hey. im kayla and im 17 years old from a small town in new jersey. ive been through a lot and i love to help people aw well as get advice from others. let me know if you have any questionss.
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I have a friend who's been annoying me lately. I really hate to say it but I think she's fake, and a poser. (though I really hate that I think that) She's my best friend though. I just can't take it!! She copies me A LOT. She copies what I do, my style, my likes, what I say... It's really annoying and makes me want to say "think of your own freakin ideas!!!!" and give her a piece of my mind! She KNOWS I hate copycatters but I think she thinks that I don't mind, or that she's "not copying" me. I'm just myself, and when she tries to do something I do, it comes off as fake. To me at least. I really like being unique, different, and my own person, but it's hard to do that if she's JUST LIKE ME. She's changed though... Like on aim, I put my status message as "ca-call me, so I can make it juicy for ya!" A quote from one of Lil Wayne's songs. Then later, my friend put "Ayyy-bayy bayy! :]" or something like that. .__. I would do something like that (cause I'd wanna get back at her), but she might think I'M copying HER. Then she'd try to be better than me. I actually do have an away message like that, but didn't get the idea from anyone else. She's not even like "that" at all. I really don't mean to be rude. :[ but how can I get over this? I don't wanna be annoyed everytime she does something... It drives me crazy! Whenever I think of something kewl, it discourages me to share it with people because in the back of my head I'm thinking "uh oh what if so and so copies me and gets all the credit for it?" Sorry. I have a problem with copycatters. I just feel like she's stealing MY identity. It feels like a "competition" and I hate it. She makes it like that though. How can I not get annoyed and stop thinking about all the negative things? I want to think positive things and be happy. (I'm annoying myself cause I feel like I'm caring about something so stupid.) Sorry if this is long. D; (link)
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i understand just what you mean about her seeming to not have any ideas of her own. one of my old best friends used to be just like that. evenatually i just said to her that it seems like she never has any of her own ideas. i eventually just got tired of it and stopped hanging out with her all the time. shes definatly not one of my best friends anymore, but im a lot happier. we hang out rarely, but when we do, she does seem to have her own mind now. i dont really know what to tlel you besides the fact that you are not alone and you should always speak your mind. your complaining about your friend being fake, yet your saying shes your best friend though you cant stand the things that she does..
good luck with your situation, hope everything turns out well.
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ohk well im 13 and colombian (spic) woot woot yeah i know lol. anyways my mom and my dad asked me what i want to have a sweet 15 or a sweet 16.. its kinda early but they wanna start saving up since they wanna have my party at the hilton ... but the thing is that most if my friends that im going to invite are white or black and like 6 are spanish ... and i think that they will enjoy a sweet 16 better , but i mean its a tradition for a spanish girl to have a sweet 15 ? im confused help me out (link)
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Do whatever YOU want. Don't worry about what your friends think, as long as their at a party, im sure theyll have a great time. Most of your friends will probably have a sweet 16 so you could be a little different and have a sweet 15. Its keeping the tradition which im sure your family will be happy about too. You really shouldn't let what your friends would think influence what you want to do for you "sweet" party. Good luck and have fun with whatever you decide!
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i really cant dicide should i wear :
1. a green skirt and a white shirt with a green butterfly on it
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2. a denim skirt with a baby-tee thats black with pink writing on it and it says if found plz return to the nearest beach
i just dont knoe what too wear to school tomarow... yeh i rate 5's fer good answers jst put outfit 2 er outfit 2
thancks (link)
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They both sound really nice. I'd prolly wear the denim skirt with the baby-tee cuz black and pink are really sexy and that saying is awesome! Hope I helped!
-Good Luck!
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Okay so I met this guy (we are both 16) and we hit it off. spent like 10 hours together he was totally flirting holding hands cuddling and he would just stare at me and would always sit next to me and he tried to kiss me and such.. (it was a church retreat. We were helpers lol for the little kids) so at the end of the night when its time to leave he just left no good bye and didn’t ask for a number or anything! what does that mean? What happened? (link)
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To me, it seems like he does like you. There could have been a million reasons why he didn't say goodbye, but it was kind of rude. Was his mom picking him up and won't allow him to have a girlfriend? Did he feel awkward and embarrased? Could he not find you when he was leaving? I wouldn't get my hopes up TOO high, but there's definately SOMETHING there. Maybe you'll run into him again at church and you two could like, hang out some time. Good Luck, Hope I Helped!!
