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I'm Lindsey.. I'm 15.. I'm very honest and a lot of my friends come to me with advice and questions all the time because I do have a lot of information and experience and I can read people very well.. I know whether you're lying or being fake..

I can be VERY sarcastic sometimes and I HAAATE immature people.. by this age you need to start growing up.. I will answer absolutely any question I can as long as you're serious.. I will not answer questions that make no sense and have absolutely no point.. don't piss me off with those kinds of dumbass questions.. i also don't like questions on how you should dress or do your hair for a party and what kind of songs you should download.. this is an ADVICE column not a fashion column..

but don't be shy with questions you're really wondering about.. I'm here for anyone and everyone.. i LOVE giving advice and hearing about peoples problems.. i have enough drama around here to blow Laguna Beach off the charts! ;) so go ahead and ASK AWAY!! =)

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i have been going out with this guy for 2 months and our relationtship is great!.. but my best friend doesnt like him that much but she was fine with our relationship for a while... but the other say she told me that either i brake up with him or then she wants nothing to do with me!! she flat out told me choose between her and my boyfriend!!

how do i choose??.. i mean my boyfriend is great but i also love my best friend and would never want to lose her!

thanks.
--confused--

I don't think it's right for your "friend" to say you have to choose between the two best things going for you.. I think it's wrong and immature.. i also think there has to be a reason behind why she "doesn't like him".. if there's something wrong with him to her too bad.. he's not her boyfriend anyways.. she doesn't have to be around you when you're around him and no one's making her like him or even SAID she had to.. obviously she's not a very good friend and if she's really going to make you choose someone then she's not worth your time.. and maybe even if you do lose her as a friend soon enough she'll realize she was being really immature and start to miss you as a friend and want to make up.. if not then it's her loss.. don't choose between them because what's meant to happen will..

I hope I helped

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this is the most common complaint ever, but i just cannot talk to boys, and boys dont like me. im 14, i am not really into guys, im not a slut, i dont do drugs, i dont go out and party, im on ski team, im not a big flirt and i dont really want to be, i just need good advice about how to feel comfortable around guys...and dont say "treat them as if they are your best friemd!! their onlyt human" come on i really need help!

you're young yet so you don't have to be a slut or a flirt or in a long term relationship.. just enjoy life and everyone in it.. here might be a good way to do it..

being a flirt and being "friendly" truly are two different things.. if you're not really that shy then start hanging out with guys like during class and stuff.. make jokes with them and laugh and smile alot.. guys don't like being around moody depressed bitchy girls.. they love girls who know how to have fun and enjoy life.. and it's not flirting it's having fun -- and they'll probably really enjoy you being around.. just pretend they're girls that talk about different kinds of things and maybe these boys could turn out to be your best friends.. hopefully you'll have a lot in common with them (and skiing could be one of those things) and you'll be able to click right away with them..

good luck and I hope I helped!!

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Ok how can i make this short.. me and this guy dated for 7 months.. and i broke up with him because i thought I could have someone better.. and then i got back together with him like 3 times and then i broke up with him.. then just around my bday.. we started gettin all good again.. cause i missed him.. and then i found out from his friend that he had a gf.. well i felt like i could die.. i was so upset i cried everynite and i made myself so upset I threw up.. all the time.. I really love him it seemed.. and it was scary.. but then they broke up and i thought it was a chance for me then he got a new gf.. and i thought i was over him but i totally wasnt i still would cry everytime i thought about it all.. then she lied to him so they broke up.. but he wont give me a chance now and i really love him.. i really no it.. But i have about 5 guys after me now.. and i cant choose because i really love none of them i still love the other guy.. he says he just wants us to be bestfriends.. and its killin me i love him.. but its like he has no feelings for me now after 7 months.. i just dont no what to do* help me out..What should I do?

Ok.. 7 months may not seem like a long time but from my own experiences it's long enough to make two people truly fall in love.. i don't know why you always broke up with him but obviously every time you did it just made you realize how much you truly wanted to be with HIM and now someone else.. now.. he could just want to be friends because he likes someone else OR because he knows you like him and that you're not looking into other guys and that makes him think he has no competition and can take you back anytime he wants to.. i think what you should do is to start playing hard to get.. and these other 5 guys can play a really big part.. -- if you make it SEEM like you're over him and "moved on" (by dating these other guys that like you or at least MAJORLY flirting with them) it may make him realize that he's not the only love in your life and he might start rethinking whether he just wants to be "good friends" with you or not.. it might even make him realize how much HE still wants YOU and could send him crawling back to you.. the thing is you really have to make it seem like you're over him and not go running back to him right away when he starts showing interest in you again..

