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Q: 17/f
Thank you for the advice, it really helped me to prioritize my thoughts a little bit better. Now I just have to get up the nerve to say those things to him, without making myself look stupid and making it be awkward.
You're welcome. I'm glad I helped. I'm also glad you want to tell him how you feel because if you hold back your feelings because you are afraid of getting hurt, you'll wind up getting hurt anyway. Plus, you don't want to be left with any "what if's"... Don't worry about looking stupid- he'll probably think its cute; as for any awkwardness laugh it off with him. Good luck.

Q: `17/f
I really like this guy but I don't know if he feels the same way about me. We have a couple classes together so we talk and flirt back and forth. We text back and forth sometimes too. He always used to say these comments to me, some of them being sexual but some of them just being cute. My friend talked to him and told him I liked him and he said that he was trying to talk to someone else but yet he never denied liking me. The comments stopped after she told him, but now he's just starting to do the cute little things he used to do. I'm so confused, because before he knew I liked him, he'd send me these mixed signals. Does he like me and he just doesn't know what to say any more? Thank you.
Maybe he didnt know how he felt or how to deal with liking you and now he is comfortable with how he feels about you -Or- he was using you as a last resort; he liked you enough if things didnt work out with the girl he was talking to... There are so many possibilities. Tell him you are confused and that he has been sending you mixed signals. Ask him to be honest with you about how he truly feels. I hope I helped.

Q: My prom is next month!. ahh!.. I have a picture of what I want my hair to look like. BUT I want to get my hair cut now.
heres what I want for prom
http://a825.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images01/24/l_8410e4d9a6fe07f2b0e6795e7d991778.jpg

But I want to get my hair cut like Lindsey Lohan.
http://i50.photobucket.com/albums/f319/jaygotera/01_linsay_Lohan-maxim.jpg

is that possible to have my hair cut like that, but get it done like that other photo?
THANKS!
In most hair salons, you can bring in a picture of what style you want your hair to be cut and they can do it for you. Go somewhere you trust and somewhere that has a good reputation. Good Luck

Q: hi, my best friends brother told me about a month ago that he wanted to do "stuff" with me because he thinks im pretty cute and he knows i want him to because my friend tells him the little comments i make such as i was gonna jump out of his birhtday cake and stuff like that. well i told him no because i was nervous because im a virgin but ive pretty much lived at her house for the past 5 days and now i do want him and i dont know how to approach him cuz he told me after i said no that it was a one time offer. hes 4 years older then me but i dont really care about that
It is a one time offer?! He just wants to "hit it and quit it." Do you really want to lose your virginity to someone who will take it from you and than want nothing more to do with you? Wait to lose your virginity to someone who you care about, someone who you know cares for you in return, and someone you share a plan for the future with. If you want to kiss him, I don't reject, but keep in mind he will want to go further. Getting involved with him strictly as friends with benefits could really hurt you in the end. You could wind up wanting a relationship and he won't, or you could find out he is doing things with other girls since he is not committed to you and that will not feel good. Plus you are nervous to do something with him. This is your mind and body's way of telling you that you are not ready to do anything with this guy. Please think about this.

Q: and im so sick of love songs so sudden sloww..
or something like that who sings it?
I know you were already told it is by ne-yo and that it is called so sick but no one corrected the lyrics you mentioned in your question. That part of the song actually goes "I'm so sick of love songs so sad and slow..."

Q: I REALLY like this guy at my school. We had a thing going over the summer, and we still do, sort of, but he doesn't seem to want to make our relationship public yet. I think it may be because I'm a sophomore and he's a senior. Are there any ways I can make myself look older? He already knows I'm mature, so I'm not concerned about my actions... Also, are there any ways I can make him really want me? He likes me a lot and finds me attractive, but tricks that will make him like me even more would be great. Guys, if you can it would be great to get your opinion on how you like girls to dress. And girls, if you have any tips that have worked for you and are sure to make a guy more interested, I would really appreciate it. Thanks so much.
Do not change yourself for him. Dress how you normally dress. Act how you normally act. If this guy can't like you for who you are than he isn't worth it. Also, the relationship will be fake because he will not be liking you, but the girl you are pretending to be. Keep flirting with him, as yourself. Ask him if he wants to hang out, just the two of you or with a group of mutual friends. If he doesn't make a move anytime soon, move on. If he can't see you for the unique person you are, he isn't worth having you or your effort to get him.