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ok so this girls mom i know just died and my mom told me to go up to her and say something but im not sure what to say. someone please help me (link)
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Losing a family member is really hard, i just lost my grandpa yesterday. Just go up to her and be like, im sorry about your mom and give her a hug. Anything will help, trust me. It helps me when someone just smiles at me, it makes me feel like i will get through this and everythings going to be okay.
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ok well, i live in PA, and i was in new jeresy at six flags today. Anyway well i was on medusa and this kid kept staring at me while we were waiting in line. Then when we got off, my friend went the other way and i felt really sick. So i went over to a tree and dropped my stuffed animal i bought and started throwing up. So he came over even though i didnt know him and put his hand on my back and he was help my hair back and picked up my animal..and then when i was done i looked up at him and he was smiling at me. I said sorry, but its like, it's okay come here, and he took me over to where him and his friends were standing, and he sent his friend to go buy me something to settle my stomach.. then after thati left and eventually i was in line for nitro and him and his friends were like 5 people behind me and he came up and put his hand on my shoulder and he was like, are you gonna be able to handle this one? Then when we got off i was walking down the stairs and i was like stumbling and hes like, you okay there drunky? and we started laughing, and then we split up again and then later we went on this ride that sends you over the lake, and i ended up getting broken away from the people i was with and i had to sit with him, and the sun was setting and it was so pretty. But then anyway, we were leaving, and i said bye, and i had left my phone with him because i was afraid i would drop it in the lake, and i opened it and i was flipping through the numbers, and it said tony with a heart next to it and his number. Just wondering, what does this mean? (link)
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Omg that is so cute! I've never heard anything like this before. Well, the heart with his name, means you should definately call him! Its so weird that you two kept running into eachother though. You guys really seem like your meant to be. That was like really sweet of him to hold your hair back when you were throwing up, most boyfriends would like run away. lol I really think that all that happened is a sign. If you don't feel comfortable calling him, you should text your sn to him. You guys really need to keep in touch, he could even be your soul mate!
Good Luck!
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Well lets see where do i start.. My mom and step dad got in a fight yesterday over my step dad not going places with her *like movies,out to eat,work out..* well anyways after a couple hours of all this my step dad left to go to work.. so then a little bit later my mom called me down stairs and was like you better end your relationship with your boyfriend soon cause he'll get you to where you dont wanna leave him *he already does* adn then he'll hurt you and he wont want to do anything with you anymore.. well then it turned into a big arguement with me and my mom she never exactly met my boyfriend *we been together almost a year.. and she thinks she knows this boy and thinks he's a complete asshole like my step dad is to her.. well anyways i said shit like that to her.. and she said okay whatever you'll see then... Well later on that night i was talkin to my boyfriend and then i started think bout what my mom said * i know i shouldnt let that shit get to me* but it bothered me and i brought it up to my boyfriend and he got mad and i hung up on him... then he texted me and said *baby im so sorry i love you, and that he dont want my mom interfering with our relationship..cause im the only person who he needs in his life cause im always there for him through anything..* Aww isnt it sweet well him and me are cool... but what should i say to my mom so this dont happen again...? (link)
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I understand that your mom doesnt want you to get hurt but you really need to tell her that, its already reached the point that you dont want to leave him and that you would be soo miserable without him. Your boyfriend does seem like a really sweet guy. If your close ENOUGH with your step dad try talking to him about why he wont go out with your mom. Tell him taht it really upsets the both of you and that its makes her not feel as close to him. Make him give you a reason why he wont go out with her, even though i cant think of ONE. Good Luck.. hope i helped!
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ok well my acne is getin pretty bad an i was wondering if any1 knew some good products out there..one's that aren't too expensive please let me know.. (link)
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Hey.. my acne can get pretty bad at times too. I found that neutrogena oil free acne wash works pretty good. You should use neutrogena rapid clear acne eliminating spot gel after that though. Just put it on the spots taht you break out most, and have pimples already. If you put it where you don't need it your skin may dry out a little but it really does work great adn im very happy with it. Good luck! Hope i helped!
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Hey, um, I used to go out with this dude and like we loved each other a lot. When we broke up it hurt like shit loads and like I still love him. But I hide it from all my friends and everything. I still have dreams about him and I can't stop thinking about him. Like long story short, I still love him like a lot. I've told many people that I have gotten over him and that I love someone else and whatever. But truth is I haven't. How can like how can I forget about him and just move yet like just be friends with him. Because everytime I try to get over him, but like the next time I see him I fall for him again. How can I just look at him as a friend rather than as a boyfriend or as a crush? How can I move on?
