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hey im 13 and ive had many problems thoughout my life and i would like to help you with any of yours. I will try to answer your questions with thought and truthfully. My favorite catogories are love life and friendships. so if you have any questions ask away!

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Ok so there is this boy i REALLY like. Hes cute and funny and very flirty. Well hes in like ALL of my classes and talks/flirts with me alot. He had a GF and he would never talk to her or anything. I always assumed he had her because he just didnt want to be alone. Well anyway, she broke up with him and immediatly got a new bf (in the same day!). Well i wasent at school that day and i think he really wanted to not look like a dork cuz everyone was making such a big deal about it. so the next day i came to school, pretty sick but not enough to stay home, and i found out he had a new GF. Worst of all shes not in ANY of his classes and she just moved here so i have no idea how he knows her! I keep goin back in my head thinking why couldnt i just have gone to school but then i keep thinking, couldnt he have waited ONE day?
well my question is this,
Should i just wait? Should i tell him i like him? or should i just forget about him because if he liked me he woulda waited? i am kinda hurt

Thx in advance

Thats really weird because the exact same thing pretty much just happened to me. fist of all im sorry because i know how much it hurts, well at least i know it hurt me. Anyways, I think you should tell him how you feel about everything, your feelings towards him, and about his new gf. Cuz he probably just wants someone to be with since no guys like to be alone. so tell him that you like him and he might break up with her once he knows u like him for sure. If not, then its your choice to wait for them to break up or not. But some guys just arent worth the wait. && thats a desicion you have to make. I dont want to just tell you to wait, i waited for someone for about 1 year total. i had bfs in between that but i always liked him, But then i realized hes not even worth it.

I hope i helped!

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Me and my boyfriend lets call him Tom have been together for about a week. We really have a good connection. I have hugged him once. And he asked me if he could kiss me twice, but i didn't answer him. I really want to kiss him so badly, but im nervous. When my friend lets call her Megan kissed her boyfriend lets call him Dan she nearly missed. So i don't want to miss like she did. But however I'm more experienced. And she's only kissed twice.Should I kiss him??

One thing you need to kno before you think about kissing him is knowing that your ready to. one week doesnt seem that long but just make sure you guys are commited to each other ,, cuz after all you want the kiss to be good right? Make sure you Want to not just to tell people that u've kissed someone. Once you both think your ready which i guess you are. Then the kiss should Normally just happen. Dont Worry about missing..once you guys go for it all will just naturally come...i sused to be afraid of missing but once it came i realized it was pretty hard to. I also Kissed someone about....the 1st week i think it was and then i realized we werent ready for it and then suddently our relationship had ended from it.. So keep tht in mind and i hope all goes well for you!

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i like this guy who likes me as well but the problem is........ im going to high school and he's staying in middle school. he might ask me out and i don't know if i should say yes, or just stay single for summer and find someone even better in high school. help please

wow. i had somthing quite like that happen to me. Well i picked to go out with the guy that liked me back but then during schoool i found this really nice guy that i wanted to be with, so i really just followed my heart on which one i would be best with. I kno it kinda got off subject but yeha....So i think you should really think....do you really like this guy....will you last long with him....is he worth it or is he going to break your heart....once you've answered those then its really up to you whether or not. Just do what you WANT to do not what you should do. if you have any other questions about this just ask me! i hope i helped
sincerly,
Katie

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im so bored this summer!im nearly 16 but my mom like never drives me anywhere...what can i do??????

call up a few friends to go hang out. Ask if their mom could take you guys...then your mom doesnt have to take you anywhere and then you could have fun! Also you could go to a summe camp. My mom also doesnt take me places but im going to a soccer summer camp and she thinks that its a good way to practise soccer but also to make new friends. So maybe go to a summer camp then you can hang out with friends and mybe your mom will accually take you!
good luck and have fun!
katie

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ok so there is this really really nice guy who goes to my church he is a good friend and stuff and i kind of like a little is that a bad thing or if i tell him do you think our relationship will change i am not sure!

