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Oh, don't worry, he totally likes you. In fact, he likes you so much that he's going to propose to you (even if you're only thirteen) and you guys are going to get married, and live together happily ever after forever and always and have ten children in the country with the best jobs ever until you die at an old age together in your sleep!If you know that's not how life works, and you want some real advice, you have my undivided attention. Ask me anything, and I'll try and figure it out for you (unless it has anything to do with geometry).
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I cheated on my boyfriend, Trey about a week ago. I am absolutley in love with him but we got into a huge argument and he said some really mean things so I went off and hooked up with this one kid that he totally HATES just to make him mad. Well, he didn't end up finding out and the night before last he called me and apologized and sent me a totally sweet email, and so I felt like I had to tell him the truth so I did and he started crying and then I started crying and I felt soooo bad.
the email said..
"You know that feeling you get when you’re about to do something like go on a big roller coaster and you’re scared out of your mind because its so high up but yet you still can’t wait? Or when you’re on an airplane and you’re going to see someone you haven’t seen in a really long time and you’re about to land and you absolutely can’t wait and you’re so happy and you feel like you could just fly, like if you fell out of the airplane right then it wouldn’t matter because you could do anything… that’s how I feel when I talk to you. Its like, nothing bad could ever happen as long as I’m talking to you and even though we fight constantly I’d rather be arguing with you then doing anything with anyone else. I’m so sorry for what I said and I’d be lost without you." yeah so basically i'm in love with him and I feel like shit for making him upset. He said he forgave me and that he loves me no matter what and I believe him but I still feel absolutley terrible for it and I want to find some way to make it up to him. Does anybody have any ideas???
Well, if you want to make it up to him, you should probably break up with him for HIS sake. Just because you get into a fight does not give you the right to have a spiteful hook up.
But just because you're in an arguement does not give him the right to say whatever he did to make you want to spite him. Correct this, and your morals.
You're probably just going to ignore that whole part, or give me a 1, so I'll go in a different direction:
Be as nice and sweet to him as you can.
when me and my boyfriend are on the phone we can never think of anything to talk about. can anyone give me some things that would start a conversation with me and him? thank you ill rate and comment
I make my boyfriend take a bunch of random quizzes on quizilla when we're on the phone. It's genious, because I get to find out more about him, without actually prying.
If that doesn't work, there's always random things, such as chinese food, Motion City Soundtrack and the materialism of the mainstream American populace.
kay me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months now..we have been talking about gettin a place of our own and really settle down with eachother..the thing is he wants me to be more AGGRESSIVE but i dont know how because im a soft person that gets hurt very easily and i am a big baby..he also wants me to WOMAN up but i dont know how or what he means by that...and i need help on how i can do these things so we can work out and last..so if u could please help me out..were together everyday..stay at eachothers houses..in love..families want us to be together..just this little bump keeping us alittle apart..ill rate high!
A relationship is about compromise. He wants you to woman up- I say, you try and do it. The stronger you are, the better.
I also say that you express your concern over something you hate that he is. That is the beauty of compromise. You never actually lose AND you can get a better man out of it.
I don't care that you didn't ask for advice on this, I'm going to give it to you anyway:
Four months? I'm going to have to say wait a bit before you move in- it's way too drastic. You have your whole life ahead of you- give love time. Give yourself time to do what you want because when you live with someone, I warn you, they change.
Hi, heres my love story... Theres this girl I really like but I just can't seem to make the first move. I don't have any friends and would like to get to know her alot. I just don't know when to approach her or what to say. The only time I see her is on the school bus. Of coarse theres loads of her friends and people on the bus. What good advice can you give me. I would like it from both girls and boys, but mainly girls. Thanks.
She's on your bus. Sit next to her- talk about something casual, or her 'flirting prop'.
Most girls will have these. They include the following examples- band/graphic t-shirts, pins.. basically ANYTHING that lets you know she's interested in something.
