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Q: Hi please help me! I have some nice friends but I'm not popular.In my neighberhood these group of girls are all friends and they don't include me but they are nice.I really want to get in their group but it doesn't work when I try.My other friends don't really like them and dont hang out with them.What should I do? I want to keep my old friends but make some new ones. I think maybe its time to move on and meet more people. sometimes im shy but when you know me i dont shutup!Please help me I'll rate good for anything!
Ok for starters...

who like PREPS?! I DONT!!!

if you want to meet new people GO FOR IT!
you never can have enough friends!

your buds should know just because you hang out
with other people doesnt mean your not still
there friends...

but whatever you do DONOT get caught up with
your new friends and forget your old friends

at least your old friends befriended you off the bat...now your going to have to struggle and impress these dumbass rich groupies to hang out with them..if i were you get to know them and if they are mean and rude forget them! BUT DONT DUMP YOUR OLD FRIENDS!! what if the new ones end up dumping you or dont like you!?

good luck with that

judith (the lil' helper) keep me updated! (:

Q: im 13/f and my sister whose 19 moved out about 1 1/2 yrs ago nd recently moved back in. She had a really controlling boyfriend and they were hooked on heroine. My mom had agreed to let her move back in if she stopped doin in. She moved back in about 2mnths ago and got rid of the old boyfriend. She got a new boyfriend but she's still using drugs. it's not just a once in a while thing either, its everyday, and as i said, my mom doesnt know and shes always saying how proud she is that my sister stopped doing drugs. I don't want to wreck me nd my sistersn relationship, but i think my mom needs to know because im afraid my sister will hurt herself.

-confused
Ok for starters:

DONOT! talk to her after she has just shot it up...make sure you wait until later that day...then tell her about how your worried and you love her...tell her STRAIGHT UP if she doesnt stop...you will tell your mother...

if she doesnt stop...TELL YOUR MOM!

if you want to have a sister *alive*
tell your mother!

if she still doesnt stop she needs outside help!

God be with you

judith (the lil' helper) you'll be in my prayers!

Q: how do you get a yeast infection????????
Its from:

Wearing to tight of jeans...

and **gross** wiping the WRONG way...your supposed to wipe towards you...well butthole..lol
*i crack up everytime* because if you wipe the other way it wipes your ..*hehe* butt stuff into your vagine...also wiping to hard!

hope it helps

judith (the lil' helper)

Q: Hey everyone,

I'm playing a character in play where i have to keep a straight face while someone sings to me in German... does anyone have any advice on how to keep a straight face and not laugh or giggle during the performance?
Ok for starters:

what the singer is singing is probably REALLY SERIOUS! get a translation...

also you can think of something sad like your boyfriend breaking up with you or a favorite puppy die.

also...get into character...practice at home...

good luck!

judith (the lil' helper)

Q: ok well my mom told me last week she thinks its time i go see a gyno. well i dont have a problem with it b/c i am sexually active and i think i might need to go. well im guessing she obviously thinks me and my boyfriend are doing stuff if she's making me go there. well im really scared to tell her so im going to keep it from her as long as i can. my friends have told me that the questions they ask you are confidentail.. well is there any way i can ask the gyno if i can get birth control and they can give it to me without my mom thinking anything like can they tell her she should probably put me on it to regulate my period? i know this is weird but what do u think?
Ok for starters...

they keep everything confidential...

but birth control is very exspensive!

if your moms taking you she already knows whats going on...believe me MOM KNOW EVERYTHING! lol
I'd tell her about it and just be like hey mom I'm in a point in my life where I'm getting older and I need to perscribe some birth control for my safety...or w/e...believe me it wont come as a shock...I mean she'll prolly ask you TO GEt some! ! !

hope all goes well!

judith (the lil' helper)

Q: I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17. We've been together for 16 months and i truly believe that we are madly in love. I somewhat believe he is the one for me. He's a senior and will be graduating this year, I'm only a junior. I'm really scared of whats going to happen when he graduates. I've seen movies and shows where the couple breaks up because the one goes to college and never sees each other or whatever the deal is. He's not sure where he is going yet but i really hope it all works out. he mentioned something before like "if we're still going out next summer before i go away to college, i'll propose." It's scary how i feel like i could run away and get married with him right now. what do u think about this situation?
Ok...


for starters...FOLLOW YOUR HEART!!!

