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why are they so jealous?
I have a problem with people being jealous of me. I don't know why they are - I'm not extremely beautiful or wealthy. I'm just an above average looking girl with average intelligence. I don't have a bf either, so this makes their jealously all the more perplexing.
I have a part time job with a union, and can afford to live on my own. I have an appartment I rent, a car, and a lot of nice furniture. I own about 150 CD's and 70 DVD's.
I by no means am rich, but only have myself to look after. So I can afford to spend my paychecks on what I please. I had saved up a bit and just bought a new futon and recliner. That made some of my friends REALLY jealous.
This one friend of mine makes just as much money as me but says that most of his paychecks go towards paying credit card depts. I have never had a credit card so don't have this problem. My sister is also jealous of me because she owes money to student loan payments. I never went to college so don't have this problem. Some of my other friends don't have cars, and are always saying how lucky I am to have one. But they don't relize how much money I put into it. I just paid 400 to replace the breaks. I wish I could just enjoy what I have without people feeling jealous. I earned it. What can I do, and how can I stop people from envying me?
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As long as your not obnoxious and act like having all those things makes you better there is nothing you can really do. You can invit your friends over a lot so they don't feel like you think you're too good for them or something. Also, so you don't make it sound like your place is better, you can ask to go over their places just as often as them coming to yours! xoxoxo, i hope this helps!
Jessie
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i think you should just ignore their jeolousy. if you don't react to it, theyll stop talking about it eventually. also, try not to "flaunt what youve got" and that might make them feel better. bottom line is, don't worry about it, because these people are your friends. and, you earned all of what you have, so you don't need to feel guilty about it. ♥
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Did you ever think maybe you're kinda snotty? You don't have to list everything you have, see how that's obnoxious, and guess what, me not jealous.
I'm wondering how someone with so much self-confidence would be so concerned about others jealousy. " I don't know why they are - I'm not extremely beautiful or wealthy. I'm just an above average looking girl with average intelligence." Really, above average, is this a personal ad or are you just whining about your great life. Shut up, people are just looking up to you because you are doing well, take the complements, or wait maybe not, your head might explode.
See still not jealous. Have a good day.
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Like you said, you earned it. YOU EARNED IT, YOU EARNED IT, AND did I mention that YOU EARNED IT. You earned your right to have all the money that you need for yourself. The guy that's paying off his credit card depts, well that's his fault not yours. He's the one that got himself into serious debt not you. His problem, he needs to deal with it. Also, your sister complaining about not having enough money to pay off her college loan. Well, since you never attended college, and since you never went there for her in her place, then how is it your problem. It's not your problem, it's hers. So, she's gotta be a big girl and deal with it. She will. She knew that higher learning was going to be expensive and she went through with it. That's the price she'll/she is paying. People are jealous for some of the stupidist things. But what you have to do is to take the time to evaluate the situation and reasoning for their jealousy. In this case, they're jealous b/c everything seems to be going good and right for you. Some people just can't stand that. They are also in predicaments that they don't want to be in at all, and they'd love to be in your place. But what YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER IS THAT IT IS NOT YOUR PROBLEM. IT'S THEIR PROBLEM BECAUSE THEY CREATED IT AND NOW THEY HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT. THEY made THEIR bed, and now THEY have to lye in it. So, ENJOY WHAT YOU HAVE RIGHTFULLY EARNED AND FORGET THE FOOLS. Their problems that they made for themselves, not yours and so not your fault. Let them deal with it and move on with your life.
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you really can't do anything. when people see other people who are happy or have it easier or just have somthing they dont have they will tend to get jeleous and pretty much the only way to make them not jeleous is to make them feel better about their own life.and if that dosn't work you can always feel better that people like you and respect you enogh to wanna have your life and be like you.
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You can't change how other people feel, or what they think. All you can do is think about your own behavior, and listen to yourself when you're with other people. It's possible (maybe) that there's something in the way you present yourself that makes other people feel insecure or jealous. If you notice that sort of behavior, then you can try to change it.
But it's also certainly possible - even probable - that you're not doing anything to provoke their jealousy. In which case, the only thing you can do is to try not to let their feelings bother you.
And by the way, you're very smart to avoid credit cards. Good for you!
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Hi there! Jelousy is a nasty thing! Did you try to tell the people who you say is jelouse the same thing you told us, that you don't have other people to look after and that you work hard for your money so you deserve to buy what ever you fancy.... If you get yourself something new try not to tell anyone (otherwise they might think that you are bragging or rubbing it in their face...) try to make some new friends that have the same type of things you have (earn the same amount paycheck or more than you do) they woun't have any reason to be jelouse and will enjoy going shopping with you or what ever because they can afford it aswell...
Hope I helped!
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