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Well I can help out anyone who plays or wants to play sports. I have been on softball, basketball, volleyball, soccer teams throughout gradeschool, highschool and college. So if you need help with anything regarding sports, let me know. And if I havent done that sport I might know something you could need help with! Also, my friends always come to me with their relationship problems, so if that's something you need help with as well, I'd be glad to help!
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Ok so I'm a girl 15 freshman. I'm in gym and ugh I hate running and we have to do 30 laps. So my teacher started and he told me to run. It would only be me and like 4 other people doing the 30 laps. So there's this kid in my gym class that I really like. So when I started running I got nervous. And now I can't run. And I know I run slow. I'm not used to running. And I hate it because then this girl told me that I run funny. So then what's the kid going to think?. I know I run slow and funny. Also. There's this senior kid whose always making fun of the people who run. Today we were supposed to do 30 laps and I only got up to like 20 laps becuase I got to tired.a dn I am not overweight I weigh like 115 pouds and I'm 5'1. What should I do help!
I played a lot of sports back in highschool. I didn't have a problem with running or anything but I'd help my teammates out. There are tips for running. I dont know if you run flat-footed, but that can cause problems with your knees/joints later on. Try running on your toes. Im not sayin on your tip-toes but running on the balls of your feet. Also, your arms. It may sound funny, but the way you move your arms can help you out with running. Speed, endurance, etc. When you 'flail' your arms, you get more tired and it slows you down. Keep your arms close to your body in 90degree angles and pump back and forth when you run. This should help you run a little easier/faster.
Also, for being able to run all those laps, you need to be in shape. Go on the treadmill, walk a mile then eventually start running. Do more cardiac exercises.
If you need anymore help, let me know!
I'll be glad to help you out!!
~4evaurs_21~
19F - he's 24 - there is this guy that works at a company that my company deals with... i speak to him regularly for work stuff... at the christmas party we went out clubbing and made out... i REALLY like this guy, like seriously, as in get butterflies in my tummy when i hear his voice. when we were out he said i'm too good for him. we have spoken through work many times since then but havn't mentioned that night. i really wanna ask him out or something but i dont know if he likes me and i dont wanna make things awkward at work. what do i do? help!
Ask him to go out sometime, just to hang out. And if something happens, make sure you ask him 'why' it happened. See what he has to say about it. I know he said you were too good for him, but maybe he'll realize that you and him could make something work out.
i hurt my knee snowboarding it was swollen up like a melon and really bruised, the doctor told me to stay off my knee until its comfortable to walk, i havnt really been doing that, and it still hurts when i walk but i just ignore it cuz it doesnt hurt enough to make my flinch, someone told me if i didnt stay off my knee and let it heal properly that next time i hurt it, it would be much worse and i could perminantly damage my knee, is that true? should i stay off my knee for the next few days
Stay off your knee. Elevate it. Relax. And if you need to be on it, use crutches. I screwed up my knee playing softball about 2 years ago. And I walked back to my dorm room limping. Come to find out that I actually tore my ACL in my right knee. I was told that if I ever wanted to play sports again, I needed to have reconstructive surgery. So within the month of getting hurt and my surgery date, I needed to take care of my knee so it wouldnt get worse. I elevated it, iced it, and used crutches. If you don't do that, you could severely mess up your knee and eventually you will regret it. If I wouldn't have taken care of my knee during the time before my surgery, I was told I could have done more damage to it. They would have needed to do other things to my knee during surgery. So my advice is let it heal. Listen to your doctors. I know you don't want to because you want to snowboard, BUT there will be other times for you to go out and enjoy the snow.
I hope this helps!!
~4evaurs_21~
Okay, I've bought my boyfriend over $500 worth of Christmas. (he has spent way more than me)
I love him so much, and I want to get him something from the heart.
Unfortunatly for me, I can't write poetry to save my life. I suck at writing stuff.
I need a website or two that has really, really sweet, loving poems on it that I can give him.
Thanks!
Well I have a few sites that you could go to. And maybe from these sites you could get ideas and write your own.
These are the sites:
forwardgarden.com
poetry.com
If you need any help, I can Definitely help you out with that!!
