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Okay so I met this guy (we are both 16) and we hit it off. spent like 10 hours together he was totally flirting holding hands cuddling and he would just stare at me and would always sit next to me and he tried to kiss me and such.. (it was a church retreat. We were helpers lol for the little kids) so at the end of the night when its time to leave he just left no good bye and didn’t ask for a number or anything! what does that mean? What happened?
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the only thing i can say is he may have acted like he was in to you because he wanted to get some sugar lol. but just ask him whats up and see what he says. or maybe he doesnt feel like you are into him or he just doesnt like you.
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It means he's a guy.
You were there, I wasn't.
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To me, it seems like he does like you. There could have been a million reasons why he didn't say goodbye, but it was kind of rude. Was his mom picking him up and won't allow him to have a girlfriend? Did he feel awkward and embarrased? Could he not find you when he was leaving? I wouldn't get my hopes up TOO high, but there's definately SOMETHING there. Maybe you'll run into him again at church and you two could like, hang out some time. Good Luck, Hope I Helped!! <3
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It could mean a lot of different things, but here are the two most likely:
1. You were both together helping kids, so there probably weren't a ton of girls around. He could be a player type of boy that would act this way with girls.
2. He could really like you, but felt too shy to put it into words.
I guess it's up to you to figure out which of these options feels the most true, and then decide what you want to do about it. If you think the second choice is more realistic and genuinely believeable, then you could take the step to get in touch with him.
You're both members of the same church (or I assume) if you were both at the same retreat. Talk to him after services one day, see if he's in the youth group, or ask a mutual friend for his phone number, screenname, or email address.
Whatever happens, or doesn't happen, I wish you the very best.
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Aww, Thats really mean!! I think that he was scared to fall in love with you. Maybe he had a realtionship that ended very bad and he was in love and got hurt. But don't worry because if he doesnt want you there is more than enough of guys who will!! Don't worry about him. And if you see him at the next retreat then dont talk to him let him talk to you. Again, don't worry.
Kristen**~
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Guys are weird, I had the same thing happen to me. I know how you feel, confused and unsure and you think you did something wrong, right? If not, thats ok. Um...he could have just been like...using you, I want to say, but thats not the word i want to use, but its close. Maybe hes even afraid of commitment, like I am. Its ok to be mad about it, but don't be entirely upset with him, perhaps he was scared, not by you, but of a relationship, most 16 year old guys are...or 17...but this isn't about me. I think maybe this guy really did like you though. Its nothing you did wrong, its just that teenage boys are frightfully weird, in most cases. Don't dwell on it too much. If it was meant to be, you guys will meet up again and hit things off, if not...then *shrugs shoulders* theres someone out there for you.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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well i dont think you did anything wrong at all! he put the moves on you and you went along with it which is totally normal. i think maybe that he just might have had a little crush on you while you were both there and you two could have been just caught up in the moment. i wouldnt take it very personally because lets face it...most guys arent very bright and sometimes dont think to be like "hey i like this girl...maybe i should guve her some way to contact me" lol..no offense to guys but its true! so what i would do is find out somebody who knows him...get HIS contact info and then maybe give him a call or something. and if you cant do that...then just think of this as a boy who you met at church retreat who made the trip a little more enjoyable! let me know if ya need anything else hun!
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Well, it might mean he was shy about asking you for your number and afraid to get rejected. Don't blame yourself though, because none of it was your fault, it was all his. If he doesn't plan to talk to you again or whatever, it's his loss. If you see him again, casually ask what's up and see how it goes from there. If you know you're not going to see him again, don't waste your time! You're young and you'll meet better guys hun. hope i helped xo good luck
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Well, I'm going to try to cover several possible scenarios, because there are many things that could be happening.
Is there going to be another church retreat? Are you going to see him at church? If so, he may just think he's going to see you next week. He also may have thought it was inappropriate to ask your number seeing as you two just met that day.
It's possible you could have said something that would make him think you're not interested in him. Also, for most guys, unless you flat out say you like them, they'll never understand. My guy friends can't stress this enough.
Last time I brought a guy friend my problem his advice was "Aah. We guys are dumb. I know because I am one. You have to tell him. OH! OH! Even better, draw him a picture. With a cave. And write that you like him on it. And make it shiny. Yeah. That'll get the point across!" So if you didn't get your point across, that could of been his reasons for just leaving as well.
You mentioned he tried to kiss you? What happened? Did you reject the kiss or somehow stop him? If you did, that probably would have made him think you had no intentions of being more than friends and he could of felt hurt by that. He may be sensitive. It's also possible he could have been distracted and forgot to ask. He could be at home kicking himself for forgetting to ask your number this very moment.
