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my parents!
15/f
my parents are so strict,
i dont know what to do to change it.
i got 2 a's on my report card and the rest b's and tehre mad. they dont want me to have a bf cause im "too young", even though everyone else has one. and the other day i couldnt sleepover at my friends cause my mom didnt know her, except fro teh fact she saw her late at night with guys.
they suspect i go out and drink, or they think i hang around wtih people that do(but they do)but they know im responsible, like they dont trust me at all! like they dont want me to drink at all, even thought i KNOW they did when they were my age. there so strict and its not like they just get over it, like if i had a boyfriend theyd go tell all my aunts uncles and there friends, so its pretty intimidating too. i dont know what to do cuase its not fair, i wanna go out and stuff but there so strict about everything like drinking, boys, and grades. i know theyre just watching out but still im 15 and i wanna have fun! and 2 a's and the rest b's isnt bad!
its driving me nuts and there pissing me off!
PLEASE HELPPPPPPP!!!
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hey girl, i know what thats like! my parents were the same way, i know its hard but you just have to talk to them one day maybe at dinner or something and tell them that you understand why they are strict but you want to gain there trust, and to do that you need a little more freedom. that worked with my parents, they'll probably think your really mature for talking it out with them. Trust me if you complain and yell at them it will make them want to be more strict, i tried that at first and got no where haha, tell them you try your best at school and you'll keep trying
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You know what, I had to laugh, this reminds me so much of my life when I was 15. The best advice I can give you, is instead of yelling "You don't trust me" or "I hate you" I would tell you to tell them exactly how you feel, but say it as maturely as possible.
And if you do have friends that drink, its not you they don't trust, its your friends. Believe me I learned after years of my mom and I not getting along of silly stuff like this. As you get older, this stuff becomes less and less important. I promise.
And just to give you an example, I had a best friend growing up, she and I did everything together. We went out with our 2 guy friends to the bowling alley, well my mother drove away and hid behind the trees. Yeah, complete embarassing, b/c they saw her. Well it just so happens that the bowling alley was closed so she gave the 4 of us a ride to the movies. There were all these guys around, and my best friend went with them and my mom wouldn't let me go. I cried the whole way home I was so angry, and embarassred and hurt. I yelled "how come you don't trust me????" well she explained it was my best friend she didn't trust, not me.
And to conclude, my best friend, who always made some not-so-great decisions, ended up pregnant her junior year of high school.
I'm not saying you will, I'm just saying to look at things from your parents point of view sometimes, all they want is your best interest, you'll realize it someday, I'm glad I did.
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Try to have a "sit down" with both of your parents. Let them know how you feel, and find out why they are being so strict. That's basically what the family needs, to communicate more, lack of communication leads to bad relationships between a parent and their child.
Show them how much of a mature and responsible young woman you are, sometimes they need to see for themselves how you take care of yourself.
I just hope you don't have brothers and them treating him different, if his younger. That's when you know they're pulling off a 'Double Standard' on you, and that's not healthy, nor fair.
I understand that you want to live like a teenager, and experience things early in life, but if you look at it from their perspective, they really, truly care about you. They don't want to see what goes on in this world happen to you, such as catching diseases, teen pregnancy, hanging around the wrong crowd and serve time in prison. Those are just some of the things they are trying to prevent. So give your parents a break.
Compared to stories I've heard and actually saw for myself, most parents don't care about their children. In most likely cases terrible things happened to them, physically, emotionally or even mentally.
Just be careful, times are changing, and I understand them completely.
Good Luck, hope future positive bonding with your parents, and communicate more, they are for you when you need them. Don't turn your back on them.
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