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My boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 wonderful months. he is the best, and i cant even describe him. though the other day, he talked to me about engagement, which i am quite excited for. though me and him would have to keep it on the downlow for i am going to be 16 and he will be 18. he isnt going to ask for awhile yet(falltime or beyond that time, hes thinking), he just brought it up because he wanted to see how i felt about it. i actually feel wonderful about it and i feel very ready. i love this man with all my heart and have never felt this way about someone before. i dont have much of a family, but him and his family makes up for it. im not reallt needing advice, cause i know id say yes in a heartbeat, but am i crazy for being excited at 16 y/o and i know it will be easy to hide from my parents because i hide everything from them, but is this a ridculous decision?!? thanks alot
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thats awesome! but hold on a sec..what if you wait a couple of years..if you two are truly serious about marriage..wait a couple years because its a hugge decision and your both so young. if you feel truly ready..get engaged maybe..but wait a couple years for the wedding i would say. if it were me, i would want to wait a couple years so i could brag about my engagement instead of hiding it.
im so happy for you though! love is wonderful
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i really dont think its a ridculous decision i jsut think you need to wait a little bit and think if you really want to spend your life with this guy and if hes worth it. though it sounds like you really do like him and want to be with him i would wait a couple of years. You're still young and theres a lot ahead of you. Although you're really excited about it i would give it time and settle down a little bit. i kno its not much but i hoped i helped
sincerly,
XxbrokenLoverxX (katie)
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Aww. That's so sweet! Make sure that you think about it first, and not just run into ideas. Make sure that you TRULY love him. If so, then go ahead! You only have one life, LIVE IT!
♥ SiMA
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well, i would say it is kind of ridiculous. but at the same time i believe that you can fall in love at any age. i agree with some of the advice that was already said. that it may not work out in the end. but, you never know unless you try. who wouldn't be excited!! you'd have to crazy to not be! i would just say take it slowly and wait a couple years (without an engagment) and see if you are really in love with him. since you are young, there are other guys out there. you never know, you might change your mind. just don't rush into anything. you can talk about it or whatnot, just don't plan anything. and when you both feel that marriage is an absolute option, take that slow as well. you have PLENTY of time for marriage! :-)
i hope this helped you out. if you need anything else, let me know!!
~4evaurs_21~
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thats so cute!
Aw
im happy for you too
its not rediculous at all
it just means your really in love with him!
that is seriously so cute
i wish i could find the love of my life..
but NOO.
i have to stick with getting old men.
lol ok i will stop
i hope you too will be happy together!
<3
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i'm fine with your rating and thats your opinion, i wasnt saying dont get engaged as i was myself at your age, im saying if you do, then clear it with your parents first so theres no big fall outs later on when they do find out. They should be fine with it especially since they got engaged when they were your age.
i know your in love and engagment is a happy time, it will be horrible if you have to keep it a big secret from your parents who should be sharing this special time with you.
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Hi, how about an answer from an actual adult? Yes, it would be a ridculous decision. I'm glad you are so in love and happy, and my advice to you would be to enjoy it, live it up, persue any future plans that you want. I promise you that it will not work out, but it doesn't matter because you should have a good time with it in the carefree way that you have beem while it lasts. Sure, say yes! Do it all! when it ends, and when you're older, you'll look back on yourself at this age and just smile. I hope you don't actually tie the knot though, divorces are messy and it's doesn't look very respectable when you are in your early 20's and you aready have an ex-husband. Again, it doesn't matter because (statistically speaking) you probably won't get that far. If you decide that is really the best thing for you, then more power to you. Have fun!
Good for them. Now I just think you are an idiot.
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Wow, wow, wow...deja vu.
I was 16 and my (now ex) boyfriend was 18 when he proposed to me on our 9-month mark.
You're not crazy for being excited at 16, nor is this a ridiculous decision.
Lemme tell you what happened to me, but keep in mind that we're different people and this is a different situation - yours may very well work out =)
Anyway...my boyfriend proposed on our 9 month mark. He gave me a ring a year later, then we split up for college. While I was in college, I met someone else, and all of a sudden all of my ex's flaws really stood out to me and started driving me crazy. I started comparing him mentally to this new guy, and all of a sudden, I was falling for the other guy. As hard as it was, I realized what I wanted and I broke up with my ex. College and distance can really kill a relationship. I needed to be touched and feel loved. The guy I broke up with never called me or anything, and he was in Florida. We were really close, and seriously engaged, but it didn't work. I'm in a better relationship now.
Anyway, the whole point of that is mostly a warning - know that it may not work out, but if it does, you are one of the few, and to be congratulated.
I hope everything works out for you two.
Good luck!
-Siren =)
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No, you're not crazy at all! I'm in the same situation. My boyfriend & I are both 16. I love him with all my heart & I really think he's the one. I've been with him for a year today & he wants me to marry me & I feel the same way about him. Congratulations & good luck!
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No, you're not crazy and it's not a ridiculous decision. You're lucky to have found the love of your life at such a young age, or at all, because many people don't. Just follow your heart. Good luck!!!
Kali
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I am actually in the same situation as you but I am younger than you me and my bf have been dating for 2 years and he asked me to marry him on our 1 year and 6 month anneversary and I was very excited and I still am. The only advice you really need is to make sure you really love him and make sure you follow your heart. If you are sure 100% then don't doubt it because it will ruin the excitment just don't loose thought of what is best for both of you because when you are engaged you become one person, one thought, and one heartbeat just don't give up and if you really love the person then no matter what throught all the dark days the love you have for each other will always show.
Good luck,CONGRATS
Hope I helped
(If you would like more of my advice e-mail me at truelovers2104@yahoo.com)
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