thats definalty not a bad thing...well what i would do is try to figure out if he likes you more then a friend. Maybe have a friend ask him. If he likes you as just a friend then try talking to him more and get closer friends. If he does like you more then a friend then just ask him to go to the movies or somthing. But just get to kno him more and keep tlaking to him. i hope i helped!
sincelry,
katie
*feel free to ask me any more questions*

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i got a t-shirt from my middle school for the end of the year and i want to know how to make it more fun. all my friends like cut it up and do all these cool things to their t-shirts. does anyone know any thing i could do to mine thats easy?

one thing you could do is cut up the sides of the shirt almost the the end but still leaving room so you can put it on. Then you on both sides put even cuts going into the center on the shirt. so then its all ruffly....then you tie each of the slips of the sides so then the shirt is back together but all ruffly....its a cool look. just a suggestion,
Katie

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Well, I have this friend. He's not super close, but he is a good friend of mine. We have had a lot of talks about smoking pot when several of my friends started and I said "no one thinks it's a big deal anymore and I don't get it." He said "I still think it's a big deal and I think it's pointless and would never try because I would be too scared." Then, he showed up to my friend's party high and I don't get it. I thought he meant that and I haven't had the chance to talk to him yet. I'm really upset about it, and I don't know what to say to him. Does anyone have any idea how to deal with something like this? Like what to say to him?

[keep in mind we're only in 8th grade]
thanks soo much for any help I get !

i had about the same deal. Some things you can talk to him about is how much harm hes putting himself into. Tell him how much you care for him and that you dont want him to get hurt. He might not want to listen near his friends so i would take him some where private and just confront him about how you feel about him when he smokes pot. Also talk to him about why he even does it. Some people do it for the attention and to fit in others do it to relief themselves. Talk it out with him and just tell him how much harm hes putting himself into .....i kno it wasnt much but i hope i helped...
sincerly,
katie

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13/m
For the second time, i develoed a crush on my best friend, who is almost4 years older than me, should I tell her? I am hesitating because its a bit redundant and hopeless, and the last time i was in love with her, and was rejected, i was sent in a depression to the point i wasn't like myself, and our friendship was a bit f a mess {from my point of veiw} Is it still a good thing to confess?

if i were you i would think first about your friend relationship. The same thing happened to my friend and she asked the guy out but he rejected and their close friendship had ended. Think about your relationshipd with her. If it looks like she likes you more then a friend then go for it but if its not a relationship worth ruining then i would just talk to her more and get to be really close friends..Who knows it could change into somthing more....i hope i helped.. and if you need anything else oyu can always ask!
sincerly,
katie

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Im goig to a new school next year with my best friend, she is great and ive known her forever, but im a fraid that if i hang out w/ her alot that, i wont make alot of new friends. plz help!!!

well i do think its great to have a friend like that. But you also need new Friends. Try making more friends but keep including her. Try going to somthing you all would like then you would meet new friends and also keep your best friend. If she doesnt like the idea of you making new friends then maybe shes not the best friend you could get. i hope i helped!
sincerly,
Katie

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i am very fair skinned and so i do not tan naturally- i burn. well i've tried lots of different sunless tanning products in sprays, lotions, and foams in all the brands pretty much and i can't ever seem to accomplish an even tan. are there any tricks? thanks!

i am the same...i hardly ever tan...all i do is put an even amount of sun screen on then also put tanning oil on, then just stay out it the sun for a while. I really dont think the fake tans look good so i would just spend a lot of time outside with sun screen on so u wont burn but also tanning oil on over it, it worked for me and i hope it will work for you !
sincerly,
Katie

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I've been singing for about 7 years now, and I think it's time I started taking voice lessons. My mom insists that I have no natural talent. She's only heard me once, and at the time, I was so nervous that I didn't sound good. My mom said that if I had natural talent, then it would show up when I was a little kid. However, my choir teacher tells me I'm an incredible singer, and she's the type that never lies to make someone feel good. When I was a little kid, my chest voice wasn't so great and I didn't know how to use my head voice. I'm 13 right now, and a mezzo-soprano (though I have almost a three octave range). So do you have to be talented as a little kid to be a talented singer?