~4evaurs~
Theres this guy i like and hes pretty much like a jock cause he does lacrosse and football. and i do soccer, bball, dance, and I wanna try out lacrosse in the spring. hes in like most of my classes in my middle school, and i fell for him right when i met him.. cause of his looks, but hes also funny and nice, too. (although hes not the brightest crayon in the box heh) ANYWAY, im not the world's best flirter, especially with guys i like alot, cause then i feel awkward around them and such. but i dont mind in gym getting competitive, like we played this game called "steal the rings" and you gotta capture the person's flag on their belt so they dont steal your ring. and i beat him sometimes and hes always smiling when i do it. also the other guys, like they know im good at the game but like is it attractive? or does it kinda repel people. im not like "SOOO" aggressive, but im pretty good at the game and dont just stand there like some girls doo. hes kinda popular and im not popular, but not a loser either.
ppl kno me cause im smart, talented at stuff, funny, and nice. but sometimes it takes a bit to get to know me, since at first i may seem shy but if i get comfortable around you i can be totally more outgoing and fun to be around. arg, so im basically shy in most places except gym cause i dunno.. i guess i feel kinda selfconcious, well i mean i like myself, but it feels weird when ppl are like staring at you! so i always get some feeling which makes me feel weird like that sometimes, though i guess its just nervousness for no reason when im feeling kinda uncomfortable. but this kinda happens everyday and every night i tell myself that i will change and such but its always the same the next day! i mean it changes a lil.. but like.. yeah. how do i become more outgoing and stuff.. and basically make more friends in general? and how do i be myself.. like everyone says that as the answers to questions like this (sorry this is not all on the topic!) and its like hard..
Ahh! sorry this is mucho long!
Thanks 4 replying!
You and I are the same way. I play basketball, volleyball and softball. And my crush was in my gym class, so of course I was a little distracted haha But I still played the game. A lot of guys think it is a turn-off that the girl is competitive. But I know a lot of guys that like the fact that the girl will actually 'put up a fight' and is competitive. You can't change who you are, so if you try to become less competitive, you won't have any fun. Now, you said you wanted to be more outgoing.. To do that, go out more with friends. Try new things. Be open to changes. With you trying new things, you'll meet new people and eventually will make new friends. And the easiest answer to say is to be yourself. Still be competitive and athletic. Don't loose that. You like to have fun, right? Do what you do to have fun. If you need anything else, let me know. I will be happy to help you out!
~4evaurs_21~
male
16 years old
ok well i have the history of being dumped for being "clingly" . and well im with a girl i really like right now and i dont want my "clingyness" to get in the way of this so could someone please clarifi (spelling) what exactly being clingy is and what i can do to not be clingy. like me and my gf go to the same skewl but not at the same time like i go to a after skewl credit make up thingy so we dont see eachother to much which dosent let me be to clingy but yea also what can i do to not be clingy if ya know what i mean ?
Being clingy is not giving the other person any space or any of their own time. You're wanting to spend Every moment together. Don't get me wrong, there's absolutely Nothing wrong to want to be with them all the time, but there are times when space is needed. I'm not sure if you're the jealous type or whatever, but make sure you're not clingy because of that. Because if you are, the girl will get annoyed with you and eventually will break up with you. Since you like this girl a lot, just make sure you give her her own space and you do your own thing. Just don't alienate her though. Maybe write her little letters just telling her how beautiful she is or other little things. Just don't overdo it. I have more ideas for you if you'd like. Just message me and I will be happy to help you out more!
~4evaurs_21~
I couldn't stand the people back in highschool. Highschool is suppose to be where people grow up and get an education. People to me didn't do that. They just bothered me about stuff. And they cussed at me judged me, bullied me. Even when I go to the mall I can't get anything for my money I mean when I do go to the mall I Know what I want to get and I get it but it doesn't look good to me. Then people at school annoyed me about it. Why the hell should they care. What makes me mad is that I think that other girls that was there at the mall or the store where like trying to get me to mess me up. THey're so annoying. They look at products the same way I do touch clothes they way I do. Whenever my eye lands on them they act like I'm trying to see what they bought so I can buy them for myself. They hide their bags it's always when I am looking. What are they trying to do? It insults me that they would do that. I can't stand it even the look in their eyes when they do it makes me feel hurt and mad. I can't go to any store without these happening. I am the only one in the planet that is being treated like this. It's getting too long now I kind of forgot the other things but I just want to get this feeling out. Thank you for advicenators that reads this I am thankful for the free advice and time anyone took to read this. I have lots of stuff happening and can't find affordable cheap or free counseling. But I think people are so wrong.
