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My boyfriend is falsly accusing me !
Hey everyone, I need help - FAST ! Please just read my situation and try to help me I'm in deep trouble I think.
Okay, so after school today my boyfriendwas at baseball practice and he had to get something from his locker, and kissed me goodbye and at the time I was looking in his bookbag for his cellphone. Then he left and I was looking at pictures and then my friend came and was like "You should see his texts they're dirty." So I was like okay so we saw a girl's texts to him, lets call her Ashley. The texts weren't that bad but they were like 'I wanna hump you' and stuff like that. So my friend said "Wouldn't it be funny if we told Ashley off?" I was like "No it's not our phone." So my friend said "yeah okay whatever." She wrote "ur a whore" and then she had to go but I said "Don't you think we should at least delete the message so that he (my bf) doesn't see it ?" She said "No because then we have evidence that he sent it ." At the time I was not thinking at all and thought that it would work . But now I realize that obviously he's going to know that he didn't send it.
Well, here it gets worse. He called my other friend that is a guy, let's call him Trevor. Well my boyfriend called Trevor and told him how he thinks I told Ashley that she is a whore. Then Trevor called me and made me confess that it was my friend and it turns out my boyfriend was on the phone listening to mine and Trevor's conversation. At least my boyfriend knows the truth, but I dont think he believes me because while I was in the shower he sent me an IM that what I did was a bitchy thing to do.
The problem is, I didn't write the text ! I mean I know I probably should have stopped her but I went along with it. Now my boyfriend is PISSED at me. What can I do?
I'll rate 5's for anything
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K so you are not the "bad guy" here. He should NOT have been talking to that girl like that while your going out .. thats not right & disloyal. he may feel like you invaded his privacy by going into his phone & texting her back (well, even if it was your frind) but you should just tak to him and say look, im sorry for invading your privacy & i should have stopped my friend from writing that. but it hurts me that you would talk like that with her while we're going out. - be upfront with him, tell him how you feel, but make sure to tell him your sorry for what YOU did, and it hurt you what HE did. goodluck<3
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Ok, so this can both ways here. He should not have been texting another girl talking like that. Those conversations should not have happened in the first place. Yes, you should have stopped her a little more, but he's at more fault than you. He has no right to be pissed. You have the right to be pissed since he's having conversations like that. You should sit down with your boyfriend and ask him about this 'ashley' girl and why she's sending him those text messages. See what he says then. Maybe you can prove to your boyfriend that your friend sent that text and that you tried to make an her stop texting that message to 'ashley'
I hope this helkped you out!
~4evaurs_21~
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First of all no girl shouldve of been texting your man tellin him she wanted get it on with him in the first place! Why didn't he text her back and tell her no, im seeing someone or something to make her stop texting crap like that. Ask him that the next time he says something about you sending that message, girl flip that shit around and get him at his own game pretty soon he'll be so focused on trying to convince you that he's not a dirt bag for not telling her to stop texting him shit like that, that he'll forget all about what you did-or didnt do.
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okay well.. what im going to tell you i've learned the hard way... when your in a relationship it is very important to have trust in what your partner says... and basically your boyfriend does not have trust in you, so thats a disaster waiting to happen.... and for another thing if your friend even let you take all the blame for something that gets you into trouble than she really isnt a true friend now is she... now lets just say if "ashley" was hitting on my man and texting him, she'd find her ass in the ground and my man would find pain in every inch of his body, but thats just me, but just listen about what i said about the whole trust thang... and by the way your the woman of the realtionship so basically ur the boss!
love ya lotz.
kandi
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You're right, you probably should have stopped your friend from sending that text. You could have easily just confronted your boyfriend about this text message girl and let him explain.
But on the other hand, what was that girl doing talking to your boyfriend that way? I really think that you and him need to a serious talk on this girl because no other girls should be talking to him that way.
Anyway, you should go to him, or contact him and explain that you and your friend got curious on his cell phone and found the text messages and your friend was the one who texted this girl. Admit that you should have took the cell phone away, but you didn't because you felt a little hurt about these texts you saw. So you let things happen and that you are sorry.
If he isn't willing to talk or accept your apology, then you'll have to wait until he finds his way out of his anger toward you and is ready to talk. Just next time, try keeping your relationship between yourself and your boyfriend. I don't see your relationship ending at this point, I think it's just a hurdle that you'll both just have to get over together.
-TheTeenGirl
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you could try to tell him again that it wasn't you it was your friend again. if he still doesn't believe you tell him: "you got it, it was me, you happy?" then he might say: "i knew it" then you say:"i bet you think i'm lying about saying it was me too then, right?" that should really piss him off that your contradicting him then he'll realize that you weren't lying if that doesn't work try to get your friend to tell him the truth if she refuses then she's not a good friend.
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explain to him that she was th one who wrote it and your sorry for not stopping her and for going through his fone and if he really cares about you hell believe you and then ask him what she was doing saying that stuff to you anyway. but say it calm and caring not hostile and forcing.
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You have already confessed to being there when it happened. There isn't much else you can do but apologize.
How did your girlfriend know there were texts that were "dirty" on YOUR boyfriends phone? I think you may need to talk to her about it. She had no business messing with his phone.
You also need to find out who Ashley is ( if you don't know already) and find out why shes sending your boyfriend those kinds of messages.
Good luck. :)
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