Or if you can't discern any, just ask her if she had *random teacher*, and if she understands the homework. Get to know her a bit more, then you can make a move- anything cute and sappy will do. If you can't think of anything, just watch a hollywood romance movie, and rip off that idea.
i've liked this guy for 2 months.. a few weeks ago, i found out that one of my best friends likes him again [ they went out in the beginning of the year ]... he likes her. this girl always gets who she wants, and i don't know why, she dumps everyone she goes out with after she gets bored with them. i really like this guy but he likes her. is there anything i can do to make him see me and not her?
Are you sure you're her bestfriend? Because you're not really acting like it.
He likes her. She likes him. Stand back until they decide it's over (again). Especially since she is your best friend!
The best thing you can do is be there for her, and keep your mouth shut. You can be there for him too, just make sure it's in a non-romantic way. Even if she gets bored of her boyfriends quickly.
To look at the sunshine for a second- if she gets bored of her boyfriends, then chances are she'll get bored of this one. And then you can have him.
What should i do if my girlfriend say that she wants to do something with me and then one of her so called friends askes her to do something like a hour before we were supposed to do something together?
That sucks.
Continuing... I would say it depends on how it makes you feel, but obviously it's bothering you a lot if you posted a question about it.
To make sure it doesn't happen again, call up your girlfriend and confront her. She made plans with you first- not her friend... if it does happen again.... ditch her, and go hang out with your friends.
In 1 week, im going to a semi formal dance, and im bringing my best friend as my date. So I known the talking and stuff wont be awkward. Hes never had a gf and ive never had a bf, we're both in 9th grade. I go to an all girls school, he goes to an all boys school. Heres the thing-He wants to be a priest .. so hes not big on the whole dating thing, even though it seems like he likes me. The problem is, slow dancing. Hes not gonna wanna slow dance with me and i wanna dance with him, all my friends r gonna be slow dancing with there dates. Do ya think he will dance with me when he sees everyone else doing it. I DONT wanna ask him, cus then i'll feel guilty about making him do something he doesnt wanna do. HELP ME !!!
If he's planning on becoming a priest... I wouldn't bet on him doing anything with you...
As his best friend, you want him to be happy and follow his dreams, right? As his best friend, sometimes you're just going to have to put him before yourself.
And it's going to be difficult, because you obviously want to dance with him very badly... but, it could make him feel guilty later on. So unless he ends up asking you to dance, I wouldn't do anything.
hey iam sally 15yrs iam just confused about this what should i do to keep a longlife relationship.is it tru that showing him that ur not intrested much makes him get closer and want u more??? thanks anyway
Four years, and seven months... and from my own experience in a relationship, we're entirely based on communication. He calls me everyday, and we talk for at least an hour. We know everything (I mean seriously, everything- I know he weighed 7 lbs and 2 oz, at birth) about each other.
Pushing him away will make him nervous around you, and just make you seem distant and cold.
Okay, so I broke up with a guy about three months ago. The breakup went prettu well, considering, and we talked a couple of days after it, but once, we ended up fighting and he really upset me. Some things he wrote in a journal, or said, or whatever, kinda scared me.
Everyone I talked to told me to give him three months or so away from me, not to contact him for awhile, but I see him on line every so often and I want to talk to him. I'm friends with all of my exes, and I want to keep that up. I liked him as a person, not just as a boyfriend.
The thing is, he was really kind of heartbroken. I don't want to hurt him again, but I want to talk to him. I want to see if he's okay, I guess. I don't even really have anything to say to him.
Also, like a week after we broke up, he asked me if I had a boyfriend (I didn't then, but now I do), and I have a feeling he'd ask again, and I don't want to tell him, but I don't want to lie either. That's not really my question, though.
I guess I want to know what do you think I should do.
Should I go with my impulses and talk to him even though I don't really have anything to say? Or should I wait 'til he contacts me? His aim is to forget "we" ever happened, so if I do that, he won't.
Proper spelling and grammar is appreciated, thanks.
I guess it all depends- were you in a serious relationship with this guy, or not?
If it was really serious, I probably wouldn't contact him- it's just putting salt in his wounds, which is cruel. Let him contact you.
