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kay me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months now..we have been talking about gettin a place of our own and really settle down with eachother..the thing is he wants me to be more AGGRESSIVE but i dont know how because im a soft person that gets hurt very easily and i am a big baby..he also wants me to WOMAN up but i dont know how or what he means by that...and i need help on how i can do these things so we can work out and last..so if u could please help me out..were together everyday..stay at eachothers houses..in love..families want us to be together..just this little bump keeping us alittle apart..ill rate high!
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i do think that if he really likes you then he would like you for who you are. Be yourself and if he doesnt like it then you can find someone better that likes you for who you are without any changes.i really think you should think about the whole moving in thing. its only been 4 monthes and i really do think you should give it time and make sure hes really the one you want to be with. i hope i helped!!
sincerly,
katie
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A relationship is about compromise. He wants you to woman up- I say, you try and do it. The stronger you are, the better.
I also say that you express your concern over something you hate that he is. That is the beauty of compromise. You never actually lose AND you can get a better man out of it.
I don't care that you didn't ask for advice on this, I'm going to give it to you anyway:
Four months? I'm going to have to say wait a bit before you move in- it's way too drastic. You have your whole life ahead of you- give love time. Give yourself time to do what you want because when you live with someone, I warn you, they change.
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I think he should accept you the way you are. Just incase wait a few weeks before moving in. If you really want to be aggresive take him out to dinner, you pick the restaurant, even pck up the bill if you want. Hope for the best!
~*Brianna*~
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How old are yall? I am the same way as you, a soft person that gets hurt easily...He shouldn't want that to change about you, to an extent because thats parts of what makes you....well you. Is it possible that you let people walk all over you beacuse of you being so passive & soft hearted...if that's the case then I can see why he might want you to change. Not to sure what he means about tellin you to "woman up" what, get tougher? also, be more aggressive about what? And to what extent do you act like a baby? It's a lil hard to answer your question without having these details... In order for me to give you the best advice, I need more on the situation... Thankies :)
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Hey Hun,
Alright sounds pretty cool moving in with your boyfriend, actually being together not having to worry about parents wanting yall home at a certain time because then yall would always be together correct? Well thing is what exactly is meant by aggressive and women up? In my own mind if a boy says that it would probably be meant as nothing bad just he probably meant this as like your too nice of a person. Idk what exactly he meant it as like too nice of a person to him whitch I doubt that but maybe he see's other people like being rude to you or something an your just really sweet and end up giving into them. Or maybe he is meaning it as in your too sweet to him. And like I know like sometimes with my bf he ends up just randomly arguing haha an im like wayy to sweet an give into him, soo maybe he meant it like that? Idk but just keep doing what your doing I mean he cant change the way you act I know it sounds crazy but just be you an tell him to exsplain what bothers him so you can like figure out what is actually making you need a change in your actions or whatever! Anyway hope I helped!!
-StephAnie-
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