First of all, you are not the only person on the planet who has/is going through this. I didn't really go through this is in highschool, but I did in gradeschool. I was on a few sports teams i HS so I kind of was with the 'in-crowd' or however you want to say it. I was friends with Everyone. And I had a lot of older classmen as friends. But there were cliques. And that's going to be expected in highschool. There's always going to be that one person or even a group of people who are bullied around. I'm sorry you went through this. It sucks, I know. My advice for you, is if they are still doing this, don't let them see that it's bothering you. If they see that look in your eye or anything to that extent, they know that they got to you, so they'll keep doing it. Shake it off. Don't listen to them or watch them. Be yourself. Don't give them the time of day. People judge and usually they don't know you or what you have gone through. If you need to talk to anyone about anything AND everything, I'm here. Just write me a message and I will be happy to listen and write back.
Hope this helps!!
~4evaurs_21~
above my lip, there is a shady area that makes it look like i have a moustache. there is no hair. its just there. i dont know how to get rid of it. help?
So you said there's no hair, just a dark area above your lip... What about trying makeup to cover it up. Like a concealer or foundation.. Just make sure you find something that matches your complexion. If you need anymore advice, let me know!
~4evaurs_21~
My boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 wonderful months. he is the best, and i cant even describe him. though the other day, he talked to me about engagement, which i am quite excited for. though me and him would have to keep it on the downlow for i am going to be 16 and he will be 18. he isnt going to ask for awhile yet(falltime or beyond that time, hes thinking), he just brought it up because he wanted to see how i felt about it. i actually feel wonderful about it and i feel very ready. i love this man with all my heart and have never felt this way about someone before. i dont have much of a family, but him and his family makes up for it. im not reallt needing advice, cause i know id say yes in a heartbeat, but am i crazy for being excited at 16 y/o and i know it will be easy to hide from my parents because i hide everything from them, but is this a ridculous decision?!? thanks alot
well, i would say it is kind of ridiculous. but at the same time i believe that you can fall in love at any age. i agree with some of the advice that was already said. that it may not work out in the end. but, you never know unless you try. who wouldn't be excited!! you'd have to crazy to not be! i would just say take it slowly and wait a couple years (without an engagment) and see if you are really in love with him. since you are young, there are other guys out there. you never know, you might change your mind. just don't rush into anything. you can talk about it or whatnot, just don't plan anything. and when you both feel that marriage is an absolute option, take that slow as well. you have PLENTY of time for marriage! :-)
i hope this helped you out. if you need anything else, let me know!!
~4evaurs_21~
I have no clue how to play softball. All I know is it's like baseball with a bigger softer ball. I know you hit the ball with a bat and run around some bases. That's pretty much it. Please tell me everything there is to know about softball before I humiliate myself playing it again.
Ok, to start off, the softball isn't any softer, it's the same feel and whatnot like a baseball. The softball is obviously bigger.
Now, it depends on what kind of softball you are playing...
Now if you were playing slow-pitch softball, there is no leading off. The batting rules could be different. Every league is different. Either girls have two swinging strikes and 3 balls and guys have two swinging strikes and 3 balls. I guess it depends on how the rules of your softball league. Now when you are on offense (batting) and you are up to bat and you hit the ball you must run to first, obviously. And you must run all the way through first base. (Meaning: when you run to first base you must over run it, do not stop or slow down on your way to first base.) Now when the batter after you is up, and you are on first, if the hit is on the ground you must run to second base. If the hit is in the air, wait by first base. If it is caught you must tag up - meaning you must touch first base again before running to second. If it isn't caught just run straight to second base. (you cannot over-run second or third base). You’re First Base Coach will be helping you out with that!
DEFENSE (in the field): (depending on where you play)
If you play in the field. There is nobody on base. You’re play is at first base. If there is someone only on first base, your force play is at second base. You can also throw it to first, but if you are closer to second base throw it there. (a force play is the leading base where the lead runner is advancing to). And so on…
If you play in the outfield. You will most likely never really throw it to first base. If you play Right Center (RC), or Right Field (RF) your cutoff is second base. If you play Left Field (LF) or Left Center (LC) your cutoff is shortstop. You will usually throw it to second base when you get it out in the outfield. Usually your infield will communicate with the outfield before the pitcher pitches the ball. So you will know where the play should be. So then you are able to know where you need to throw it before you get the ball.
