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ok so this is basically a follow up of my other question.
like i said in the last one, me and my sister dont' get along anymore. which just basically sucks. well so the other night she tells me she hates me and she wasn't playing arund i could tell and she told me today again she did and shes repeated more times. i guess just to keep me aware that i know. who knows. well like i can't talk to her because she wont listen. like you can say some people are stubborn. shes stubborn but its her bf. well he basically controls her. well i cried thatnight when she first told me that and i cried this morning in class and now again because she just told me again. and i don't know what to do. to either keep hiding that it hurts me so much or just i don't know. i jsut want some advice i can use. thx in advance. (link)
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Hi there! :o)I promise she doesn't hate you! When I was younger I use to yell at my mom that I hate her when we had a fight, but I love her more than life! Try to be extra nice to your sister (even if your mad and hurt) let her borrow your clothes, get her some coldrink when you get yourself some... maybe your sister would start feeling bad because she told you that and start being nicer to you too! tell her you really love her and you want to be friends with her, you want her to talk to you about everything and anything and you want to do the same with her...
Hope my advice helps!
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its gotten tot he point where I feel so low about myself I could crawl into my bed and never come out. I want to be with someone that makes me feel special.. Why cant i find that guy?
Ive never had a bf treat me good and for a long time now i havent had a bf.
Im a normal girl and I know im not realllly ugly.. I actualy sometimes think im pretty..
I have talents and yes I have flaws. But i think id be a really good girlfriend.
what can I do? (link)
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Hi there :o) You need to understand that No one can make you happy, its something you have to do on your own.... Its funny how it works but usually when you stop looking for a boyfriend one seems to find you...
I am 20 turning 21 and guess what!! I have found that guy that makes me feel really special just 1 month ago, don't get me wrong I had boyfriends while I was in school, I dated a few, 2 where long term.. but non of them made me feel really special (it was puppy love, it was special but nothing like now....) When your older and more mature you will find that special guy, that makes you feel like your the only beautifull woman on the planet...
Enjoy dating while in school but just keep in mind that there is only better to come don't try to get to serious!
Enjoy your friends untill you find a boyfriend (because usually when you have a boyfriend your friends sort of stand last in line)
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Hey, how do you lose weight in your arms?
And how do you lose weight in your thighs? I DO NOT WANT TO MAKE THEM MORE MUSCULAR IF POSSIBLE! I just want them to be slimmer. :]
Thank you! (link)
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Hi there :o) Jumping rope is good for you arms and your thighs! push ups helps alot with your arms (I do it, it really works!!! I do 20 push ups a day) Try eating healthy, try to snack less on sweets and chips and junk food and more on healthy things like fruit, carrot sticks and nuts.... walking at a fast pase for 30 minutes a day works really fast and really good... just try to be a little more active, every little helps :o)
Goodluck and hope I helped!
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15/f Okay, so I went out with this guy for almost 9 months. I grew really attached to him. Then suddenly he said the relationship wasn't working. So you can imagine I was crying nonstop for a few days because he was acting all happy while all I do was lay down, not eat and sleep. So 3 days after the split, I went to see him and before that, he said we shouldn't kiss but yeah...we made out. I went to see him again after that and we made out again. So a couple of days pasted by, he said we shouldn't get back together but lately he's been calling me "babe" and telling me "I love you" and similar things to that. He said he won't date other people and that he hasn't been flirting with anyone. A lot of girls found out he's single and has been flirting with him like crazy but he's avoiding it all. What am I supposed to think? He says hes single, what am I? Am I on a leash? He says he still likes me a lot. Should I still hold onto him or try to move on? (link)
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Hi there! He's just playing with you, looks like he wants to be single for a while, he wants to play the field (even though he says he woun't date other girls, doesn't mean he wouldn't make out with them...) I would say try to move on! I know its hard but it would safe you from alot of heartache!
Goodluck!!
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My boyfriend and i love to have sex and well we've pretty much did every position you could think of and last night he told me that he wants to try knew things like kinky stuff......i dont want it in my butt, he dosnt want to use handcuffs so what are some really good kinky things that we could try that feel awsome?
i'll 5z if you can help plz do and as fast as possible thx (link)
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Hi there! Try blindfolding each other, give him a lapdance, rub ice all over him, try having sex in interesting and exciting places...
