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Best friends
My best friend, Hillary, all the sudden likes Mike. They are now going out, Mike is a bad kid. No joke, he's only 12, [shes thirteen] and he's already had sex with another girl, cheated on 3 of his girlfriends, he smokes, drinks, and is on drugs. Hillary knows all this, but doesn't care. I can't pull her away from him, and even since they started going out, its like, shes trying to ignore me, ditch me, and just forget about me. I've tried calling her, IMing her, talking to her, but she won't listen, I don't want anything bad to happen to her, what should I do? x3
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just call her or ask her over and tell her its rong..tell her what can happen..or if things get really worse..call her parents and tell them..i hope it helps!
*Megan marie*
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i kno how you feel.
it had happend to my best friend
i tried talking it out with her but like you said she just wouldnt listened. All i could do was tell her i really cared for her and to be careful. she got mad at me for saying it but in the end once she got hurt, cheated on, and almost preagnant, i was there for her and she thanked me for it. i kno its hard but all you have to do is watch her get hurt and be there for her if she does. and shell thank you for it,
i hope i helped!
sincerly,
XxBrokenloverxX
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She is essentially just a kid, so is he. You already see the problem and told he your concerns, and I assume that you'll be there for her ( like a true friend) to pick up the peices when it all goes down. Until that happy day comes, there is nothing you can do but let her make her own mistakes.
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Dear Best friends,
All i can say is...Hillary is getting herself into trouble. If she knows all of this then I think she would do something about it if she cared... sadly i dont think she does. All you can really do is watch her get hurt which isn't going to be easy and when she does get cheated on or pregant you are gunna be the one that knew it was gunna happen all along. When she does get hurt you're gunna be there for her. and i know its gunna be hard to watch this but if she won't listen to you at all then why bother.?
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Sam.
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Tell Someone you trust, they can help you. If she won't talk to you their is a chance that she is getting into these bad habits so you need to get her help before somehting goes seriously wrong. Keep trying to talk to her, don't give up. I hope everything works out!
<3 Morgan
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Hi,
I think you might want to tell your parents or her parents it's not like you are being a 'tadletale' i mean i would want to protect her! so i want you to really think about that maybe go to your parents firts and see what they say!!
I hope i helped!!
Stephanie
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This is a terrible position for you to have to be in. I'm sorry your friend is doing this to you.
My guess is that, for whatever reason, your friend really likes this guy and because of this, right now it is just easier to ignore the truth and focus on the fantasy of him.
Due to the way she is shutting you out, as much as I hate to do this, there is very little you can do. I'm sure the idea of speaking to her parents has crossed your mind but I would advise against this because it isn't something that she will thank you for. Unfortunately, what she is doing right now is making a mistake that she has to make and recover from on her own.
This means that you need to let her go out with this guy and go through whatever horrible ordeal it takes for her to realise what a terrible choice she has made in persuing him. Now, what you need to also do is to let her know that you aren't going to bug her about it any more and that although you don't agree with her decision to go out with him, you want her to know that you are there for her and will be there if anything bad happens. She needs to know that she can come to you without having to fight too much of her own pride in the process. I'm sensing from your message that she is probably a very proud person, so even if she does work out he's bad news, she's unlikely to want to admit it so you need to make it as easy as possible for her to come to you when everything goes belly up.
If and when this happens, just be there to help her pick up the pieces. Give her a shoulder to cry on. Don't tell her you told her it was a bad idea or suggest in any way that you knew all along what would happen, because believe me, she will already know. Try to keep it as friendly but neutral as possible and help her get things back on track.
Don't worry, most girls that go out with bad guys learn very quickly their decision was a poor one.
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