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break ups
ok so i have a girlfriend and she loves me to death and i love her too but we've been together fer almost a year. Things are starting to wind down and my g/f is noticing that and she's affraid of us breaking up. What if it gets so bad that we never see each other anymore. I will admit that i'm kinda un-falling in love. i'm starting to not love her day by day because i'm noticing all these things that she does because she knows me too well. it gets annoying sometimes tho i liked it better when we were complete strangers ( well not complete strangers). If it gets that we just grow appart how would i break up with her because if i do she'll be crying her eyes out. she does that everytime she thinks we are falling apart. how do i break up with her without all the tears?
HELP ME
sincerely, someone u don't know
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crying is going to be in your future no matter what. So i say, get it over with sooner rather than later because then she'll be crying over al the time she wasted with you while you were just dragging it on because you felt bad and did not really love her. Girls cry sometimes, guys just need to get over it and realize its part of what some of us do when we get hurt....
hope this isnt too blunt and i hope this helps ..
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Hey, no matter what she will cry. but dont feel bad..its not good for you to just stay with her because you feel bad..when guys do things like that..THATS when we cal them jerks and stuff..just let her down easy and talk to her..she will be upset..but in time she will be ok again. this is something you need to do..best of luck! let me know how it goes pleeease
-melissa
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aw,
well all girls cry, its just a natural thing.
But all i have to say is tell her how you feel. be truthfull about it. Make sure you are sure about your thoughts of breaking up. just tell her that you feel its better that you guys are jsut friends, instead of more. just be honost and tell her you want to stay friends. yes she will cry but eventually she wil get over it by time. just be there for her as a friend.
i hope i helped!
sincerly
XbrokenloverX
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Aw .. well it seems like you two are falling apart & you can`t just wait and break up.All girls cry when a guy breaks up with them that`s just how we are..she will cry and then get over it sooner or later.Just call her or have a your good friend tell her..you can't just not break up because your afriad she will cry...just tell her you two will still be good friends,make it sound not so bad ♥
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I recon it depends on what you mean by winding down. Your gonna find that after a while everygirl you go out with is probably going to end up like this, and you'll just keep skipping from relationship to relationship wondering what the hell is wrong. If you have a real reason to break up with her, i'd say that is what you should do. But if it's just because little things get to you, you'll find in time thats what being together is about, its finding over time a person who you love to bits and can accept that things arn't ever going to be "perfect" all the time. Its finding or being with someone because those little things don't really matter, like her stealing your fav shirt or whatever it is she does. The first thing you need to do is tell her what is annoying you, and you'll be surprised that she may not even know what she is doing is annoying her, first talk to her, if you can't change or compromise, then think about ending it.
hope this helps. been where you are now. took me 8 relationships to work it out!
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I am sorry to say this but when you are breaking up with someone and "LOVE" is involved there is always going to be tears. But the best way for you to break it off with her is to take her some where were you both will be alone with no interuptions or distractions just tell her how you feel tell her you don't want to drag it on any longer because the longer you wait to do this the more it is going to hurt in the end and that really sucks so you have to do it as soon as possible. It is going to be hard but you don't want to lead her on any longer thinking you feel the same way she does. If you explain to her every way you feel and give her good reasons and tell her you didn't want to hurt her and you did everything to make sure it would be even less painful to her. She will most definatly be upset but you have to let her you still want to be friends (if you do) and really comfort her and try to make it easy.
Good luck,
Hope I helped
(If you would like more of my advice e-mail me at truelovers2104@yahoo.com)
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Well you two have been together for awhile now and you say you both love eachother. I think you are probably just going threw a hard time and if you really want the relationship to last you can talk and work it out, or maybe seperate for a while (not by breaking up and getting with other people ofcourse). But if nothing works and you really feel like you guys have to break up, shes gonna cry, no matter what. You should talk to her face to face if you really care about her and tell her exactly how you feel.
I wish you guys the best of luck and hope everything works out for you two.
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You don't.
I'm sorry, but no matter how kindly, softly, politely you attempt to break up with this girl, she is probably going to cry. Unless you mislead her somehow, or refuse to do it face-to-face, you are going to have to be prepared for tears.
Very few girls don't cry while being dumped (actually a good number of guys I've known cry as well when that happens to them.) If you can't deal with the tears darling, then you are stuck with her.
I suppose you could avoid the messy scene by dumping her via e-mail, a text message, an aim conversation, or (at the very best) a handwritten letter, but none of those are terribly respectable.
So unless the cowardly approach appeals to you, you'll just have to stuck it up and be honest with her. Try to keep it short and be straightforward. Don't let her cling to pointless hope if you know the relationship is truly dead. Repeat yourself as much as necessary, even if it only causes more tears. It is also very helpful when dumping someone to have someplace to be afterwards, a ride coming, a class to get to, a work shift to get to or so on… Something that means the conversation must end and can't be dragged on for hours.
The sad fact is, dumping someone is one of those life skills no one really wants to have, but everyone learns sooner or later. Do yourself a favor, take the highroad, keep your dignity and just deal with dumping this girl in a respectful, face-to-face way, and hope you'll never have to call on the experience again.
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