Q: 15/f and the guy is 15 as well.

so basically, i'm going to leave out the fine details. i danced with the guy i like, a lot. the last slowdance. we talked a little and he was very sweet and cute. my best friend holly claims he was smiling the whole time he danced with me, which i assume is a good sign. after we pulled away, the lights came on and i said 'thankyou' and he smiled and was looking in my eyes (not so sure if this was intentional) and i got nervous, said goodbye, and turned away. i talked to him a lot online the next day, a very big conversation that was about nothing and full of flirting. the thing is, i don't know what to do next. i liked this same guy last year, and he liked me, and he asked me out. i said yes but then dumped him the next day because i was very nervous and scared and didn't know what to do, and i blew it.

now i have no idea what to do, and i'm INCREDIBLY shy. there's no way to tell if he likes me or not, and im pretty sure his friends dont like me very much as he is 'popular' and i'm 'not so popular'.

help is much appreciated,
thank you for reading this long story in advance!
Tell him you had a wonderful time and you have feelings for him again. Let him know you ended it before because you were really shy but you want to try it again. Popularity shouldn't matter and it didn't matter to him when he wanted to be with you the first time. Don't worry about what others will think. You don't want to live not knowing what could have happened so I say go for it. Good Luck.

Q: Hey Everyone,
alright, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 2 months, not very long I know. But we liked each other wayyyyy before then, for about 3 months, but we couldn't do anything about it because we were both seeing other people. But, he didn't cheat on his girlfriend and i didn't cheat on my boyfriend no matter how bad we wanted too. anyways.. he can drive.. so almost every Saturday we go bowling, sometimes we leave early and go to beach access. He told me his is a "virgin" and he's very honest about everything he says, so I'm pretty sure thats true. He wants to do more,[phone sex,fingering,dry hump, whatever] he says I'm to "shy" but actually I'm not shy at all.

my question's are..
-how can i overcome my shy-ness or whatever?!?

14/f
thanks bunches
summer ;)
He should not be saying that because you are too shy he doesn't want to go further. His only reason or excuse not to do anything like that with you should be if you are not ready to. If he really cares about you, he will wait until you are. So if you are not ready, do not let him pressure you or feel bad about it. It is your body, your choice.

Q: I'm 15 so i guess I'm not in "love" but I have really strong feelings for this guy whos a bit of a bad boy.

Hes ll months younger than me and the little brother of one of my best friends. I thought he was gross and not worth my time for the past 3 years that I've known him until now because I've gotten to know him. Hes white. I'm black. I have straight As and am about to skip a grade. Hes failed once or twice and is still in the 8th grade [im in the llth].

I'm a virgin and have never touched a drug or drink in my life. He isnt a virgin and used to have a habit of being under the influence. He seems to be quitting and has treated me better than any other guy I've dated or liked and he doesnt try to push anything on me like sex or drugs or anything.

Hes actually looking to me to help him stop. Both of us have strong feelings for each other. Should I be with him or am I wasting my time with this bad boy?
He wants to stop. The effort is there. You two like each other. You are the one he wants by his side and the support that he will most value. Also a positive, he hasn't pressured you into doing anything that you have never done and wouldn't feel comfortable doing. He respects you. Knowing he can better himself and being willing to shows that he is a strong person. This shows if he makes a mistake, he will try to fix it. If he hurts you, he will try his hardest to make it up to you. Helping him stay on his new path won't be easy but if you care for him, be there. Give him a chance. Good luck. I hope I helped and I hope it works out.

Q: but i had a dream about a month ago that i was pregnant so i started to believe it. and also i wanted to get pregnant..and in psychology i learned that this woman did that and she started to retain water and she got bigger and gained weight and whatnot. and then nine months later her water broke. but nothing came out. because she wasnt pregnant. and that happened to me. and now its happened again. i got rid of it last time because i got drunk off my ass and then threw up like 14 times. and i dont know how to get rid of it now. im calling it my "psychological fetus". but i dont drink anymore. so what do i do??
I have heard of it happening. You should definitely see a doctor. They can stop it from occurring and do something for you to prevernt it from happening again. I suggest that you also talk to someone such as a counselor or psychologist to help you cope with your experiences and find out what emotions about pregnancy you have that are causing this to happen. You can start with your school guidance counselor and ask if what you need help with can be kept from your parents. Since your body is being harmed they may be obligated to tell them. You can try asking you parents if you can see a therapist to talk to. Tell them it would make you feel better to let everything you go through in your life out to someone who will understand. They might not pry any further as to what you need to talk to one about. Your body could be producing too much of a hormone. Getting drunk is never the answer for solvong your problems, especially a medical issue. Getting help is the right solution. I hope you don't have to go through this again and that everything works out. I hope I helped. If you need anything else I'm here.