wow,
dont take this badly but i really do think you shouldnt listen to your mom. Talent comes at any age. When i was younger i really wasnt good at sports and when i got the opurtuinity to be on a travel soccer team my mom thought it was a horrible idea and that it was a waste of money, but i really liked soccer and everyoen told me i was good at it..so i tried without listening to me mom and i really did like it. So keep practicing and i really do think you can become good if you try! stick to your thoughts!
sincerly,
katie

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Okay so ive really liked this guy for like 6 years and now ive gotten to know him better, he is always at my best friends house because he is best friends with her brother, when im there he'll stay extra late and we talk and even if his friend has gone to bed i start thinking he likes me and I really want to trust my instincts but am I just thinking that because I want it to be real or how should I test this (find out if he likes me) without him knowing????HELP!

well all i would do is ask your friend about it...see if she knows. and maybe have her ask him. If he Stays later just to talk to you i think he really does like you. just maybe to afraid to say anything. So i would talk to your friend about it. OR even talk to him in person about it and just give him clues that you like him. i kno it wasnt a lot but i hope i helped!
sincerly,
katie

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kay me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months now..we have been talking about gettin a place of our own and really settle down with eachother..the thing is he wants me to be more AGGRESSIVE but i dont know how because im a soft person that gets hurt very easily and i am a big baby..he also wants me to WOMAN up but i dont know how or what he means by that...and i need help on how i can do these things so we can work out and last..so if u could please help me out..were together everyday..stay at eachothers houses..in love..families want us to be together..just this little bump keeping us alittle apart..ill rate high!

i do think that if he really likes you then he would like you for who you are. Be yourself and if he doesnt like it then you can find someone better that likes you for who you are without any changes.i really think you should think about the whole moving in thing. its only been 4 monthes and i really do think you should give it time and make sure hes really the one you want to be with. i hope i helped!!
sincerly,
katie

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Sometimes I get really lonely for no reason. I'm always around family and friends but I feel really lonely. I just feel down and depressed. I don't know why I feel so lonely and abandoned. Does anyone know what's wrong with me?

i kno how you feel. ive been like that for a while. i acually told my close friends how ive been feeling and they accually came closer to me and told me they were there for me. they also told me i might want to go to a counsler. i hated that idea and i felt like i was going crazy. but they told my parents and i got tooken to a local counsler. i hated it at first but then they talked it out with me and i realized that i had family and friends that were there and that i wasnt alone. it helped me, so try talking to your friends and family about it then even consider a counsler. its a normal feeling that every teenager goes through so dont worry. you might just be a little stressed
i hope i helped at all,
katie

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so im taking drivers ed this summer and its kind of nice b/c i dont really know anyone in there so i get to act more like myself. basically im not as shy. so theres this guy who sits behind me and he cought my eye the first day. hes smart and taller than me which is rare because im 5'9 but anyways i flirt w/ him and its fun but i dunno im kind of interested in him but i dont know how to get his attention more like i dont know how to be more agressive without coming off as crazy. i think he gets it b/c he flirts back and it makes those 2 boring hours very interesting but im still confused on what i should do. please help! (sorry this is so long!)

all i have to say is to continue talking to him and start giving clues that you like him. Talk about his interest and just things he lieks to do. Just lossen up and be yourself. Then after you get comfortable with him then just ask him if he would like to go see a movie or somthing he enjoys. if hes really worth it then he will accept
i hope i helped! good luck,
katie

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well, me and my boyfriend had been going out for almost 6 months, by the way i'm 14. and i thought things were going great, and out of no where he just decides that he doesn't want a girlfriend anymore. and we split. i cried for a few days. and i just can't seem to completely get over him. i just want to pretty much forget about him, and never socialize with him again. what are some things that could help me get over him?

