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friends or not friends THATS the question
just to let you guys knwo im not using the real peoples names but still the situation that is going on.
ok at the beginning of the year i was really close with three other girls (Jessica, Lisa, and Natalie) we were all really close and kind of had a little clique thing. we told each other everythin but i was kind of closer to Lisa and Jessica and Natlaie were close together.
as the year went on it kind of split off into me and lisa and jessica and natalie.
we always had stupid fights which ALWAYS ended up being misunderstandings. like me and lisa thought they were ignoring us and they thought we were ignoring them. whatever. so these problems kept on happening
eventually me and lisa jsut sort of gradually stopped talking to Jessica and Natalie.
then the other day natalie let my friend see her phoen and my friend saw a text message that jessica sent to natalie saying "i hate samantha (me) and lindsay" this really through me off guard.
i mean i knew we had some problems but come on hate is a very strong word.
my question is i dont know if i should try to work it out with jessica and natalie i mean we were all really close or should i just stop being friends with them. i really dont know what to do please help!
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you should stop caring about these kind of things. if u dont click with some people then you dont. if they backstab u their ganna keep doing it. just get over it so they will get over themselves you will all grow up and forget about eachother.
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dont take this offensively, but unless im misunderstanding you, natilie and jessica seem a little immature for saying those things about you and lindsay. Really, if i were you i would try to work it out, but if they continue to talk about you behind your back, i would definetly move on, they aren't worth your time. I hope all goes well
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Hey,
This is the kind of situation my friends and I are in right now.
I wouldn't all together just stop being friends with them. First, talk to them about it. Say, "So...what was up with that text message on your phone? Do you hate us or what?" Try to work it out with them. Chances are, they didn't really mean what they said, because I know I say "hate" sometimes too, even if I don't mean it (like if I'm annoyed with somebody). Tell them you want to be as close as you were before, and that you want to be friends again and maybe hang out more often. Hopefully, they feel the same way and will want to work things out, too.
If they're not willing to work it out, then forget about them. As close as you guys were before, remember that relationships often come and go...people can change. My best friend of 5 years and I just stopped talking right after we moved to different schools. Even though I miss her, I have to let it go.
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I think you should first ask them what that text message was all about.. maybe it was just a "spur of the moment" thing.. BUT then again maybe they really meant it.. (which i highly doubt) -- my first thought was that if they really do feel that way about you and lisa honestly.. they're just jealous of you two.. and i don't know why.. maybe it's looks or fashion or who has more friends than the other but obviously there is no reason for them to have that "hate" in their hearts if you two never did anything to them.. tell them you don't hate them and they should have no reason to hate you.. what'd you ever do to them.. tell them you'd like to just be friends (but maybe not as close as you used to be) and want to stop all this childish fighting.. if they're not willing to compromise or if they are nice to your face but still talk about you two behind your backs then screw them.. let them be mad and know that you two did NOTHING and they obviously are jealous.. i mean it's the truth.. people don't just hate eachother..
well good luck and I hope I helped <33
Lindsey
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Have a talk with Jessica and Natalie... tell them what your friend saw, tell them you still like them both very much, name a few things that you like about each of them and ask them why they said they hate you, ask them what you did to make them feel that way.... I think they would feel sorry for saying that... but if they don't then maybe its best not to be friends with them anymore...
Hope I helped!
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