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Getting over my ex. [18F]
Alrighty. So my junior year of college I developed a most excellent friendship with this guy, a senior, who we'll call Joe. Joe and I got really close and I asked him to my prom, and we were both on a band trip for a month that summer, so eventually we got together. Joe went to college 2 hours from home and we managed to make the long distance thing work for a while. As much as I loved Joe, he wasn't the greatest boyfriend... he rarely called/IMed/e-mailed, and I sent letters all the time, never to receive any back. I visited him a few times and he came home once or twice.
I thought we were doing ok til I went to visit March my senior year and he was really distant, and then in the beginning of April (this would be 2005) he dumped me over the phone, kinda out of the blue. I found a few things online and assumed he cheated on me, blah blah, we had a fight, and made up, and I know now he didn't cheat on me, and we still get along, which is good because we have a tight-knit group of friends who still hang out together on breaks.
So the problem with this is, I'm still having problems getting over him. We went out for pretty much a year and a half, and I know that I deserve better treatment and more attention than what I got... but it's difficult to hang out with him without thinking back to our relationship, and I often get super jealous of other girls I suspect he's interested in. I don't want to believe he's over me, but I know that I'm fooling myself, and I feel like a really pathetic person. I know there's no easy way to solve this, but any advice on how to "get over" him as more than just a friend would be appreciated.
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I also had a friend like same situation as you.. They have same friends and when they broke up, it was really hard for her because they always see each other at school, and like what i said, they do have same friends.. I think you should just ignore him for a while, i know it's hard but try to do it.. When he talks to you then cool, but if he doesn't, then ignore him too.. CAn't you hang out with other friends that doesn't know him or doesn't hang out with him? If so, then start hanging out with them.. I think your friends will understand what you feel. Just explain to them what you feel.. CAuse i know that it really hurts seeing your love flirting with other girls or something like that.. So don't punish your self about this.. Don't think of him too much and be busy.. There are still lots of guys there that will like you.. You're a special girl, so you also need a special treatment.. Smile and be happy..
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Oh, my God, I used to ask so many questions like this until I actually got over the person I was liking myself. To get over a person, it takes time. But it also takes acceptance of something that you've been denying. You have to find that out, then you have to find out what interested you in this guy the first place. What did you see in him that you want from any other man that you may perhaps want to be with? Think about that. That's what I had to do. You have to accept that it was never meant to be between you and this guy, and that it was only your dream. Your want for the qualities that you like in him, and those qualities which you wanted in your future man. He may have been the messanger for what you really wanted not your actual Cassanova.Take those qualities that you saw in him, and the ones that you didn't like in him, and find someone better. Because in reality doll, you could do a lot better or worse than him. It'll take time. But time, you have.
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Hi there! :o)... I would suggest you try to avoid him for a while, maybe 2 weeks or even a month or two, as long as it takes! (just to give you some space and to except that its really over) avoid him untill you feel that you will be able to move on.... Its really hard just being friends with someone you love as more than a friend, most of the time it doesn't work! Pack away all of his things (and the things he gave you, or anything that remind you of him) in a box and put it far away! do things you like, go shopping, get dvd's and eat popcorn, go out with your girlfriends.... then try to find someone new (its the fastest way to get over someone, because you develop new feelings for someone els... Time heals all wounds!
Goodluck! and im sure you will find someone way better than "Joe"!
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Sorry but if you really loved him, and only you'll no that for sure no one can tell you that you did or you didn't, then that funny way he laughs to you and the little twinkle in his eye after looking directly into yours is always going to be there. The best thing you can do is keep him as a close friend. A good friendship is always the best foundation to a good relationship. Maybe after you two try the dating game out a bit and college settles down for him you two will give the relationship you two once held so dear anouther shot at success.
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