Signed, Troubled Child (link)
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First off.. dont lie to people about how you feel.. your just lying to yourself! Let your emotions out and try talking to him about it.. weather its in person.. on the fone.. or online! Mayb hes feeling the same way and jsut doesnt know how to say it. Just tell him taht you think you still love him. If it turns out taht he doesnt feel the same way =[.. try as much as it hurts to just MOVE ON! Good luck! xox
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Ok there is this girl that i have been best friends with for about two years. we arn't as close anymore because of fights. but ever since i met her i like, loved her. i cant get her out of my head. although im young (13) i know this isn't immature love. everyone seems to think im crazy because no matter how many times she breaks me, i still love her. i have been with her before, but... im not over it. i miss her so much. but the thing is, now, whenever im somewhere and she comes along. i wish she never came and just went home. but yet, i still feel the same way about her. and im not sure what i want completly. at the time, the thing is that i dont know how to get her out of my head. im starting to really lose consentration. im doing worse in school and im always sad. if anyone can please help me. i know its hard since i cant really ask a direct question... but try. i really miss her.. (link)
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Hey.. I think the only way to stop this is to talk to her. It may be tough adn if you cant do it in person.. try iming her or sending her an email. You sound like you really love her and the only way that she'll find out about that is if you talk to her. Good Luck and hopefully she'll realize that she loves you too! If you guys do get back together.. whenever you fight.. just try talking about it cuz it helps me. If you dont.. dont woryr about it you really have to just try and be happy and see other people. You cant let one girl get you taht upset! Hope i helped..
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okay well i like this guy and he says that he would go out with me next year because we're both going to be in highschool together but he said that now he has to think about it...it's been about a month and he's always been flirting and talkin to me but i don't know if i should wait around anymore...should i wait for him to make up his mind or just move on? (link)
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You should move on for now and see who else is out there. If your still single next year.. and he still wants to go out.. give it a shot. He cant just expect you to wait around for a year.. If i were you i would definately see other people for now.. who knows who you may run into within the next year. Good Luck!
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Do you still love me? Seriously? I love you more than anything, and I'm sorry for joking around so much. (link)
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Of course i still love you! I love you more than anything too it just annoys me sometimes when u lie to me. Dont ever think i dont love you!! xoxoxo
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Hello Kayla, can you help me?
I'm in love with a guy whom I think likes me to. Only problem is, I've never met/seen him before. I've talked to him on the phone and online, a lot. But never in person. I've never even seen his picture so I don't know what he looks like either. The only thing I do know is that I'm confused,and in love with a guy that i don't know. I have no clue what to do. Please help me!!
Truely Yours,
Confused One (link)
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Hey... you sound like one of my best friends Erin lol. Well... what i think you need to do is just keep your relationship as friends. You cant be in love with someone that youve never met. Love is something that you feel for a person when your with them, or hear their voice. You really cant just live your life being in love wiht the computer.. its kind of odd but you can still be the best of friends with this guy. If you do meet one day and still feel the same way as you think you do now.. then thats a different storey but for now.. You never know.. he could be a 54 year old woman! Hope i helped!! xoxo Good Luck!
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my cat constantly follows me and everytime i sit down she comes to sit on top of me.. i will get up andmove somewhere else but she still sits on me.. i push her away but 2 minutes later she comes up again.. i know its cute and everything but it just really annoys me sometimes.. does anyone elses cats do this.. how do you get them to stop
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My cats do the same thing and it can get annoying after a while. I know this may sound weird.. but it works for me lol. Just be like to your cat "I love you but i really need to do this.. PLEASE just leave me alone for a little bit" You may think that cats dont understand but if you say it and then push her off.. shell eventually realize that you dont want her by u at the moment.. works with my cats (believe it or not)
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I have a friend who i've known for about a year now and we both get on really well. I've always felt realy jealous when she gets a boyfriend, and, sometimes subconsciously get mad at her when either she doesnt pay enough attention to me or when she does stuff with a guy in front of me. At first when we met we were only friends and our friendship revolved around drugs, she wanted them and i got them. I recently realized that i am in love with her. She evokes feelings in me that i cant explain any other way. Ive always loved her but being in love would explain a lot to me. She loves me (she's not in love, essential difference, only friendship to her) and i know she isnt a nasty person. Shes been seeing a complete jerk of a guy 3 times in a row now. I hate him and she knows it hurts me to see them together and yet she still does. He has broken up with her and cheated on her before yet she keeps going back. This girl is an amazing friend but i want her to be more, she's special. But i cant tell her how i feel. And everytime i insult her because of her boyfriend or anything i cant help but feel like im just mad at her for not being in love with me. I dont know what to do can someone help? Right now im not talking to her because shes going out with the idiot again and wont listen to my opinions on him. Am i being stupid? (link)
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Okay first of all... get off the drugs.. ok now with the girl.. just tell her how u feel and that you only dont want her to be with those jerks because.. you care about her. If she doesnt feel the same way :( dont let that ruin your friendship. You really do sound like you love her and hopefully shell feel the same way about you. Good luck!!