Now, if you need anymore help with this, let me know. There is plenty more to know about softball!
I hope this helped! I am an assistant coach for High School fast-pitch and I also played fast-pitch in college. So if you have anymore questions, don’t hesitate to ask! That’s what I’m here for!!
~4evaurs_21~
i was just wondering if this happened to anyone. my bely ring got infected prob cus i touched it and changed alot but i switched mi cleaning stuff to bactine i was using sea salt before n the infection went away but i liek burned it and it just never healed after that and so i went to a piercer n they told me to take it out and get repierced but the hole is taking forever to close. n i went to a different piercer n they said i woudl have to forget about it for awhile till it heals. im just wondering if anyone has had this happen or knows anything abuot hwo logn it take or if thre is anything i canput on it
My belly ring got infected as well. It took about a year to completely heal. Now I have a scar there and will eventually get it repierced. Just make sure while it's healing to keep it clean so when it closes up you won't have an infection anymore.
ok so me and my boyfriend broke up like 3 or 4 days ago i'v only been eating like 1 meal a day everything just taste nasty. I dont want to go back to being anerxioc so how do i like start eating back to normal again.
Ok, I can understand that this is a hard time for you, but think about it... you're harming yourself more than anything. You need to start eating. Don't start off with a super huge meal, just go in steps to increase your meals. For example, start off with like a salad first and eventually eat something more than just a salad. I'm sorry to tell you, but there are far worse things in the world than a breakup. And I can guarantee you, there are other chances for another relationship. Don't dwell on this breakup. Move on. The only way you can move on is to be confident in yourself. Make yourself healthy and you will be confident in yourself.
I hope this helped!
~4evaurs_21~
Hey everyone, I need help - FAST ! Please just read my situation and try to help me I'm in deep trouble I think.
Okay, so after school today my boyfriendwas at baseball practice and he had to get something from his locker, and kissed me goodbye and at the time I was looking in his bookbag for his cellphone. Then he left and I was looking at pictures and then my friend came and was like "You should see his texts they're dirty." So I was like okay so we saw a girl's texts to him, lets call her Ashley. The texts weren't that bad but they were like 'I wanna hump you' and stuff like that. So my friend said "Wouldn't it be funny if we told Ashley off?" I was like "No it's not our phone." So my friend said "yeah okay whatever." She wrote "ur a whore" and then she had to go but I said "Don't you think we should at least delete the message so that he (my bf) doesn't see it ?" She said "No because then we have evidence that he sent it ." At the time I was not thinking at all and thought that it would work . But now I realize that obviously he's going to know that he didn't send it.
Well, here it gets worse. He called my other friend that is a guy, let's call him Trevor. Well my boyfriend called Trevor and told him how he thinks I told Ashley that she is a whore. Then Trevor called me and made me confess that it was my friend and it turns out my boyfriend was on the phone listening to mine and Trevor's conversation. At least my boyfriend knows the truth, but I dont think he believes me because while I was in the shower he sent me an IM that what I did was a bitchy thing to do.
The problem is, I didn't write the text ! I mean I know I probably should have stopped her but I went along with it. Now my boyfriend is PISSED at me. What can I do?
I'll rate 5's for anything
Ok, so this can both ways here. He should not have been texting another girl talking like that. Those conversations should not have happened in the first place. Yes, you should have stopped her a little more, but he's at more fault than you. He has no right to be pissed. You have the right to be pissed since he's having conversations like that. You should sit down with your boyfriend and ask him about this 'ashley' girl and why she's sending him those text messages. See what he says then. Maybe you can prove to your boyfriend that your friend sent that text and that you tried to make an her stop texting that message to 'ashley'
I hope this helkped you out!
~4evaurs_21~
i just got braces and i have a date this weekend.. and im worried that my braces will like cut his lips or something.. plus this will be my first kiss ever so im kinda insicure about the whole kissing with braces and is it a turn of for a guy if a girl they want to kiss has braces?
