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Does he even WANT to date me?
(this is long but I would really REALLY appreciate you reading it
and giving me some advice.)
Ok, So there's this guy. We met at a bible study.
And when we first met I noticed he starred at me alot
and whatever and he eventually asked for my number.
So we start talking on the phone, Then one day he told me he
liked me and that I was cute.. So I told him I liked him too.
At the biblestudy there's this stupid rule that says you cant date
anyone there. Like nobody can date eachother, or if they do they will get kicked out. So One day I asked if we were dateing, b/c I was confused. Like he didnt say we were but he acted like it.
He said no.. That hurt me.
So I made a small lie, One day he asked me on the phone what
I did that day, and I said just hung out with Kevin.
-who's Kevin?
-Oh this guy,
-What guy?
-A guy
-Do you like him, (ect.)
and you know getting all jelous, and he said,
Well I dont like other guys going around the girls I like.
and I said, Well you said so yourself, were not dateing,
So why does it matter?
He said, Its not that he didnt want to date me, he just didnt want
to get kicked out of the study again, (He's been kicked out before
for dateing someone.) Excuse or not?
We didnt talk awhile after that, Then later when we werent
talking he came up to me one night outside the biblestudy and
put his arms around me and asked me what was wrong,
(I was avoiding him.)
I said we havent been talking.
Later things were still weird, then I was having this stupid
breakdown about my Exboyfriend, I talked to my friend about it
but she had to go somewhere real quick and he came and put his
arm around me asking me whats wrong. he was so understanding,
He asked me if I still had feelings for my ex, and that its his loss cause I'm a wonderful girl, and when we were done talking and we hugged, Without thinking, I kissed him on the cheek, He noticed this and kissed me on mine.
The next week at the biblecamp, We somehow ended up alone ouside,
and he had his arm around me, Then we french kissed.. XD
Ever sense then weve been just like we were before, Except alot
more flirting and touching.. I was so confused, Beacuse I dont want to be a whore. I really like this guy, But I'm not going to do crap with him if were not even dateing.
So yesterday on the phone I said..
"You know that were technically dateing right?"
"We are?"
"We have been for awhile now.."
"Ok."
"What?"
"Ok."
WTF DOES OK MEAN??
Yes? whatever?
I'm so lost. PLEEASSE HELP ME!
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Wow, guys are confusing. This boy is giving you mixed signals like crazy!
The best thing to do is ask him point blank. "Do you like me?" If he says yes, ask him why he's so squeamish when you mention 'dating'. It honestly doesn't make sense to me that the no dating rule in bible study would stop him from dating you. I know that when I really like a guy, no one can stop me from dating him if he likes me back.
I would keep trying for a while. See if his attitude changes after you talk to him. Tell him that if he really likes you, bible study wouldn't stop him from dating you.
From what you're saying, it sounds like he kind of just wants to fool around. But since he got so jealous when you mentioned Kevin, it sounds like he wants you to himself.
Give him a little bit more time to straighten out. If he keeps this up though, it's time to move on.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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Sorry to be the one to tell you this, but he's not all that interested with you. Seems like he's trying to play you. More like, no one else can have you...
Be careful, don't give away your true feelings too soon, you may be the one to end up getting hurt later on. Take more time to get to know what he's about. He is acting this way because he might be considering a relationship, but could be scared of commitment. Yes sweetie, he has commitment issues, and isn't willing to settle with you yet.
But don't give him too much of a time, you might be missing out on the next guy waiting for his opportunity to get to know you.
But in the mean time, keep "shopping around" believe me, life is too short to settle for less, and I know, you deserve better than him.
Good Luck!
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