Q: When girls give BJ, I heard they swallowed the cum. is it true?
It is the girl's decision on whether or not she wants to. The guy can ask, but the girl does not have to.

Q: me and my bf have sex alot, but we're teens and limited with privacy i guess you could say, so like no baths and stuff, what are some things we could do to spice it up a bit... how can i turn him on! like him wanting me lol
thanks!!!!1
Ask him what new things he would like to try, what fantasies of his that he wants you to make come true. You can go to Spencer's and get him a sex coupon book. They are full of different things to do and by giving it to him, he has the power to choose which one he wants to use and when. Engage in more foreplay before getting right into it. Stimulate his spots. You can massage eachother with a massage oil that can be used as a lubricant as well. Tell him what new things you want him to do to you. Try whispering dirty in ear the things you want. There are always new things to try. Have fun ;) If you want anymore tips inbox me. Hope I helped.

Q: ok so i get extremely turned on when i watch gay guys (or just 2 guys) makeout and stuff but im a straight female so i was wondering is this normal?? i know its hott for 2 girls to makeout to guys and when i see guys holding hands i think eww but when they makeout i think its so hott esp when they get into it. is this ok and/or normal? thanks so much! :]
Don't ever feel ashamed about what/who you like or let others make you feel that way. It is definitely ok. There is no such thing as normal or the normal way to feel. Be proud of what you like and who you are.

Q: What are some things i could whisper in my bf's ear while we're making out that will turn him on?
Tell him the things you wish that you were doing together: what you wish he was doing to you and how you would want him to do it, the things you wish you were doing to him... Tell him how attractive he is and how much you care about him. Say what's on your mind, he will like it.

Q: hey! well im moving to Kansas and 5 yrs ago i already lived there so my bff is still there and im gonna go visit nxt week tp check things out. im super excited to see her (tho i HATE that im moving!) i will be there for a while and stuff and if i meet her friends (who will hopefully become my friends) and any cute guys what should i do? i know be myself but i mean im usually outgoing but kinda shy with people i dont know. i just never know what to say!!! so what should i do to break the ice? i guess talk about how im moving and where im currently living and like ask hey whats around here to do and stuff but besides that? things for when i meet new people after im here and cant just alway say whats around here? haha thanks!! :)
Discussing the move is a good start. Bring up memories to the people you met five years ago if your bff is still friends with any of them. As for new people, I'm sure your bff will introduce you and make you feel comfortable. Let her know that you are nervous. Ask them if they ever moved. Ask about the positives and negatives of the school you guys will be attending together and about their favorite hangout spots. What people should you watch for? Do any of them live by the new house you are moving into? There are endless things to talk about. Relax and remember, you won't be the only one in the conversation who will be talking.

Q: i got drunk at a party
did really stupid stuff
people are really pissed at me and im scared to go to skool
i go to a public school which makes it even worse because thers like 100 kids per grade

im a mere freshman and it was a senior party and im so embarres and i did terriable stuff and im scared to go to skool
You can't avoid it forever. You have to go to school. Everyone makes mistakes. Talk to the people who are mad at you. See what it will take for them to forgive you. Apologize to everyone who wants or needs an apology. Try to work on getting forgiveness. Until then, you have learned and are learning from your mistakes. It could have been a lot worse. You now besides it being illegal and dangerous, you have even more reasons not to drink again. By saying you are a mere freshman when saying it was a senior party, this shows how uncomfortable you felt going. Even if you decide to be sober at the next party, which I highly encourage, you still will not be comfortable with the older group. Use this experience to make better decisions in the future. It will take time but people should eventually get over it. Their anger will soon turn to someone else who messes up. I hope it all works out.

Q: i wanna try out for a play at my school but i am afraid my friends will make fun of me. they make fun of everyone who are in them. i been wanting to do it forever and i finally have the confidence to try out but they are holding me back :( is tryin out worth it?
It took you a long time to get over the stage fright and must up enough courage to want to try out. This is something you have always wanted to do and you finally feel ready to pursue it. Don't let worrying what other's think keep you from doing what you want to do. Your happiness is important. If you truly value their friendships than talk to them. Tell them you would like to have their support. If they continue to mock your dream than they are mocking you. You don't deserve people who will discourage you from doing something you care about. You deserve friends who will make you feel good about your love for acting, not make you feel ashamed of it.