The only other thing is that maybe he's just a flirt. We refer to this type as the lady's man. They flirt with one girl, then move on to the next. In extreme cases, they flirt with several girls in one day, and around "miss yesterday"! Hoping that's not the case, because I'm sick of all guys like that, haha.
Well. I hope I was able to help. If you have any thing else to ask, or have more details to add, let me know!
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uMmM..i hate to say this, but i think that it was just a *fling*.. he's a 16 year old boy! i bet he was attracted to you, and ya'll probably had a connection.. but if he didn't even have the decency to say good bye, or ask for your number or make ANY effort at all, then he's probably not worth your time sweety.
hope i helped! lovelove- aLeX
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It could mean a variety of different things. I had something of the sort happen to me (except it was at a family reunion, and it was with my cousin's best friend)... well, in my case, the guy ended up asking me out 2 weeks later... but he got my phone number and stuff from my cousin a couple days after we met. (He was apparently afraid to ask me for my phone number....)
I can't really say what happened.. you said he left without a goodbye, which makes it sound like he was in a hurry to get somewhere...
If this guy really wants to get back in contact with you, he'll at least try. If not, well... he's probably just not that interested. Some guys are just jerks, and unfortunately, we have to live with that. Is there another retreat coming up anytime soon? If so, go to it. And maybe you could ask for his number this time...
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well most likely when you didnt let him kiss you he figured you werent wortht he trouble, sorry but thats the best conclusion i can draw with the limited info.
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He is definitly sending a message with hid good bye behavior. You see, we have no choice but to judge people by their behavior. And while during the day he acted like he liked you a lot, and you guys seemed to connect. Why wouldn't he ask you for contact information so that you could stay in touch with each other. And your thinking, did he forget, was he unable to, was he prevented from seeking me out and is he regretting it, and kicking himself for not trying harder? I know you can drive yourself crazy asking yourself these questions. I know, I did it too, for many years, Then I decided to look at the guys total behavior. Because any guy will do all he can to get close to someone one "for the moment" or "for the day" or "for the night" ONe night stands! Do you know what they are. Well you just experienced a very short version of one. And since you were both young, and there were so many people around, the two of you did not end up in bed. So I am sure that you would be so much more upset if that had happened. Trouble is, we girls take boys at face value, we think because they act affectionate, that they like us, and want to be close to us because we are "special". In reality, boys (and men) know that if they act very affectionate, they have a good chance of getting lucky. Even at a young age, a few kisses and hugs and holding hands is getting lucky. Honey this behavior on the part of men/boys has not changed in thousands and thousands of years. Girls get their hearts broken all the time. And it is sad.
My take on his behavior is that most likely he has a girlfriend back home and was hoping to get some affection from you that day, and that was all. Please don't feel like there is anything wrong with you. He is the one with the problem. Going forward, be careful. Play hard to get. Again, like I said, things have not changed. As much as boys/men try to get into a girls pants and get out with no obligations and without looking back. Some day they are going to fall in love, (and most likely it won't be at 16) and the woman they fall in love with is going to be the one who didn't give in an inch until she was ready and usually when she is sure beyond the shadow of a doubt by the boy/man's behavior, that he has something in mind more than just sex. But a long term relationship.
I know that early on during the day, that is what was on your mind. WOw, you finaly found someone one you can relate to, you were hoping for a long term realtionship. If it were up to you, you certainly would have made a point of saying goodbye and asking if you could stay in touch. He could have done that if he wanted to, and if he also was thinking of a long term relationship with you. So bottom line, ...he acted nice, but he is not a nice guy.
If you see him again, at another church event, He will be expecting you to be mad. Best thing you can do is say HI, bright and cheery, and act like you don't care, and that the day didn't mean anything to you either. It will drive him nuts.
Sorry this is sooooo long, But I wanted to give you some advice you could use for many years. I do feel bad for you, so be careful, because it can get worse if you are not careful. Listen to your intuition. It will tell you. If it doesn't seem right, then most likely it is not. You deserve better than that. You are a nice kid to be going to church events and working with little kids. Keep it up. You are going to be fine.
MIchele
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ok since he never asked for your number or anything he isnt planning on seeing you again so for him it just a little fun so he led you on just forget him :) hope it helps
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Im not really sure what that means but he really likes you. Maybe he was in a hurry or something. Im not really sure but Im sure you will see him again and he will ask you for your number. He probally forgot. I know that he likes you! You both spent 10 hours together! Wow! But dont worry about it you guys will meet again! If he doesnt ask for your number ask him for his. x0`
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