years old would really end a relationship with a great person just to experience other things.
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Men are very mysterious. Most of the time they will not tell you if they're interested in someone else or that they want to end the relationship. They will try to drop hints,but sooner or later they will just let out the truth. If you want to talk about this just Email me :) : Monae1398@yahoo.com
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Two words 'Still Young'. In life things happen, falling in and out of love, just happens. He loves you still, that is definitely without a doubt. Chances are, something came up in his life that he needs a break from everything. Want the space to venture out a bit. Life hasn't really started yet, and there will be a lot going on. If he's falling out of feelings for you, just relax. It's probably not a permanent thing, give him time.
Just let him know, that you don't really understand what happened between you two, but that you'll always be there. Give him that reassurance, so he wont suspect you hating him.
Sure you'll hate the situation and what to make of it, but in time things will change.
Good Luck.
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