well what helps me a lot is to hang out with some close friends. There always there for you and kno how to get ur mind on other things. What also helped me was to still be friends with the guy, knowing he doesnt hate me made me feel better. So just hang out with a couple of friends and just think about things you like to do.
i hope i helped!

sincerly,
Katie

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My boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 wonderful months. he is the best, and i cant even describe him. though the other day, he talked to me about engagement, which i am quite excited for. though me and him would have to keep it on the downlow for i am going to be 16 and he will be 18. he isnt going to ask for awhile yet(falltime or beyond that time, hes thinking), he just brought it up because he wanted to see how i felt about it. i actually feel wonderful about it and i feel very ready. i love this man with all my heart and have never felt this way about someone before. i dont have much of a family, but him and his family makes up for it. im not reallt needing advice, cause i know id say yes in a heartbeat, but am i crazy for being excited at 16 y/o and i know it will be easy to hide from my parents because i hide everything from them, but is this a ridculous decision?!? thanks alot

i really dont think its a ridculous decision i jsut think you need to wait a little bit and think if you really want to spend your life with this guy and if hes worth it. though it sounds like you really do like him and want to be with him i would wait a couple of years. You're still young and theres a lot ahead of you. Although you're really excited about it i would give it time and settle down a little bit. i kno its not much but i hoped i helped
sincerly,
XxbrokenLoverxX (katie)

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ok so i have a girlfriend and she loves me to death and i love her too but we've been together fer almost a year. Things are starting to wind down and my g/f is noticing that and she's affraid of us breaking up. What if it gets so bad that we never see each other anymore. I will admit that i'm kinda un-falling in love. i'm starting to not love her day by day because i'm noticing all these things that she does because she knows me too well. it gets annoying sometimes tho i liked it better when we were complete strangers ( well not complete strangers). If it gets that we just grow appart how would i break up with her because if i do she'll be crying her eyes out. she does that everytime she thinks we are falling apart. how do i break up with her without all the tears?
HELP ME
sincerely, someone u don't know

aw,
well all girls cry, its just a natural thing.
But all i have to say is tell her how you feel. be truthfull about it. Make sure you are sure about your thoughts of breaking up. just tell her that you feel its better that you guys are jsut friends, instead of more. just be honost and tell her you want to stay friends. yes she will cry but eventually she wil get over it by time. just be there for her as a friend.
i hope i helped!

sincerly
XbrokenloverX

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My best friend, Hillary, all the sudden likes Mike. They are now going out, Mike is a bad kid. No joke, he's only 12, [shes thirteen] and he's already had sex with another girl, cheated on 3 of his girlfriends, he smokes, drinks, and is on drugs. Hillary knows all this, but doesn't care. I can't pull her away from him, and even since they started going out, its like, shes trying to ignore me, ditch me, and just forget about me. I've tried calling her, IMing her, talking to her, but she won't listen, I don't want anything bad to happen to her, what should I do? x3

i kno how you feel.
it had happend to my best friend
i tried talking it out with her but like you said she just wouldnt listened. All i could do was tell her i really cared for her and to be careful. she got mad at me for saying it but in the end once she got hurt, cheated on, and almost preagnant, i was there for her and she thanked me for it. i kno its hard but all you have to do is watch her get hurt and be there for her if she does. and shell thank you for it,
i hope i helped!

sincerly,
XxBrokenloverxX

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My friend is going to kill herself next Friday.

She seems happy about it.

I've tried to change her mind, but that didn't work.

She doesn't eat, she's an insomniac, and she is very stressed.

She's been to shrinks but she says that they were a waste of her time.

She hates her parents because she can never talk to them, I guess.

I don't know what to do.

Yes i do think you should tell your parents about her. They could help alot. Also i would keep talking to her. Call her more and tell her the good things in her life. Tell her that there are people that love her and that are there for her. Even try calling up a few ppl and telling them about her. Maybe even get them to talk to her, showing her that she has friends that dont hate her. just do whatever you can!
i hope she will be ok!
sincerly,
XxBrokenLoverxX

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