be sure to finish highschool before you get married...and if you dont feel ready to marry when your 18 then just give yourself time...if he loves you he'll wait untill your older and more prepared...and 16 months is great I hope everything turns out for the best!


send me a update!!

judith (the lil' helper)

Q: what are some good quotes website ?? i kno suthin like precious cration or hell angles but what is the site address please help me and any other webistes with good quotes too

thanxs so much

Nikcy
firehotquotes.com

it's the best one around I know of a bunch more but arnt very good!


judith (the lil' helper)

Q: Ok well I just started high school and i met this dude and we hang out at lunch and everything and we talk alot and all and everyone keeps tellin me he likes me and one day at lunch a boi came up and asked me if we were goin out n i wus like no n he said well he likes u n i asked him if it wus tru n he said my gf wouldnt like that very much n my frind was there n so l8r she asked him if he liked me n he said yeh dont tell nobody cuz my gf will kill me and then my other frind asked him n he said wtf started that rumor i rlly rlly like him !! how do i find out if he rlly likes me and how do i git him 2 dump his gf 4 me? i mean he says all this stuff like shes annoyin n all so i guess he doesnt like her PLEASE HELP!!! [[SoRRy So DaRn LoooooNg]]
Ok...


I know alot of peeps respect what I say...but for once I'm going to have to be a lil' truthful


ok for starters:

HE has a girlfried...but he likes you...kewl maybe he will on HIS OWN TIME break it off and come to you...

ok you stated wat do i do to get him to dump his girlfriendL:

ok isnt that slighty mean? I mean i understand you like him but what are you going to do tell her to back off?

be nice and wait till the relationship blows over dont jump in and ruin there relationship...he might actually like her and then he'll BE PIST!!! so just waiT!!!

hope all goes well!

judith (the lil' helper)

Q: Okay, I just found out 2-day that my ex-bf is dating one of my bff's and I think that I am jealous! What should I do? I'm not the jealous type.
Ok...

for starters hes your ex right???

shouldnt you be over him???

if hes dating one of your best friends...its kinda to late to go back to him... if i were you id wait patiently untill they break up and if you feel the same GO FOR HIM!!!!

hope it works out!

judith (the lil' helper)

Q: ok...on oct. 25 last year i got my permit...so its in a little over a month when i can get my license...how do i do it...i heard i need 2 make an appt. and stuff....and can u tell me what u do (tests etc.) i know u have 2 do a driving test and other stuff...but please tell me how i need 2 prepare and if i need 2 make an appt. and stuff....Thanks!!!!!!!!!!
Ok....


wish i could tell you but it all depends on which state you live in...give me more info so i can help!!



judith (the lil' helper)

Q: Ever since I was LiL I would masterbate. Im not addicted to it I just do It once in a while but I remember doing it when I was 5!!(of course I didnt know what I was doing at 5 but all I knew was that it felt good and that I was going to do it) I was caught a lot when I was little and I remember one time my mom asked me if it felt good and she was really dissapointed in me. And I hated myself for it because every 5 year old wants their parents to be proud of them. But now I know what I'm doing and I havent been caught in like 5 years(im 14) Is there something wrong with me? Is it not normal to start sooo early?
Ok for starters...

YOUR LUCKY!!!!!!!

i didnt find it out untill about 2 yrs ago!!

totally normal...children are smart and some smarter than others haha

if you have ne questions feel free to go to my column or email me @ judithanne89@hotmail.com


Q: I like a guy that is nice, funny, but he flirts with everyone. We aren't really dating yet, but we like each other. How should/ or should i talk to him about being more of boyfriend and girlfriend? And if i do than how should i ask him?
Ok if i were you i would:

Firstly become more envolved..smile @ him in hallways at school...get his number and talk to him on the phone...flirt!!!

after a little while start going places with him like bowling or a movie...then whenever you feel you know him and HE KNOWS YOU BETTER *wink*

explain to him how you feel!!!
talk about it and see how he feels!!!

AND #1 KEY OF DONTS IS...DONT COME ON TO HIM TO FAST!!!

flirting cant hurt tho!!

have fun and good luck!

judith (the lil' helper) keep me updated! (O:

Q: I'm 13. I have 5 pairs of shorts, 2 pairs of pants, 5 shirts and 2 sets of pJ's.