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ok...i am dating this guy ...have been dating for ...7 months now and i like him....i am really young and so is he...i am 14 and he is 16..... he dont live in my town but he comes to see me and my dad and my brother every weekend..... he gets very mad and upset when he cant c me when he wants ... hold me or touch me ..... well i like him ...and i really dont want to hurt him and i dont want to lose him.......but he is wanting to run away and try to make it on our own........ hes family is very welthy so he has the money to run away .... and he is saving up ..... i dont want to run away .... i want to finish school and make a something of myself... not having to lean on him for everything...i want him to finish school and to make something of hiself 2!..... but i dont want to hurt him by saying i dont want to run off with him... what can i tell him ? ........... ps..... plz dont tell me that i am to young to b dating or anything like that ..cuz that isnt really helping me at all!!! (link)
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Hi there!! I know you don't want to loose him, tell him that!! But you have to tell him that you don't want to run away and tell him why! Tell him that you can get married after you both have finished school and then get your own place... if he says something like thats to long a time to wait then tell him it would be worth the time and that that would show his love to you, because if you guys are still together by then that would mean you guys are really ment to be together! don't let him pressure you into running away, if he really loves you he would respect your feelings!
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I'm 13 and in 8th grade, and I still haven't had a boyfriend yet. I'm not HORRIBLY ugly, I actually think I'm pretty. But NO guys approach me at all. I've been told it's because I'm shy. And I am shy, but...I'm not sure if it's something else. Do you think that the fact I didn't have a boyfriend in middle school will make guys turn me down in high school? I don't want to be single forever.
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Hi there!! DON'T worry!! You will get a boyfriend when the time is right!! I had my first boyfriend when I was 15, and im considered pretty and was also very shy... in the mean time just enjoy your friends and concentrate on your grades :o) Try to make some guy friends, im sure if you start talking or even just greeting some guys one will ask you out
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Hey, i'm a girl. I weigh about 105 pounds and my height is 5 feet. I am very active and do sit ups and leg lifts every night. im trying to lose 5 pounds. what foods should i eat and stay away from?
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Hi there!! :o) Eat lots of veggies and fruits and nuts and any white meat (like chicken and fish) try to avoid things like crisps and and sweets and junk food.... If you crave something, don't avoid the craving (eat a small portion of what your craving) usually when we crave our body needs a nutrient thats in the food your craving for...
Goodluck and don't loose anymore than 5 pounds because you are at a healthy weight!
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OK, I'm starting swimming lessons in about two or so months and well...I have a HUGE ass. I'm talking massive. I know there's not much I can really do about that because none of the rest of me is fat so I'm guessing it's just the way I am. But I'm really self-conscious about it as I have super skinny legs and then this huge ass!! Sso has anyone got any good excersizes or tips for toning it up and improving my self-confidence? (link)
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Hey there!! Lots of guys like a big ass!! come on look at J-Lo! No need to feel self-conscious!! Walking as fast as you can while squeezing your ass will help alot if you just want to tone, swimming is also a very good excercise not just for the ass!
But im sure you look super hot without needing any excercises!!
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Does anyone know what it is called when you can make your eyes blurry? I don't even know if anyone knows what I'm talking about. But I can make my eyes just go blurry whenever I want them to, and they don't even look different.
If anyone knows what I'm talking about, or what it's called then please tell me and help me out! (link)
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I don't think there is a name for it.... sounds weird to me because I can't do it!! :o)... and this really isn't a problem!
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My mom is one of the most stubborn unreasonable people I know, and it's easy to see that we don't get along. I played tennis last semster and I want to play badminton this semster, even though my PE credit was already fulfilled last year. However, my mom won't let me play badminton, because she thinks one sport a year is good enough and she thinks my grades will drop if I do play (link)
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Hi there! Try making a deal with her, if you can play both tennis and badminton and keep up your grades for a month you get to play it as long as you like.... If she sees your grades dropping you will stop playing badmindton and do some chore that your mother hates for a few months.... or maybe make a deal with her and ask her if you bring your grades up to 5 A's and 2 B's if you can then play badminton.... tell her your teachers always encourage the kids to do more than one sport because after school activies count for when you want to get into college or university...
Goodluck!! really hope your mom lets you play badminton! :o)
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I have a problem with people being jealous of me. I don't know why they are - I'm not extremely beautiful or wealthy. I'm just an above average looking girl with average intelligence. I don't have a bf either, so this makes their jealously all the more perplexing.
I have a part time job with a union, and can afford to live on my own. I have an appartment I rent, a car, and a lot of nice furniture. I own about 150 CD's and 70 DVD's.
I by no means am rich, but only have myself to look after. So I can afford to spend my paychecks on what I please. I had saved up a bit and just bought a new futon and recliner. That made some of my friends REALLY jealous.