I hope I helped

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GoSh im having really bad luck with guys lately. all of the people i think are sooo hott and stuff dont think im hot but ive started hangin out with this girl..i mean she is like one of my best friends and she is absolutely gorgeous!! all of the people i thought were hott saw my friend and they're all like oh my gosh she is soo hot! and im really jealous of my friend ..i admitt im jealous but i dont know what to do! and this other kid that i kinda like i mean i cant like him because i dont know him but he is just soo cute but he goes to a different school..so i dont even get to see him only once in a while..and i havent even talked to him yet! ahhh i dont know how to tho my cousin kind of talks to him but they switched quarters and now she doesnt know if he will be in any of hers..and then she says that she kinda likes him ..i mean i cant say i like him i just think he is the cutest thing ever and i would maybe like to hangout with him! please dont suggest aim..tried that..didnt work out very well..very confusing so i dont know what else! everytime i ask my cousin to ask him to go to a movie with us he is just like maybe i will try to make it! and he never comes..so that doesnt work! any ideas for all of this?! i just feel so ugly lately =[

thanks..

I had the same problem back a year or two ago.. my friend was drop dead gorgeous and all the guys loved being around her.. BUT i had an advantage because i was her best friend and so when they would hang out with and talk to her i'd be right there in that conversation too and it sounds like i was using her to get guys attention but i was just using her to help me ;) so..

don't get jealous with your friend.. stay really good friends with her.. then as these boys approach her and hang out with you two make yourself stand out.. you may not be as pretty (and that may only be in your eyes) but you may have an amazing personality or could be really funny and that attracts more guys than looks.. you can be beautiful but if you're a bitch or are someone whos actually really hard to get along with you're going to push guys away.. so just make sure you stay by her side and when guys come around don't be afraid to get them to look your way too..

as for this guy you like.. he doesn't seem to be taking much interest into you and your cousin.. i don't think he truly wants to hang out with you two as much as you guys do him.. honestly i don't think he's worth your time and you should be more focused on the guys that actually take interest in you and that you'll see everyday..

I hope I helped

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ok...so theres this boy...lets call him Jimmy. and i've known him since kindergarden and i never really talked to him...like ever. and now we talk on aim a lot and hes 2 homerooms away from mine..and hes so hott. and i like him a lot. we have a dance on friday and i wanna ask him out before then but im afraid of rejection. what should i do? help...will rate 5's thanks
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ok well.. first of all ASK HIM!! yes like the advice before mine if he says no it will hurt.. BUT it will be worth it and if you don't ask him -- in a long run you're going to SOO REGRET it and wish you took that chance..

now.. if you don't want to sound corny or making it ovbious how much you like him then just act like you wanna go as friends.. have it seem like it'd be a great time to hang out and have some fun (hint hint: get him to dance with you) you can even be like "yo let's go to the dance together.. it seems like it'd be really fun to go with you " or something like that.. and probably the easiest way to ask would be on AIM.. if there was to be rejection it wouldn't be as bad as if it was to your face or in front of other people..

but don't think about that!! he's not going to turn you down and you know it.. it's just nerves =)

I hope I helped

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just to let you guys knwo im not using the real peoples names but still the situation that is going on.

ok at the beginning of the year i was really close with three other girls (Jessica, Lisa, and Natalie) we were all really close and kind of had a little clique thing. we told each other everythin but i was kind of closer to Lisa and Jessica and Natlaie were close together.

as the year went on it kind of split off into me and lisa and jessica and natalie.

we always had stupid fights which ALWAYS ended up being misunderstandings. like me and lisa thought they were ignoring us and they thought we were ignoring them. whatever. so these problems kept on happening

eventually me and lisa jsut sort of gradually stopped talking to Jessica and Natalie.

then the other day natalie let my friend see her phoen and my friend saw a text message that jessica sent to natalie saying "i hate samantha (me) and lindsay" this really through me off guard.

i mean i knew we had some problems but come on hate is a very strong word.

my question is i dont know if i should try to work it out with jessica and natalie i mean we were all really close or should i just stop being friends with them. i really dont know what to do please help!

