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i hate you... twin sister.
ok so this is basically a follow up of my other question.
like i said in the last one, me and my sister dont' get along anymore. which just basically sucks. well so the other night she tells me she hates me and she wasn't playing arund i could tell and she told me today again she did and shes repeated more times. i guess just to keep me aware that i know. who knows. well like i can't talk to her because she wont listen. like you can say some people are stubborn. shes stubborn but its her bf. well he basically controls her. well i cried thatnight when she first told me that and i cried this morning in class and now again because she just told me again. and i don't know what to do. to either keep hiding that it hurts me so much or just i don't know. i jsut want some advice i can use. thx in advance.
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Where are you parents or guardian? If they are unaware of what's going on, it's time to drag them in.
I'm not just going to tell you that your sister doesn't really hate you, whether it's true or not, you don't deserve to hear it all of the time. A lot of sisters do fight and say horrible things, but if it's hurting you this bad, then it's time to tell your parents. If you know that she is in a controlling relationship, let your parents know this too. Sometimes telling your sister differently when she tells you that she hates you, it might make her think twice.
For example, the next time she tells you that she hates you, just say, "You know, I could say the same thing, but that wouldn't be true for me to say, so sorry that I can't respond the way you'd like me too." Or something along those lines. It will make her think about what she's saying. Just don't fight back even though it's really hard. But, it would be saying to her that you really don't care what she's saying. EVEN if you do, don't show it.
But mainly, I want your parents to know what's been going on between you and her. So please let them know so that you can feel good about letting someone know! And you will feel good.
-TheTeenGirl
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don't worry. she doesn't really hate you. i say it to my sister all the time. lol later in life, you two will be close. now about the boyfriend problem, you need to tell your mom or someone who can get to talk to her and understand her about her boyfriend. maybe like a respected cousin of hers? or maybe talk to some of her friends to tell her that she needs help with her boyfriend.
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Hi there! :o)I promise she doesn't hate you! When I was younger I use to yell at my mom that I hate her when we had a fight, but I love her more than life! Try to be extra nice to your sister (even if your mad and hurt) let her borrow your clothes, get her some coldrink when you get yourself some... maybe your sister would start feeling bad because she told you that and start being nicer to you too! tell her you really love her and you want to be friends with her, you want her to talk to you about everything and anything and you want to do the same with her...
Hope my advice helps!
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Sisters will always have differences especially in their teen years. All kinds of bickering and fighting that you'll realize was so silly later in life. Everyone would always tell me how much I'd like my sister and get along with her when we were a little older, but I could never believe them. Truth is they were right! Just be patient. Remember that she does NOT hate you. People say things in the heat of the moment that they don't mean. She loves you very much and will always be there for you. I hope I helped you and good luck!
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