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One of my best friends just told me that she liked me today. She asked me if i had any feelings about it and i said not yet. The problem is that i don't really know if i like her as more than a friend. I used to like her like about a month ago, but i stopped. This may not make any sense but i want to like her as more than a friend because she is one of the nicest people i know, but i just don't think i see her that way. Is that possible? I don't want to hurt her and tell her that i'm not interested but i don't want to go out with her either. What should i do? (link)
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Dont just pretend to like her because you think shes nice. You have to be truthful to her.. and youself! Tell her that you think shes a great person and that you still want to be best friends but you just dont feel the chemistry between you two. Who knows.. maybe your feelings for her will change.. but for now.. just stay good friends.
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Hey, Okay I really want a boyfriend.. I mean I know how to flirt and stuph... but uhh is there any other ways to like get a guy? (link)
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I know that a lot of girls just want "a boyfriend" but you really cant think like that. Ive always kind of wanted a boyfriend but then when i met this one kid (weve been goin out for 8 months) i knew that he was the one. You cant just settle for any guys just to have A boyfriend. Just be PATIENT and the right one will come along.
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okay, for all you iditos who anwser questions with rude anwsers..go away now..because you arent wanted..
this one i would probaly like a girl to anwser..but hey, i dont care
okay, im 6th grade(girl of course)..corny but hey, and i like this guy..everyone says that we would look really good together, and i know him well. this is my 3rd year of being in the same class as him, we hang out together sometimes, and we basically sit next to eachother. well, his gf just broke up with him, althogh it wasnt a real relashonship..they never really liked eachother..well, i don't know if he likes me or not..we get along great and all..and well, i really want him to ask me out! he is so nice and funny, caring also..i always said that i would never have a bf until like 7th or 8th grade..cuz the relashonships are never real..but how can i clue him to like ask me out? or how can i get clues as to if he likes me or not? i really need help on this one..sorry for the length
signed..
need help!
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hey.. i know exactly where your coming from.. When i started likeing this kid (who ive been with for 8 months now) i really didnt know what to do. Id ask everyone what i should say when one of my best friends just asked him if he liked me. He said kinda and she asked him like every day! one day when he said he liked me a little more.. she told him how i felt. Pretty soon after that he asked me out and not only are we best friends.. i think were in love! Id suggest asking one of you BEST FRIENDS to tell him how you feel and then.. u never know.. you could be together for years.
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Alright, so. Here I am agian,15 Adrianna Rose Brugnoni lost agian. Ok so heres the deal, I am like once agian inlove with this my best friend Kurt. We previously dated for seven months. But after a while he made me really annoyed and started acting so stupid. And in between him and our maybe next relationship I dated John. Who I really enjoyed dating but, he ended up being a little bit too clingy and after only two months he told me he was inlove with me. After we broke ( Its been 3 months) he still says hes inlove with me and everytime he sees me with someone else he gets very jelous and very hurt. So back to kurt, I really really want to date him agian, but the problem is not only will John be completely depressed, but my mom really doesnt like him. And to me Kurt is amazingly good looking, but too my mom she thinks he looks weird, and im afriad that so would my family too. So please help me out. What should I do???
Thank you sooo much. Adi (link)
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No one can tell you who to love. I understand that John may still love you.. but how can he be in love if you not with him? If he really does care for you hell understand. Now with your mom.. try talking to her about why she doesnt like him and who cares what he looks like!??!? you guys cant be that shallow! Good luck and just make ur mom realize that if he makes you happy.. what can he be doing wrong?
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I've always felt that there was no need to be in a relationship at my age(14) but i was just asked out and i think i have fallen in love. but my mother tells me there is no way you can fall in love so young. do you think its possible to fall in love at such a young age? if you dont think so what do you think i should do, i dont want to dump him or anything, but i dont want to waste my time and energy
if there is no point to our relationship. (link)
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I think you can be in love at any age! Your mom probably just doesnt want you to get hurt and you cant blame her for that.. just follow your heart and if he really is THE ONE then he wont hurt u.. good luck and remember.. you may be in love.. or you may not but dont let anyone decide taht but YOU!
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