This one friend of mine makes just as much money as me but says that most of his paychecks go towards paying credit card depts. I have never had a credit card so don't have this problem. My sister is also jealous of me because she owes money to student loan payments. I never went to college so don't have this problem. Some of my other friends don't have cars, and are always saying how lucky I am to have one. But they don't relize how much money I put into it. I just paid 400 to replace the breaks. I wish I could just enjoy what I have without people feeling jealous. I earned it. What can I do, and how can I stop people from envying me? (link)
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Hi there! Jelousy is a nasty thing! Did you try to tell the people who you say is jelouse the same thing you told us, that you don't have other people to look after and that you work hard for your money so you deserve to buy what ever you fancy.... If you get yourself something new try not to tell anyone (otherwise they might think that you are bragging or rubbing it in their face...) try to make some new friends that have the same type of things you have (earn the same amount paycheck or more than you do) they woun't have any reason to be jelouse and will enjoy going shopping with you or what ever because they can afford it aswell...
Hope I helped!
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My mind always fills dirty things about guys. I always fantasize about their penises like how big they have, shaved or un-shaved, fat or thin. Its about all men, young and old, known or unknown. Imagine when I talk to a man, my mind goes fantasizing about his penis, Is this sickness?
I am 15/F. (link)
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Hi there :o) Well your fantasies doesn't harm anyone, your a teenager and your hormones are raging! Try to control your thoughs a little bit more, rather be intersted in the person self than what he has in his pants :o) Your not sick so don't worry!
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(I'm 13/f)There's this guy (lets call him M) and I thought I liked him so I told him I did and now he's my boyfriend. But the problem is I don't anymore. And I don't think I ever really did. He likes me a lot. Another problem is I like another guy (let's call him S) and I know he'll never like me back because he's really cute, and I'm, well, not. (He's into really pretty, really skinny girls)
So, what do I do?
1) How do I let M down easy and not hurt him too much?
2) Should I forget about S and move on?
(P.S. I know it said only to have 1 question per thing, but I thought maybe it'd be okay since it's the same topic?) (link)
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Hi there! :o) tell M his a really nice guy but you just want to be friends with him, he is probebly going to be upset but break ups are part of life (you learn from them) and he deserves someone who likes him just as much as he likes her....
And about S... dont sell yourselve short like that! There is always a possibility! Try to talk to S more, talk about things that he like and laugh at his jokes... but don't put your heart on him, in the mean time just scan your school for other possibility's.. your still young! soooo many guys so little time :oP
Never compare yourself to other girls ("He's into really pretty, really skinny girls") Your really pretty in your own way (everybody is!) and those really pretty girls might just lack in their personality! Be the best YOU can be, make the best of what you've got
Goodluck!! :o)
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Ok, me and my step mom dont "exactly" get along, she gets all pissed off at me because i forget to make my bed, or leave somthing on the floor (in my room) and she leaves all these stupid little notes saying "do this do that, we all live in the same house you know!!" and im trying my best to not yell back at her... i mean she ALWAYS yells at me, and i usually end up crying after ive gone into my room away from her... but i need help, because i know one of these days i wont be able to hold back and ill end up screaming at her... and thats definetally not like me unless i get over the top pissed off!! ill rate 5s to any1 who can help!
13/f
signed,
hoplessly traped (link)
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Hi there! A way to avoid any conflict is by do what she says (the she wount scream at you because there wouldn't be any reason to) Im not saying its right for her to scream at you because screaming isn't a option!! But just try your best to always to remember to do your bed and pick things up from the floor... best advice, get in her goodbooks by being trying to be really nice to her... maybe make her breakfast one morning, pick a flower from the garden, and write her a letter saying you are going to try your best to remember to make your bed everyday ect. ask her if she can respect you by not screaming at you if you do forget and just to remind you and when she does remind you leave everything your busy with and quikly go do it... she will soon relise that your only human and you do forget sometimes and she will see that your really trying and she will begin to try to be really nice to you too!
I hope I helped!
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When i was in 5th grade this kid had a crush on me and i had a crush on him, we never went out because we had boyfriend and girlfriends but we both knew we liked eachother.5th grade seems like we were to young but i remember this.but 5th grade he moved, and i remeber the day he moved he wrote me a note and told me hed never forget me and he wanted to keep in touch, we never talked after that day he moved.and now im in 10th grade and the other day i looked his number up in the phone book and called every person with his last name.i didnt get a hold of him then today he called me and it was weird he said ever since the day he left 5th grade he thought about me.but the problem is i have a bf who i really like and were doing good.but i really want to see him.and were supposed to meet at the mall tomarrow.and im not sure if i should go? should i? he lives right by me. and i miss him. thanks (link)
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Hi there!! :o) Wow that is weird! well the thing is you tried to call him before he called you even though you have a boyfriend... think really hard did you want to meet up with him or did you just want to speak on the phone... If you really want to meet him at the mall I would say go for it, after all your just friends, see if things are still the same between you guys (memories stay the same but people change!!) But tell him you have a boyfriend and tell your boyfriend your going to meet up with an old friend (don't hide it from him)
Hope you have a great time!
Goodluck!
