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Sick of her ragging on me.
My friend Taylor, *of 7 years* always tries to make her look better then me. She always tells people I'm having a bad hair day, I'm breaking out, my parents are strict *even though HER parents are the super strict ones, deff. Not mine!* she'll tell them my families having money problems, I complain to much, or that my legs are a little hairy or something, especially around popular people and hotties.
She ALWAYS does this, I hate going places with her. She thinks she totally cool, but shes not. After two hott guys chose me over her, she's been like this. I'm not trying to compete against her, she just auotmaticly does this. I've tried talking to her, didn't work. What should I do?
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If talking to her hasn't done anything, I know she's been your friend of seven years, but if she can't just tone some of her opinions down a little when you've asked, she's not being too nice saying she's your friend. So I suggest the next best thing from approaching it the nice way is to not do the same back to her, but turn everything she says into a joke. If she says you've got hairy legs turn back around and say 'only you'd know, you lesbian, stop looking at them!' but in a jokey way. That way, she'll know how it feels to have the attention turned onto her like that, and hopefully make her feel a bit stupid. If she questions you on what you've done, or asks to have a word, then you have your reason for doing it, because you assumed seeing as she thinks you only find it a joke, you thought she'd take it the same way. After that, I'm sure she'll think before she says anything like that again.
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Shes just trying to build up on you dont let her do that to you. when she does stuff to you do it rite back to her if she says her family is having money problems say like yours isnt shell end up stoping and if she gets mad tell the only reason you did that is so she would stop. stay awsome Signed speedy0301 Goodluck!!**
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she's hatin on you . she's just jelous( i know i can't spell). she's trying to build up her self esteem by putting you down. don't let it affect you. $ JAZZIEPINK_09 $
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hey!!
oh boy, do i know EXACTLY what you're talking about. honestly, i doubt that there is a girl in the world that hasn't gone through this. let me break it down for you: your friend is jealous of you and what you have, and she is insecure. when you are with her, you intimidate her and she needs to find a way to make you feel bad about yourself so that she can look better in other people's eyes. you're saying two hot boys chose you over her? well exactly... now she feels that you are better than her, her selfesteem has gone down, and now when you meet people she wants to make you look bad so that they don't choose you over her again!
basically, the only way to solve this in a matture way is to talk to her about it. i know you said it didn't work the first time you tried talking to her, but she probably didn't take you seriously. next time she does it (or if she has done it recently), pull her to the side, sit down with her and calmly explain to her that you don't like what is going on. don't yell at her and accuse her, because she will just become defensive and deny everything. just say "hey i want to talk to you about something. lately it seems like you've been putting me down in front of people and it really makes me think twice about our friendship." then give her examples of when she did it, and tell her that it hurts you and that it's not something you would do to her so she shouldn't do it to you either.
after this heart to heart, your friendship should become even stronger, and she should hopefully stop doing this. if she continues, then just tell her you don't really want to hang out with her anymore. it might be hard, but anyone who doesn't respect you and treat you right doesn't deserve your friendship! good luck and let me know if you need more help!! :)
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i know that you might not want to do this because she`s been your friend for 7 years, but i think it might be time to not be her friend anymore.
most people make fun of other people/try to make them look bad because they`re self-consious or have a low self-esteem about themselves. they just do stuff like that to make themselves feel better about their own lives.
actually, she might be the one who is haveing the bad hair day, who`s breaking out, who`s parents are strict, ect. ect. ect... and she`s just saying that about you so people won`t notice HER flaws.
so just try to talk to her ONE MORE TiME. have just you and her sit down privately and talk.
just say, "Taylor, lately you`ve been really mean to me. you always tell other people about all the bad things, like my bad hair days, break-outs and such. but really, you have them too. so just put yourself in my shoes. how would you feel if i told everyone about Y0UR bad hair days or break-outs? and i don`t want to lose our friendship, because we`ve been good friends for 7 years now, i just thought i`d let you know that you hurt me alot."
so try that, and if you have any other questions or anything leave them in my Inbox. <3
Hope I Helped. =)
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Ironically, I've been in this situation before. You really need to stand up to her. She shouldnt be treating you like that, for whatever reason it may be. She's making you feel bad,you shouldnt have to sit back and take it. Confront her about it again and explain to her how much it upsets you. Now if she doesn't listen to you again, then maybe she shouldnt be your friend anymore because friends are suppose to be there to bring you up. Good luck with this situation.
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She is not your friend. I am sorry to tell you this but a friend does not do these things EVER! A true friend would be building you up to people not tearing you down.
I would tell her that if she can't be a friend that she is not worth hanging out with. I can pretty much guarentee you that her toxic behavior is probably having the effect of keeping others from being friends with you.
Explain why you are dumping her and if she promises to change I would give her ONE chance and one chance only!!
Hope this helped.
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