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Copycat...
I have a friend who's been annoying me lately. I really hate to say it but I think she's fake, and a poser. (though I really hate that I think that) She's my best friend though. I just can't take it!! She copies me A LOT. She copies what I do, my style, my likes, what I say... It's really annoying and makes me want to say "think of your own freakin ideas!!!!" and give her a piece of my mind! She KNOWS I hate copycatters but I think she thinks that I don't mind, or that she's "not copying" me. I'm just myself, and when she tries to do something I do, it comes off as fake. To me at least. I really like being unique, different, and my own person, but it's hard to do that if she's JUST LIKE ME. She's changed though... Like on aim, I put my status message as "ca-call me, so I can make it juicy for ya!" A quote from one of Lil Wayne's songs. Then later, my friend put "Ayyy-bayy bayy! :]" or something like that. .__. I would do something like that (cause I'd wanna get back at her), but she might think I'M copying HER. Then she'd try to be better than me. I actually do have an away message like that, but didn't get the idea from anyone else. She's not even like "that" at all. I really don't mean to be rude. :[ but how can I get over this? I don't wanna be annoyed everytime she does something... It drives me crazy! Whenever I think of something kewl, it discourages me to share it with people because in the back of my head I'm thinking "uh oh what if so and so copies me and gets all the credit for it?" Sorry. I have a problem with copycatters. I just feel like she's stealing MY identity. It feels like a "competition" and I hate it. She makes it like that though. How can I not get annoyed and stop thinking about all the negative things? I want to think positive things and be happy. (I'm annoying myself cause I feel like I'm caring about something so stupid.) Sorry if this is long. D;
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i know how you feel i have a friend that is the same way what you could do is hang around other people for a day or so or like what i did just tell her how you feel if shes a ood friend she will understand
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Hey,my name is Faith42 and I think I can help!
My friends and I had the same situation to, what we
did was we told her what we felt, She said she is sorry and she won't do it again. Then , a week
later she started to do everything again BUT doing
it much worse. So , we told her that we can't befriend's with her for the way she act's. Our , friend was quite worse though, when we invited
her to our party's, it had TO BE HER WAY! Or, nothing. we got sick ,of it. We stopped being friends!
I think you should talk to her , say what you feel
and tell her to try to change her ways, so we can
be better friends! If, she don't stop, or she
acted like my situation , and becomes worse .
you really need to break off the friendship.
If, keep being her friend she might even be
worse, than ever! It, will Ruin your friendship
with other friends because of her, and will ruin
your life , intill you break off the friendship!
I hope I helped,
Faith42:)
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i understand just what you mean about her seeming to not have any ideas of her own. one of my old best friends used to be just like that. evenatually i just said to her that it seems like she never has any of her own ideas. i eventually just got tired of it and stopped hanging out with her all the time. shes definatly not one of my best friends anymore, but im a lot happier. we hang out rarely, but when we do, she does seem to have her own mind now. i dont really know what to tlel you besides the fact that you are not alone and you should always speak your mind. your complaining about your friend being fake, yet your saying shes your best friend though you cant stand the things that she does..
good luck with your situation, hope everything turns out well.
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She's copying you, because she finds what you do interesting. You should be flattered, but instead you want something that's only yours.
This is actually how trends start: someone doing something spontaneous, and everyone copying them. Like, ten years ago, wearing all black and covering half of your face with your equally black hair would be considered weird and unacceptable by society. But, some people thought it was awesome, and, eventually, "emo" became a trend.
Instead of seeing it as an annoying competition, try thinking of yourself as a trend-setter. When a person does something like you, don't get mad and annoyed, I find it easier to give myself moral support and tell myself that I'm somewhat above them. But, then again, nobody likes a stuck-up person. Ignoring also helps.
Another method is to put yourself in their perspective or "shoes". For example, the AIM status message thing: you could try imagining yourself in your friend's position. **She saw your status message and thought that it was cool, but she didn't want to full-out copy you, so she mixed up the words and such. She at least tried.
**This is an assumption, I don't know what she was actually thinking!!!!!
You can also talk (without getting angry!!!!!) to your friend, but that will probably lead to an argument and make things worse.
In reality, this is a silly thing to be annoyed by, but I know how it feels. More importantly, this is a silly thing to ruin a friendship over. Don't push this little thing, O.K.? Aren't friendships more important than your pride?
I hope I helped!!
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