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my friend needs advice
well my friend's parents are getting a divorce because her mom cheated and she is leaving her current husband for the man she cheated and my friend doesn't know what to do and she's asked me for advice...but i don't know what advice to give her...the only thing that i told her is that things like that is a part of life...but i don't think it's good enough so if anyone else has better advice out there could you please help me??? thanx in advance
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im answering this kind of late but i thought i would still answer because my friend is going through this also except her dad cheated on her mom with another woman. this is what my friend is doing. she moved in with her mother (since her mother obviously moved out of the house) and she doesn't talk to her father because she said she can't even look him in the eyes anymore. she has an older brother who lives with the dad, and he comes to visit them often. she feels horrible for her mom, she always feels like she should stay home with her other than going out with her friends. Dont get me wrong, i think its awesome she does that, but she ALSO does go out with her friends often. her friends are VERY VERY supportive. "to every end, there's a new beginning..." if she wants to talk about it, make sure your there for her and listen to her but if she doesn't want to talk about it, let it go. hope everything goes well and i wish the best of luck for your friend and her father ♥ LU
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She needs to think on the bright side. which is probly hard right now. maybe comfort her father and if she has brothers and sisters. What her mom did was her mothers decision and she will always be her mother. it might seem hard to think that way right now but she still should treat her mother with respect. tell her you will always be there if she needs someone to talk to.
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The main thing is that she doesn't let her world fall apart. Things are hard now, and anyone hearing the situation will know that but never first hand like she will. She needs to spend time with friends and not think about it until it's easier to deal with, and that could be a while.
She's been plunged into a world where things are falling apart and she needs to have some stability. She can find that in people like you and her other friends and she's going to need it.
It's okay to cry and it's okay to be angry and she needs to talk to someone when she feels that way, a friend or a counselor, and when she feels like it she can talk to her parents about it.
Move slowly and pace yourself on what you can stand to deal with. That's what she should know.
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First let her know, that during this devastating time, she will have a great friend in her right corner when needed. Divorce can be hard to go through, but things like this is common.
Let her know that its ok, and that she'll still be able to communicate or spend some time with her dad (the mother's ex husband) whenever she wants.
This is life changing and she has to remain strong. Give it a couple of months, the feeling of "Divorce" would start to ease, and she'll begin feeling better about herself.
Her mom is the one changing life for herself, and the child just has to go along with it. But divorcing shouldn't be the cause to break the communication lines.
They will always be family, no matter what.
Wish your friend lots of luck, and don't leave her side, she'll need you for moral support.
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