Q: if my sista and I like the same guy but he likes only me, should i go out wit him neway?? i don't want my sista 2 hate me but i don't want 2 lose the chance!
You need to talk to both of them. Tell your sister how you feel about him and about the situation about you both liking him. Have the same conversation with your crush. See how they both feel about you two starting a relationship. Find out if he likes your sister as well. You don't want to start the relationship off on the wrong foot. Get everything out on the table. I hope everything works out. If you need anything else I'm here.

Q: my boyfriend and i have been dating for a little over a month and its kinda a long distance thing and he wants to see "pictures" of me and wants me to send them through texting... im not really comfortable with that but he gets upset what should i do :/
If the pictures involve nudity, I feel that is too early in a relationship to engage in that kind of behavior. Besides that point, if you are not comfortable doing something, then don't do it. Your boyfriend should not be pressuring you to do something you do not want to do. He should respect your wishes, your feelings, your morals, you as a person and you as his girlfriend. Don't let him manipulate you into doing it, especially the famous ~if you love me, you will~ line. The truth is, if he loves you he'll wait. If he continues to pressure you, it is time to let him go as hard as it may be for you. You deserve someone who respects you. If I took it wrong and it is a normal picture of you (no nudity or explicit content) then I say why not? He already knows what you look like and appreciates your beauty. He should make you feel confident and beautiful. Him having respect for you still applies here but it is not an issue worth breaking up with him for. You may feel shy, but I don't think that is asking for much or asking for anything wrong. If he can call you his, he should be allowed to have a picture of you. You can have him send you a pick of himself first. I hope I helped. If you need anything else I'm here.

Q: ok so last year, i went to my middle schools first dance.well my friends and i were kidding around and we randomly chose him for me to like for the year. of course we knew it was just a joke. so for the night i pretended to like him. he was in my homeroom and i sat besde him and we became really good friends.about halfway through the year i started accually liking him.so we like ALWAYS sat together at lunch and in classes so i got the impression he liked me too.at the end of the year i told him that i liked him and aked if he liked me too.he said that he didnt think of me that way and we were just reall good friends.so for the rest of the summer i was depressed and by the time we had to go back to school i hadnt talked to him.well i have science class with him and he is constantly flirting with me.i was talking to him one day and he asked me who i liked. i told him that i wasnt going to tell him because i hadnt even told my best friends. he was like, "its not me is it? because that was really weird" i leid and told him it wasnt him. he is really confusing me and its really hurting me. wat can i do?
First of all, that was a nasty trick your friends sucked you into. No one should ever tell you who you should or should not like, and you should never pretend to like someone. Maybe as a second part to this so-called joke, your friends told him you were ~assigned to like him~ and he is trying to get back at you by playing with your emotions. -Or- He could not like you and feels comfortable flirting with you, hence leading you on without realizing it. There are so many things that could be going on here. Maybe he really does like you and his friends make fun of him for it so he won't pursue his feelings further. -Or- He won't admit liking you because he has been hurt before, and he is afraid that you will hurt him too. Has he ever had a girlfriend? Could it be that he doesn't know how to act on his feelings or that he is too shy? I can list more possibilities but you won't be able to find out which one is true unless you confront him. Tell him last year he gave you the impression that he liked you back but denied it. Tell him you don't understand why he is continuing to lead you on if he is claiming he doesn't have feelings for you in that way. This is hurting you and confusing you. You need him to clear it up. If he claims again that he doesn't like you and if you want to remain friends with him, tell him you would like him to stop flirting with you. If he does like you, consider the games he has playing with your head before you consider dating him. If you want to date him anyway, he needs to be open and honest with you about his feelings. I hope I helped. If you need anything else, I'm here.

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My advice is based on my experiences, my morals, my values and what I would do if I were the advice seeker. I always put myself in your shoes and look at all sides of the story. I love updates, so please inbox me to let me know how everything turned out because I worry about you! Some lessons I hope to teach all include: *Always stand up for what you believe in *Never give up *Fight for those who would fight for you *Don't hold back your feelings because you're afraid of getting hurt; you wind up getting hurt anyway *Don't follow your dreams- chase them *Appreciate the things you have *Always put others before yourself *It's always ok to feel, but it's not always ok how you react to those feelings *Learn from yesterday live for today and hope for tomorrow

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