If it's been over one month, and it was a not so serious relationship, you could contact him, sure. To me, it sounds like you're just trying to create drama, and make your ex jealous.
I mean, it's nice, to want to be friends with your ex and everything.. but if they're heartbroken, you should probably do everything you can to help them get over you. As in, stay out of thier lives, leave them alone, and not talk to them.
EDIT- I obviously would do that to my boyfriend, who I've been with for four years and seven months now, when we're getting engaged next year... I'm talking from my friend's experience. Sometimes, it's like you subconciously want your ex back... and that's more what it sounds like, then trying to create drama (though that is a common result). Don't take it so personally, just telling you how it sounds.
my boyfriend told me he has a
crush on another girl,
and i don't know what to do.
he says he loves me and wants to be with me,
and that he just wanted to be honest with me.
but now i feel as though i'm going
to be paranoid all the time.
i dont like feeling like this;
but i can't leave him.
i love him too much..
and today he spent all morning with me,
telling me how he doesnt want this to
interfear with our relationship.
he said it was weighing him down
and that he needed to get it off his chest;
but now that it's off of HIS.
it's not been put onto MINE.
what should i do?
-L
He was honest, which is a good quality... in a friend. Which is why you should keep him... as a friend.
Sometimes, you're just going to have to let him miss you, so he can realize how much he really does love you. And if he doesn't come to the conclusion you obviously want him to... he's missing out, and that's his problem.
It's tough, and it hurts, and I'm sorry (which is why I'm being nice). But I really think you need to break up with him, and maybe try dating someone else? Just to let him know how it feels..
Live the cliche- If you have something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours; if not, it was never really yours at all.
well, I like this kid in my chorus class. He found out I like him because he could "tell" but I have to play juliet and he's romeo and I dont know how to act around him anymore he's acting like nothing happened which relieved me but I still dont know what to say or do.
Ill rate high
I don't think he's going to do anything about hearing this information, since he's acting like normal (which means he must have known for at least two to three days... right...?), and not really bringing it up.
In your situation, I would just try to forget that he knows anything at all, and act normal. Just like he is. If he brings it up, you can tell him the truth and hope... or you can flat out deny it, if you're too embarassed.
ok so here's the deal. . .i recently broke up with my gf. it just wasn't working out. anyway, now her best friend is after me, and i don't know what i should do. i think it would look really bad, i mean, it's her best friend. i will rate for good answers
13/m
That's some best friend...
Do you want to come between your ex and her 'friend', or wind up with either of them not talking to you? Then I suggest not dating your ex's best friend, unless your ex is okay with it (and not fake okay with it, like some girls are).
Otherwise a lot of un-needed drama will occur. And then you'll come back and ask for more advice. So let's not waste precious time- I say, don't date the best friend. It's pretty much a problem starter.
okay, so i have a boyfriend. and he's so perfect! i mean there's just something oddly attractive about him! he kind of has the care free attitude. he's just. great. but like i dont ever talk to him.. like ever i only have one class with him. and he just doesnt seem like he likes me.. so what should i do to like gain up my courage to acutally talk to him? and get him to like me more?
How do you know he's perfect if you never talk to him?
A good quality in a boyfriend is for him to like you, and want to spend time with you, and probably try to talk to you every once in a while outside of school.
If you want to talk to him, then go up and talk to him, like you would with any friend. Make it casual, and the relationship will grow from there.
Is it okay to be school-oriented...and be scared to have a boyfriend because you don't know whats going to happen in the end. Its like you are in a mix between "I don't know if its going to work out" and "I'm scared it might..." ..? Does anyone get what I'm saying?
No. Your whole life should probably revolve around boys. Or what Jessica Simpson was wearing last Tuesday at that huge formal dinner party in Le Pierre's on 22nd Street. (that was sarcastic...)
Now the whole too chicken to risk having a boyfriend thing IS a problem. If you don't take a risk, you'll never get what you want. Think Stock Markets. You invest in a stock, and if it goes up, you make money, hooray! If it goes down, then too bad, you withdrawl, and get another stock.
