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my friend smoked ..
Well, I have this friend. He's not super close, but he is a good friend of mine. We have had a lot of talks about smoking pot when several of my friends started and I said "no one thinks it's a big deal anymore and I don't get it." He said "I still think it's a big deal and I think it's pointless and would never try because I would be too scared." Then, he showed up to my friend's party high and I don't get it. I thought he meant that and I haven't had the chance to talk to him yet. I'm really upset about it, and I don't know what to say to him. Does anyone have any idea how to deal with something like this? Like what to say to him?
[keep in mind we're only in 8th grade]
thanks soo much for any help I get !
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i know this would be hard for you but the best way to help your friend is to get a counslor to talk to him. my friend used to have the same problem and i got a counslor to talk to her and it actually helped! its the best way to help your friend.
hope i helped.
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ive always said i would never smoke anything and this past year being a freshman in high school ive been wanting to try weed and stuff like that. the reason your friend might of gotten high that day is because of stress. its really hard to deal with stress on your own sometimes. maybe talk to him about anything going wrong in his life and ask him if you can help.
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I smoke some too. Then again, I have a job, a kid, a husband, and I have one more class until I graduate. At your current age, you're right to think that there could be a problem.
Since I don't know much about your friend, I'm in a terrible position to help. Try a crisis help line (211 in my area, look in your phone book) you can talk to them about your feelings and they can direct you how to find help for your friend.
Also, crisis help lines are confidential and free. I use them for all my little problems and they are always friendly, helpful, and never judgmental.
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You know, he could have just been saying that he would be too scared to hide the fact that he wanted to try it sometime. most people that smoke don't go out and tell people that they want to especially if you're not super close.
so is this the end of your 8th grade year or are you going into 8th grade? most people start around freshman year so you're not super young. I know how upsetting it is... I too was in this situation with several people.. there's not much you can do... don't try to get him to quit. he will on his own when he gets bored with it. you never know, it might just be a one time thing. (you don't get addicted to pot, btw) don;t freak out on him about it, just see how much it happens and that he's safe and stuff. you could try giving him better things to do on the weekend but don't go telling people that he does or like ditching him... that's another reason for him to keep doing it. if ou need anything else, i'm here for you. <3
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maybe it's something he should deal with himself. i know a lot of people who smoke pot, but that's because i'm in college. if you're good friends, then just tell him that it upsets you to see him like that and that you'd rather not hang out with him when he is high or hear from him about it. when i was going to try mushrooms, i told my really good friend about it, and she said "please stop, i don't want to hear about it. it really usets me and i don't want to think of you doing drugs." so that changed my mind because i realized that it wasn't worth it if my friend felt that way about it. but either way, pot is something that most people get over with time. believe it or not, most of my high school teachers and university professors were potheads when they were young.
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i had about the same deal. Some things you can talk to him about is how much harm hes putting himself into. Tell him how much you care for him and that you dont want him to get hurt. He might not want to listen near his friends so i would take him some where private and just confront him about how you feel about him when he smokes pot. Also talk to him about why he even does it. Some people do it for the attention and to fit in others do it to relief themselves. Talk it out with him and just tell him how much harm hes putting himself into .....i kno it wasnt much but i hope i helped...
sincerly,
katie
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