I keep asking and asking my mom to take me out shopping, but she always keeps saying no. I get in trouble at school a lot because my shorts are to short and my pants are too tight, but I can't help it if my mom never takes me shopping!
How do I get her to take me out shopping?
Ok u may or may not go by this but what i did.....moohoohahahahah is...(this is over a 3 week period) wore my jeans...MYSTYIOULY got a torn hole in the crotch area...second pair GOT BLEACH STAINS ALL OVER IT !! MOM!!!

for shorts..well its about to be winter

and shirts dissapear...

or be a good girl!!!! (O: **better choice**

and explain to your mom your getting in trouble and people are making fun of you cuz your close is old and worn out and to small...

hope it works

judith (the lil' helper)

Q: hey.. i know what "going all the way" means but like whats 1st 2nd and 3rd base, like what do u do? also.. what does it mean when a guy jacks off?
Ok

1st is kissing (french) using tongue
2nd is touch upper body
3rd is handjobs..touching under
4th is sex...

and jack off is when a guy uses his hand on his penis to masturbate...talk to your parents about this this isnt something you need to get from older people ok sweety!!


curiosity...ask YOUR PARENTS!!! **mom!**

judith (the lil' helper)

Q: Is it true that ARES ruins your computer?
Yea!!! YIKES!!!

good luck with that!! sorry )O:

judith (the lil' helper)

Q: my best friend n i met eachother in 6th grade but we werent friends until 7th n for a year we had a lot of fun!! we did everything together and then she got into a fight w. another friend of mine towards the middle of 7th grade n we didnt talk to that friend for about 4 months n then i started talkin to her just hi n bye n then 8th grade started n me n that girl became more friends we went to her brothers football game together like once though n my best friend stopped talkin to me because of that yeah pretty stupid huh but now she wont talk to me its been like 1 week n 2 days n i just cant take it ne more cuz she wont talk.. wut should i do plz help me !! tnxs
She just seems very immature...and she needs to grow-up you sound cool, loving, and very concerned...she is lucky to have someone like you, if i were you talk to her and tell her you want to be friends but shes not allowing yall to be friends...tell her she needs to step up to the plate and be a better friend!!!!!!


there are alot of other peeeps in the world
who are more deserving for your friendship

good luck

judith (the lil' helper)

Q: i cant stand not having a boyfriend, i havnt had one in soo long and i feel like im so ugly i mean when i get one i wont obsess over him or kill myself when we break up, but like i feel like im ugly i mean i have blue eyes brown hair and im tan i dont sound pretty but why cant i get a boyfriend??? what are some ways i can??HELPP
Ok for starters...

I'm a 16 year old...and I dunno go to my column and see if im pretty because I dont really think i am...

I've had alot of peeps ask me out... and I dont understand it...but my friend told me its because I have self-confidence...when i walk she says i smile @ everyone my chins up high and I was...the supposed WALK ...all I have to tell you is that...be confident...get more envolved with guys FLIRT FLIRT FLIRT!!!!

good luck

judith (the lil' helper) keep me up to date (O:

Q: does www.buddypic.com put viruses on your computer?
I've been there several times and I believe it to be a wonderful and completely virus safe site!!!


judith (the lil' helper)

Q: I went out with a guy for about 9 months last year and it was the BEST thing that ever happened he was unbelievable, and I can't even tell you why we broke up because I don't even know why, I was being stupid thinking I didn't like him when I did. I have a problem of deciding to start a relationship because I always am afraid I will meet someone else during one and I don't want to hurt my boyfriend, but it never happens..i dunno i am just paranoid? It's been abouttt..6 months since we broke up, do you think it's okay to get back together?
Ok for starters:

gurl listen to your heart!!

he sounds wonderful! a whole 9 months is definitly worth another try!

Just tell him one day u need to talk tell him wats going on and how you feel!

hope it all works out

judith (the lil' helper)

Q: There are 2 gusy i like. Guy 1- nice, funny, likes me, and cute. The bad side of him is that he flirts with almost everyone, and is older than me so doesnt really hang around my friends. Guy 2- sweet, shy at times, funny, cute. The bad side to him is i dont think he is that interested in me. Well i can't deside which one to choose, and if i choose guy 2 than how do i see if he likes me?
For starters:

You have to talk to him...flirt with him...get him interested in you go on dates...with buds...

FLIRTING REALLY HELPS!!!!

hope i helped

judith (the lil' helper)

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judith16
Hey guys my names judith and I love giving advice and helping others! if you need some advice feel free to ask anytime! or even EMAIL ME!! @ judithanne89@hotmail.com


truly yours!

Judith (the lil' helper)

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