If you find a guy you like, you should definently try to date him. Every life experience changes you, so don't get too involved in school work- you've got to take chances as they come... otherwise you'll look back, and regret it.
My bf moved to another state for a job. We were still together when he left. He hasnt contacted me in 5 months, and I'm so tired of waiting around for him. I think he's been completely selfish not contacting me. I've finally come to the heartbreaking realization that it's over.
My question is how can I get over him so I can move on with my life? Everyone tells me I'm a pretty girl and can find another bf very easily.
The problem is I would feel really guilty if I started dating someone without letting my bf know. I need some sort of closure, but I have no way of contacting him because he shut off his cell and everytime I email him they get returned. Does anyone have any ideas?
So basically this guy has disappeared off the face off the face of the earth. I hate to say it, but this is your closure.
If you contact him now, what will it do for you? It will be awkward, embarassing, and probably depressing. He let you know it was over when he didn't make some effort to get in contact with you. He's the one who moved. He knows your phone number, your e-mail address... don't waste more time on someone who obviously doesn't care that much about you.
I wouldn't feel guilty about dating again. It's the best thing you can do in a situation like this... it wasn't meant to be with this guy, but there's always more than one out there. Get busy, involved in work or school (if you're in college or highschool or whatever)- do anything and everything to stop thinking about him. You will eventually, but this just moves it along faster.
ok so a week ago my boyfreind dumped me and this other liked me and i started likeing him this week and this other girl is rlly jealous of me so she says ya were goin to go out and im like ok and it turns out that he liked her a littel. so then i said to him like i know u like this girl and u guyz r goin to go out and hes like wat no were not and im like but thats wat she told me. and then this girl spazzes at me for tellin him and im like i didnt know she never told me not to tell him. and then i told this guy to ask her out cause she is like madly in love with him so no there goin out and they dont act like bf and gf and he likes me better cause she is a total bitch. what should i do??
I think you should stop creating drama for yourself.
I mean, seriously, the whole I'm going to give him up for you thing is nice... but relationships aren't about being nice. They're about being honest with yourself, and your significant other.
So what exactly are you all trying to do here?
If he doesn't like her, he shouldn't be dating her in the first place. If he likes you, he should've asked you out, instead of leading this other girl on. It may seem like a 'nice' thing to do, but it's really cruel- you're telling someone to pretend they like another girl as much as this girl obviously likes them.
If you want the guy to yourself, then ask him out. If you want to keep your friends, and not be talked about behind your back as a boyfriend stealer, tell him he shouldn't be dating her, wait a significant good time after the break up until she's okay, then ask him out.
OK i think this guy that I have been bffs with forever likes me. I wicked like him too. Only problem is, i could be wrong cus like, im fat. Hes cute too. I guess my question is .. does weight matter to everyone. And im a really big tomboy, i dont wear cute preppy clothes like all of my friends because i dont like things w/ a tight fit, im like a DD. Just please help !
To give you a bit of confidence... think of it this way. Girls like Paris Hilton (anorexic) are pretty much guys with no penis (AKA- sticks). And who seriously wants to have sex with a stick?
Curves kick ass. If you show them off in an appropriate manner, in the right way, you can get whatever you want.
I personally think girls with curves are at an advantage- you get more attention, because hey, every guy likes a girl with a huge chest. Not even kidding.
Anyway, weight doesn't really matter that much at all! If you think about it, the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is going to get old and ugly anyway. It's the personality taht counts, and if your best friend is cool enough to see that, then you'll have yourself a really good boyfriend.
I am not simply advising you, I am commanding you... tell this guy how you feel, before someone else does.
Hey, last night I was talking to my boyfriends' ex that got expelled and went to a different school. I told him i was talking to her and when he asked for her screen name, I gave him the wrong one. Heres why:
In the past, I've been cheated on and i know what it feels like so i didnt want to have to go through it again.
I dont know if he still has feelings for his ex or not.
Did i do the right thing?
Also I noticed today when we both went to a tennis meeting, he ditched me and went and sat with his friend.
I dont know what to do. What would you do?
Thanks!
Unless ditching me becomes a habit, I would probably not freak out and run to advicenators people.