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i have always had a great relationship with my mom but lately its been getting so annoying. if she tells me to clean up every little thing in the living room, i dont yell at her, i just mimick her in my head and do what she says. shes always complaining about how hard her life is, and how we have no money (which i have heard since i was waaay too young to worry about money), and she even complains about how much she hates coming home to this house everyday. sometimes i get realy angry and i say some sarcastic comment back and she starts going off about how hard her life is and how i shouldnt talk to her like that. it just makes me feel guilty for saying anything at all. (link)
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Hi there! Surprise your mom with making dinner for you guys then Sit your mom down for a heart to heart talk! tell her how you feel but in a nice way... tell her its not nice to hear negative things from her all the time, tell her that complaining doesn't help (because you have heard it almost all your life and things are still the same, nothing has change so complaining didn't help you guys get a new house or more money ect.) Ask her to try to be positve for your sake! try to make her see some things she can be greatfull for.. maybe she is depressed...
Hope your mom try's for your sake to be more positive! And goodluck!
Ps. You sound like a really great daughter for holding out for so long and not rebelling!
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Well ive had a crush on this real nice guy ad we talk alot and he told me about his ex who broke up with him twice in 2 weeks. I told her that I liked him cause she was going out with someone and she told me she was over the guy i liked and that we should go out...she gave me soo much hope. Then the nxt day she comes in and tells me that shes breaking up with her b/f and that she thinks the guy I like (her ex) thinks that she likes him again because she kept asking him who he liked. I was mad cause i trusted her but thats not it. The guy I like told me that she was telling people that she liked him again....Rite after I told herow i felt! Ughe everyone sais shes a slut cause shes gone out with everyone on our sports team!!!! Was she jus trying to screw me or is this a coincidence???? HELP ME.... he said all this bad stuff to me about her but now they are going back out!!! Shes "wooing" him! (link)
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Hi there! I think she did it on perpous, maybe she relised she has feelings for him when someone else wanted him... mmm... Keep talking to the guy and kindoff flirt with him but don't be to obvious, smile alot in his company and laught at his jokes, talk about things he likes... just be a really great friend maybe he will start to like you more than her! Its likely that she will not go out with him for very long (as you said, she broke up with him twice in 2 weeks and she dated the whole sports team, that means she's not one for long relationships)
Goodluck!! :o)
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Alrighty. So my junior year of college I developed a most excellent friendship with this guy, a senior, who we'll call Joe. Joe and I got really close and I asked him to my prom, and we were both on a band trip for a month that summer, so eventually we got together. Joe went to college 2 hours from home and we managed to make the long distance thing work for a while. As much as I loved Joe, he wasn't the greatest boyfriend... he rarely called/IMed/e-mailed, and I sent letters all the time, never to receive any back. I visited him a few times and he came home once or twice.
I thought we were doing ok til I went to visit March my senior year and he was really distant, and then in the beginning of April (this would be 2005) he dumped me over the phone, kinda out of the blue. I found a few things online and assumed he cheated on me, blah blah, we had a fight, and made up, and I know now he didn't cheat on me, and we still get along, which is good because we have a tight-knit group of friends who still hang out together on breaks.
So the problem with this is, I'm still having problems getting over him. We went out for pretty much a year and a half, and I know that I deserve better treatment and more attention than what I got... but it's difficult to hang out with him without thinking back to our relationship, and I often get super jealous of other girls I suspect he's interested in. I don't want to believe he's over me, but I know that I'm fooling myself, and I feel like a really pathetic person. I know there's no easy way to solve this, but any advice on how to "get over" him as more than just a friend would be appreciated. (link)
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Hi there! :o)... I would suggest you try to avoid him for a while, maybe 2 weeks or even a month or two, as long as it takes! (just to give you some space and to except that its really over) avoid him untill you feel that you will be able to move on.... Its really hard just being friends with someone you love as more than a friend, most of the time it doesn't work! Pack away all of his things (and the things he gave you, or anything that remind you of him) in a box and put it far away! do things you like, go shopping, get dvd's and eat popcorn, go out with your girlfriends.... then try to find someone new (its the fastest way to get over someone, because you develop new feelings for someone els... Time heals all wounds!
Goodluck! and im sure you will find someone way better than "Joe"!
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Alright, I'm 17/m and I shaved my chest and stomach (left the happy trail, as girls call it, there).
The problem is I have red bumps now because I've irritated my skin. The bumps have been there for over a month.
I'm sure they'd go away if I stopped shaving, but I'm looking for an alternative. (link)
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Hi there! :o) ... mmmm rather not shave... go for waxing!! (it hurts like a bitch, but its only a quick stinging sensation...) the hair takes longer to grow back and your skin feels smoother!
Hope I helped! Goodluck!
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