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ok so last year, i went to my middle schools first dance.well my friends and i were kidding around and we randomly chose him for me to like for the year. of course we knew it was just a joke. so for the night i pretended to like him. he was in my homeroom and i sat besde him and we became really good friends.about halfway through the year i started accually liking him.so we like ALWAYS sat together at lunch and in classes so i got the impression he liked me too.at the end of the year i told him that i liked him and aked if he liked me too.he said that he didnt think of me that way and we were just reall good friends.so for the rest of the summer i was depressed and by the time we had to go back to school i hadnt talked to him.well i have science class with him and he is constantly flirting with me.i was talking to him one day and he asked me who i liked. i told him that i wasnt going to tell him because i hadnt even told my best friends. he was like, "its not me is it? because that was really weird" i leid and told him it wasnt him. he is really confusing me and its really hurting me. wat can i do?
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ehh it depends..its a tough situation. let me just ask you this...what grade are you in? (so i know about how old this guy is, so i know what he's thinkin)
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First of all, that was a nasty trick your friends sucked you into. No one should ever tell you who you should or should not like, and you should never pretend to like someone. Maybe as a second part to this so-called joke, your friends told him you were ~assigned to like him~ and he is trying to get back at you by playing with your emotions. -Or- He could not like you and feels comfortable flirting with you, hence leading you on without realizing it. There are so many things that could be going on here. Maybe he really does like you and his friends make fun of him for it so he won't pursue his feelings further. -Or- He won't admit liking you because he has been hurt before, and he is afraid that you will hurt him too. Has he ever had a girlfriend? Could it be that he doesn't know how to act on his feelings or that he is too shy? I can list more possibilities but you won't be able to find out which one is true unless you confront him. Tell him last year he gave you the impression that he liked you back but denied it. Tell him you don't understand why he is continuing to lead you on if he is claiming he doesn't have feelings for you in that way. This is hurting you and confusing you. You need him to clear it up. If he claims again that he doesn't like you and if you want to remain friends with him, tell him you would like him to stop flirting with you. If he does like you, consider the games he has playing with your head before you consider dating him. If you want to date him anyway, he needs to be open and honest with you about his feelings. I hope I helped. If you need anything else, I'm here.
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He seems to me like a person who likes to lead people on and a major flirter. I've had this happen to me before, and I could never seem to let the guy go, but one day I just got fed up with all of his drama and lies ... but ask yourself these two questions:
1. Can I live without him?
2. Do I really want to keep liking a guy who doesn't like me back?
If your answer to number 1 is yes than that's good! But you have to be COMPLETLY hinest with yourself on these questions, because if you can live without him, then do just that. Give your heart to somebody that will take care of it and love you without hurting you. But, if your answer to 1 was a no, than you might have a problem because letting go is hard, but why keep holding on and getting hurt? You deserve much, much better.
If your answer to number 2 was a no, than that is really good! Because, who wants to be in that situation? It's not fun and there are plenty of other guys [better] out there. But if your answer was yes, than you need to think about the future. Do you really want to be falling hard for a guy who doesn't feel the same way and in the end hurts you?
Anyt more problems? I'm always here sweetie :]
Good luckk
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