I know. I'm evil.
Anyhow, if you want this relationship to actually work out, you're going to need to get over your trust issues. The guy you're dating now isn't the guy in your past. Realize this, and trust him. Or, test him if you're not sure. Being friends with an ex isn't that big of a deal- there's a reason it didn't work out, and if he's already dating you, then the feelings probably faded.
As for the whole ditching you thing, you have four choices: you could ignore it, talk to him about it, go sit with him the next time he ditches you, or get your own revenge in a creative manner.
Don't ignore it, if it becomes a serious issue.
Okay, so my boyfriend, Reed, and I have been going out for 3 months this tuesday. I know its not that long, but still, i'm in love with him. Before we even started going out, we would always say "I love you" or "your the best". Once he even said to me "I can't live with out you Cici." Well, i do truely love him, with all my heart, but the problem is, i never see him. He goes to a different school, and is 2 years older then me (hes in 10th, I'm in 8th) So he is in high school, im still in junior high, so he is always busy, the last time i was him was over a week ago. WE didn't even get to see each other on valentine's day. Well anyways, I was at the Panic! At The Disco concert with my best friend Lenah, and one of her friends, Way, was said to her "You're friend, Cici, is really gorgeous." So like, him and I were flirting with each other at the concert. Then during Hellogoodbye, he was standing behind me, and was holding my hips, holding me close to him. Then all of the sudden, when i was dancing to P!ATD, i turned around to look for a friend that had gotten lost from me in the mosh pit, and he kissed me. Well we ended up leaving the mosh pit, and made out, outside of the building. And like asked for my number and all and i gave it to him, but like, he hasn't called (which im glad) But i want to tell my boyfriend, but i have no idea how. What can i do and/or say to my boyfriend to tell him and to make it up to him. I didn't want to hurt him. I have never loved him more then i do right now, and I'm shure he feels the same so... Please help
I RATE 5'S FOR GOOD ADVICE.
You feel closer to him, and love him more than ever only because you feel so damn guilty for cheating on him. To let you know.
Don't use the "I never get to see him and I get lonely sometimes.." excuse. It's not going to work. You shouldn't have to see him to stay loyal to him. If you can't commit to the relationship now, then you don't love him. Give me a one. I don't really care. You don't love him.
Now for some advice. Tell him about it face to face, be blunt, be courageous, and show your regret. If you give him some wimpy little note, he's going to be even more pissed off. You should be able to be honest in a relationship, and if you make a mistake, tell him about it. Brace yourself for the consequences.
This weekend has been totally fucked up. I broke up with my boyfriend, but I can't take it. Saturday night I drove to my friends house crying my eyes out and nearly wrecked. I got so fucking wasted it was unbeliveable. I only got 2 hours of sleep that night and it didn't help at all because all I did was cry. I didn't go to school today because I am so depressed. I don't know what to do really because I miss him yet I had my reasons for breaking up with him. At work last night everytime he passed I would cry and eventualy they told me to go step outside for awhile. When I left he took me to my car and I started crying again. He said that he would always love me and he kissed me.Through all my tears I told him that I was so sorry he ever had to meet me. God i seriously don't know what to do and it's eatin me up.... what should i do?
You can't do anything about what you feel, and how deeply you feel it.
But you can not do things, such as: cry, mope, dwell, cry, kiss him...
Just saying. I know I'm being harsh, but suck it up, kid.
Every girl gets dumped by (or leaves for a very good reason) that guy she thought was 'the one'. The guy she thought she'd be spending the rest of her life with, married to, happily ever after forever and ever. Then life steps in and decides to laugh at you, because that is a pretty dumb dream.
When he leaves you, the one thing you'll want to keep is your pride. And if you cry about him.. in front of him.. all the time, you're going to lose that pride.
Continue on with your life, because there's more to it than one guy. Get involved in art, hang out with your friends, do something, anything, to stop crying. Move on.
You obviously love this guy a lot, and he did (said? whatever.) something that really hurt you. Remember that you had a reason you broke up with him- stick by that.