-Female 15yrs old
WELL..I've never had braces and my first kiss was soo long ago. I remember I was nervous and all that. But at the time it happened, I didn't feel nervous because it happened so fast. Now, with the braces, i don't think that would matter. Maybe even make a little joke to him about it. Just to be funny and break the ice. Something like, 'well i want to kiss you but i might hurt you" (or something to that extent) just kinda subtle i guess. make light of the situation. I'm sure he won't mind the braces. Don't worry about the kiss so much. If he does decide to kiss you, either way you'll always remember it as your first and that you had braces and if something funny happens its not the end of the world either. Eventually you will look back at the one kiss and laugh and then you learn from it or you just keep laughing about it! :-)
I hope this helped you out.
Let me know how it goes!
Good luck! wait, what am i saying?! You don't need any luck, you are already going out on a date with him! ;-)
should your boyfriend/girlfriend come before your best friend?
please explain too ♥ thanks.
no way should a bf/gf get in a way of a friendship!! Your friends will always be there for you no matter what...
yea so im a 15/f i really like basketball & id love to play next year but im so nervous because there are a limited amount of spots! in 7th, 8th, & 9th grade seasons i played post, but because im not exactly the tallest im having to change to guard. im really worried about dribbling & outside shots any one got anything i can practice?!
THANKS
ok, i played basketball ever since 4th grade and stopped my sophomore year in high school. Between all those seasons, i played every position and eventually i was placed into only one position. I played post a couple times and then my main position was guard or forward. I shot the 3's and was good at freethrows. Now, this may sound like a stupid question, but when you shoot freethrows, do you jump? or are your feet stationary? If they aren't stationary, work on that and then honestly, eventually it will help you with out your outside shots. Have you played around the world? If not, try that. Start with close shots and go through the entire game. Then eventually back up until you're shooting from the 3pt line. If you need anymore info, let me know. My dad coached me through gradeschool and then once I graduated from gradeschool I was assistant coach for a couple gradeschool teams. So I can definitely help ya out! Just let me know!!
Hope this helped!
~4evaurs_21~
i like this guy in my english class and were working on this project together. its so much fun i love being around him and we have good conversation. im worried though becuase friday is the presentation for our project and when its over i dont want things to be like they used to when we didnt talk much. i think he may like me but im not bold enough to ask him out. i dont know what to do about it! please help!
Just ask him casually if he wants to hang out sometime. It doesn't need to be a date or anything. Maybe even get a group of friends to go out one night and then invite him to join. Keep inviting him out and maybe something will happen between the two of you, eventually.
Hope this helped!
~4evaurs_21~
when do babies usually start teething? and what do you do to soothe the pain?
thanks
ok, i have a baby brother and he's turning one. He's actually turning 1 tomorrow. But anyways, he started teething inbetween 6-7 months. Now to sooth the pain there are teething tablets. They are round white tablets that dissolve in their moth. Thats the exact name of them. Also, use the ice teethers. That helps a lot.
I hope this helped!
~4evaurs_21~
ok so this guy asked me out. and i dont know if i like him or not. he is really nice and cool and i dont want to hurt his feelings by saying no. but i dont know if i like him!
i dont really know him. i only hung out with him once. im so confused. i dont know what to do!!!!!!
PLEASE HELP!!! ill rate 5's for anything.
ok, dating him after only hanging out with him once, might be 'too soon'. I think that you two should hang out by yourselves and then eventually the two of you go out with friends and see how he interacts with your friends. By hanging out with him and having alone time, you'll see if you really like him. Then maybe you'll make up your mind on whether or not you want to date him. Just tell him that you would like to hang out with him for now and get to know him. and if something happens between the two of you, you're all for it. And if nothing happens, then you guys can be friends.
i hope i helped!
~4evaurs_21~
I have really long (Mid-back) hair. Its frizzy, but not as bad as it could be. I was wondering if theres any really (REALLY) good conditioners or shampoos i could use to un-frizz it, lol. I don't really want to do gels, hair spray, or anything like that, cause it clumps my hair and looks nasty. and i just don't like it. haha. also, any everyday hair style ideas would be good! thanks!!
ok, my hair is a little frizzy and naturally wavy. i use herbal essences (the rose hips) and it makes my hair shinier and smells good too, of course. i straighten my hair as well. and when its completely down, it doesn't even look frizzy. You can also use some frizzease (?) i think that's what it's called. its a little spray bottle and all you do in spray it on your hair and comb it in.
I hope I helped!
~4evaurs_21~