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Trust Issues.. ??
ok well..me and my bf have been datting for 8 months almost 9. Well the last spring break we had when we were out of school.. i meet some new friends..6 of them. 3 girls.. and 3 boys. well one night all the girls were watching the guys play basketball. Well out of the blue one of them says ok..jack( not real name) I dare you to kiss Summer ( me) if I make this shot. and of course he made it. well I kinda see jack glance over at me... and im thinkinh?? is he really going to do it? then he walks over and kiss's me on the lips twice. well one night I was talking to the guy that kissed me on AIM! and he goes "Just got my braces off' and I was like " kool" he said " that way when I come back down there will be more room for your tounge" and I was thinking " o god" well I have a bestfriend who I tell EVEYTHING to well I was talking to her and Imed her the convo. showing here what I he said! well I accidentally.. semt it to my bf instead of her! and I was so.. MAD! well now.. he broke up with me.. and were back together.. but..he still cant get over it. like he will call me and when im not there he will IM me saying "YOUR PROBLEY AT THE POOL WITH JACK" and I dont even like Jack and I dont know what I can do to get his trust back any suggestions?
MUCH LOVE <33!
Thankxx!
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Well you could try general repentance/ trying to make it up to him. Ei making cards, sending nice emails, promising to never do it again, day you're sorry, be overly nice, ect.
You could also try to spin the situation in your favor. Let's face it. Those guys were assholes. Did you ask to be kissed? No. Did you even kiss them back?
You need to explain this to your boyfriend. If you didn't kiss him back or even if you weren't looking for the kiss, it's not your fault. You were harassed by a couple of idiots and you should not feel accountable for this or ashamed. Tell your boyfriend how used you feel by these idiots and the truth, that you DON'T like Jack. That should make him feel better and hopefully he'll drop the situation.
As for those those guys... I suggest you find some new friends.
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He is probably still hurt and bothered by what happend and it will most likely take him a little while longer to get over it. But he needs to understand that its not fare to keep holding that mistake over your head, especially since you two are back together... The best way to get his trust back is to show him that you can be trusted, dont lie to him and just speak to him some more about how you realize what you did in the past was wrong. People make mistakes and he should be able to forgive you if he truely cares(and by taking you back, its like saying he does forgive you but that is not always the equavilent to forgeting). GOOD LUCK! :)
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He'll hold it over you head for awhile. You just got to be glad he took you back and stick it out. Be happy with what you got hon. He just probably was hurt. Ask him if he needs to talk. And tell him how when he makes remarks like that how he makes you feel.
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