I think you should first ask them what that text message was all about.. maybe it was just a "spur of the moment" thing.. BUT then again maybe they really meant it.. (which i highly doubt) -- my first thought was that if they really do feel that way about you and lisa honestly.. they're just jealous of you two.. and i don't know why.. maybe it's looks or fashion or who has more friends than the other but obviously there is no reason for them to have that "hate" in their hearts if you two never did anything to them.. tell them you don't hate them and they should have no reason to hate you.. what'd you ever do to them.. tell them you'd like to just be friends (but maybe not as close as you used to be) and want to stop all this childish fighting.. if they're not willing to compromise or if they are nice to your face but still talk about you two behind your backs then screw them.. let them be mad and know that you two did NOTHING and they obviously are jealous.. i mean it's the truth.. people don't just hate eachother..

well good luck and I hope I helped

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14/f...What's a good way to make a move that is NOT SO OBVIOUS on one of your good guy friends? A way that won't totally freak him out and is like dropping hints?
I RATE HIGH!!
thanx
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The best way to "put the moves on someone" without going overboard is to be really flirty.. play around with him alot.. laugh alot touch his arm and tell him how great is when he says something funny or sarcastic.. play with his hair and grab his hand anytime possible (like you're trying to get whatever is in his hand at the time) laugh and smile a lot.. no guy wants a depressed moody bitch around.. tell him you love him [ "as a friend" ;) ] a lot to show him that you like a lot about him.. even show interest in things he likes.. if he likes basketball see if he'll go to a school game with you one night or some other little fun date that seems like you just want to "hang out and have fun" with each other.. and honestly.. i don't think you can "overdo" flirting.. guys LOVE attention and he will notice little hints that you're attracted to him in the process..

I hope I helped

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okay well i met this guy like .. 2 months ago .. well i had been VERY hurt before & to b perfectly honest.. i didnt have much interest in this kid i was mad & wanted to leev my house so i told em to come get me liddle did i kno wat was happening.. well we ended up hittin it off we were perfect for eachother.. weird eh? .. well we ended up kissing & it just all felt right.. well still i was worried of my image at school cuz it was liek a complete random hook up & wat not.. well we ended up gettin together.. & all was GREAT i loved being with him & he always said the right things & wat not well one night to much liquior & sweet talkin led to sex.. i was SO SO SO scared to open up like i HAD A HUGE TALK with him the night before & hes liek u gota trust me babe im different i promise.. & i bought it all well next day.. we broke up i culdnt figure it out he swore he stillw anted to b with me he juss needed to think i culdnt figure out wat i did that was oh so wrong but i dont kno.. well he invited me over that night nothin reallty changed we still kissed & stuff.. school eh okay i guess kinda embaressed but okay i guess well we spent the next month off & on till i got so fed up with i ignored him more & more then one random night he came back & told me he wanted to b together & he was really sorry bout it here we go again all up hill.. he called em everynight & called me baby & there i was fallen again.. & i was so ready to be his.. well i went to his house a few days later.. & he told me he was in love with me i didnt say anything i thought he was jokin but i juss sat there so he walked off then no lie 5 minutes later & he told em he didnt like me at all.. so there i was cryin hurt cunfused & it didnt get much better a few calls & kisses still back to the start,, well then it got good again sorta.. we were supposed to hang out & i was so totally happy all day a HUGE smile ! well then he text me & said dotn ever talk to me again... & supposevly one of my guy friends said i promised i wuldnt talkt o him & now he wont talk to me & he said "i want nothin between us juss friends i cant deal with you" so i spent the entire night cryin i didnt go to school i culdnt face him i cant let go im stuck i have no idea wat im doing so wrong && i love him alot .. i really do it sounds dumb but i do & he was juss in a long relationship & the girl broke his heart so i feel terrible liek i cant amount to her i wana juss show him i love him & i wana b okay.. but i cant.. & i kno he'll coem back but i cant do it again & he leaves at the end of the year .. so im screwed i just wish i never met him.. im sorry this is long but i need someone out there to help me.. & sayin "get ocver it" wont work ive tried so so so hard.. i love him i need something better.. thanx.......

Well.. everything seemed to be going great at first for you.. you just got out of a really bad break up and all of a sudden *Mr. Perfect* came around - or so you thought.. It's great that you two hit it off and you didn't stay just "friends with benefits" but you started dating.. but from my own VERY VERY similar situation 6 months ago (which of course im still not over and highly doubt I ever will be) I think your first mistake was giving it up to him.. i don't know how long you two were dating before you had sex but it couldn't of been that long.. and that right there wasn't great.. you need to make guys want and crave you by not going that far with them until you know they TRULY love you.. not just act like it.. and that could be why he left.. he got what he wanted and now was moving on to his next victim.. Now, i don't believe he really needed to "figure things out first" he just sounded like he used you.. yet he came back.. and that could very much mean he's just in need of getting "pleasured" again.. or maybe losing you showed him he really did have feelings for you.. THEN you went through this whole on off again stage.. i think to figure out if he TRULY does "love" you in any way.. you need to start ACTING like you're over him instead of showing how much he's hurting you.. ignore him and his calls.. when he asks you over tell him you'll see and then later tell him you have other plans - maybe some other time.. tell him these made up stories how you ALMOST hooked up with some random guy or how you were flirting all night with him.. that should make him feel like he has competition and could lose you to this other guy.. and because you know he'll come back don't feel like you'll be pushing him away with these little acts.. the clingier you seem the more he's going to back off -- the more you act like you don't want him the more he's going to crave you again.. try it and see what happens..

I hope I helped some

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I used to masturbate alot and it felt like it should feel. but for the past 3 months i havent really felt anything i think i just climax but dont orgasm. am i broken? or did i over do it? will i ever be able to ever orgasm again? thanks i rate 5's.

I'm not sure if it's even possible to overdo it.. it is naturally alittle harder for girls to go through an orgasm than guys.. especially when it'd only you pleasuring yourself.. plus it's very healthy to masturbate a lot.. you might want to try different ways of masturbating.. whether it be playing with your breasts while doing it or tickling yourself around your vagina.. just try different ways to make you orgasm more.. also you might even want to try a vibrator or other toys to help you get a more pleasurable experience..

good luck and i hope the excitement comes back soon

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Ok.. so Me & this guy.. Ben. Were like 'best friends' in the summer.. & he had a girlfriend since 7th grade.. & they broke up in like.. October.. so it was a pretty long relationship. & I helped him get through the whole break up phase & to basically get over her. Then in late October Me & him were at a party & we both got drunk & hooked up & he fingered me. So that made things kinda weird because we were so close. & I`ve liked him for a long time.. but idk what to do bc he`s still not totally over his ex.. & i'm not sure how to tell him or show him that i really do care about him & i wanna be w/him.. If you can help me figure out what to say/do.. that would be greattt

If you want to get him over his ex and liking you be very flirty.. yet don't over do it, make it obvious, and push him away.. play around with him alot when you're together and even give him little suprises.. if you really want to get his ex out of the way show him how she never deserved him and how he can have so much better.. make him feel like she wasn't worth it.. you can even tell him he needs someone more like you who is totally way better! ;) he seems like he does have feelings for you with some of the things he did and keep that in mind to assure yourself he's not exactly looking to be "just friends".. the more you flirt with him and make him see what a great girlfriend you could be the more he's going to want you and forget all about that other bitch..

i hope i helped some

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I had sex with a guy and the condom broke, its been like... 2 weeks and i was wondering what the earliest signs for pregnancy were? Like,what starts happening to your body? and how soon does it happen? pleeeaaseee i need to know as much as possible! im 16 and i CANNOT be pregnate! thanks alot!

Here's some advice from someone who's been there.. My period was late and i took a pregnancy test and it came up negative.. i got my period 3 days later and then it stopped for good.. well 5 1/2 months later guess where i found myself.. yes pregnant..

First, since it's been about 2 weeks you should start thinking about taking a pregnancy test.. you might want to get more than one to make sure the results are accurate and READ THE DIRECTIONS CAREFULLY!! otherwise you will get inaccurate results.. There are other signs that you could be pregnany besides missing your period because a lot of girls lose their period because of how nervous they are that they think they are pregnany when they really aren't (if that's the case, it will come back when you calm down)

Also, there are some signs such as -- frequent urination, increased tiredness, breast engorgement (bigger boobs), tender (sore) breasts, morning sickness (feeling sick or throwing up either in the morning or at night), & many more..

My problem was.. the only sign i had was no period.. i was fine otherwise and so you can't always go by body changes in the beginning..

For more information try this website:

http://www.pregnancycenters.org/teen-pregnancy-symptom.asp

plus there are many other's out there.. just go to www.Google.com

i hope i helped

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