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hey, i'm jessie and i like long walks on the beach and bubble baths!
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Okay this is going to be REALLY long, this all started when i was doing my clothes at around 11.... i wanted to clean some of my clothes so i would have something to wear tomorrow.
so i threw 2 pairs of abercrombie pants in the wash and dryer. so my mom was all like throw some of my jeans in! but i was half way threw the cycle to put any thing else in the the wash so i didnt bother.
then we went out and i was all nice to her. very nice. this lasted till about 3?
then i got home around like 3:30, and wow was it hell. i put my jeans in the dryer. so they would be dry for about 4:00. then my mom threw in some of her stuff, so i threw in the whites that were dirty in too. no problem with that right?
Okay this is when the shit started, i threw her stuff in the dryer without looking. [with my whites....] and so i did that so i could wash my so lows. so i did that. no problem right?
okay so my mom SCREAMS AND YELLS. becuase her stuff apparently shrunk 2 sizes. i told her if she wants to fit into them again, [ps their like designer] so she starts a hussy-fit with how everything gets broken left and right. and i dont need this beause i have finals from the 13-20th. do i need peace and quiet. but Apparently i cant get it sence my mom is bitching [sorry but i dont have anything else to say for that]
and i didnt invite her to dinner because i dont allow whiners eat the food i make, [im like a chef and planning to be one] so i made pretty good food. its hard to resist ;]
but like, then i was eating then she said to my dad, ricky, sister, melissa, and i, laura, "i hope you bastards [im quoting the EXACT words] fucking die form that taco shit you call food, and i hope you CHOKE AND DIE"
what should i do? call the cops. HELP!
omg! that's inexcusable! your dad isn't gonna saying anything against your mom if he's like most dads. talk to some kind of guidance counselor and if that doesn't work try to stay clear of your mom but appologize to her for shrinking her clothes. if she gets violent or says anything else of that same sort. consult an official ANONYMOUSLY at first and tell him things TO NOT BE REPEATED unless need be.
xoxoxoxo, i hope i helped!
Jessie
okay so im bald and suffering from this sort of diasese that makes ur hair fall out but slowly grows back.
i just got invited to litterally 7 batmitzvahs, do you think i can wear bandanas or a hat in the jewish temple? ill rate
no, you can't wear a bandana in a synagouge. but you are required to wear a kippah (a head covering something like the pope wears)inside the sanctuary, even if you're not Jewish. once you leave, maybe you can throw on a hat right before you get out of the temple. but if you're wearing a hood, a hat, a bandana, etc. they'll ask you to remove it and put on a kippah. but obviously you can wear what ever you want to the party! p.s. it's Bat-Mitzvah for a girl and Bar-Mitzvah for a boy! have fun!
xoxoxox,
jessie
im breaking out on my cheeks and i need to get rid of them or atleast make them smaller and less read overnight so does anyone have any special remidies that they use? thanks in advance!
Clearasil Ultra Face Wash. Get in the shower put like a quarter size amount in your hand DO NOT DILUTE IT OR MAKE IT MORE "FOAMY" BY ADDING WATER! just rub is between your palms and rub it in circular motions all over your face. it works SO WELL!!!!! I personally have never used it, but everyone says Pro Active is like "the best invention since tampons!" hope i helped! xoxoxo
Jessie
okay so i am in 6th grade and tomorrow me and my boyfriend are planning on hooking up. It will be my first time, but the only problem is that i don't know how! i know what it is and all, i just don't know how to do it so that it's feels nice for him also. If you could please give me some pointers on how to do it, that would be greatly appreciated! i rate 5's! Thanks!
awww! I REMEMBER MY FIRST TIME!!! I'm so happy for you! but to be really honest with you nothing anyone says is going to help you. I got all these pointers and tricks and stuff but when it actually happened i honestly don't remember what was going through my head or what i did. The only reason i waited so long was because i wanted it to be special and i thought it was gonna be sooo nasty! I've hooked up with a million guys since then and thats when you can know what you're doing because you know what its like already. The thing that makes a kiss bad as trying too hard to do it right. you're a girl i'm assuming, which means your bf will lead you. You don't know what i mean now but don't worry, you will! DO NOT BE TOO STRONG! and it won't look like a movie where you mouth moves a lot and stuff so don't try to make it like that otherwise he'll think your trying to swallow him... i had a kiss like that once but it was the guy, not me... it was gross!
But the best thing i can tell you to do IS DON'T DO IT IF YOU'RE THINKING ABOUT IT!!! when it comes naturally because you're in the perfect situation, then its the best!!! it just happens and you won't have time to think how to do it or anything. It'll all come to you. I PROMISE. Theres no right way to do it- just a wrong way!!! :) i hope i helped!!! write me back and tell me how it was! i really wanna know!!!!
xoxo, Jessie
15/f
okay my nipples are like really sore.
i already have c cup breasts but could they be growing again?
or is there something else it could be
OK, so i was a C for like a year but that happened to me and now i'm a DDD so anything can happen. If you usually get all your genetics from your mom ask her what size she is or find out somehow, my mom was a DDD and now i am!
xoxoxoxo, i hope this helped!
Jessie
Am I justified in being angry when my mom calls me an ignorant slut because she wasn't understanding something I was trying to explain to her? I don't mean to sound whiney, but I'm really sick of these degrading comments she directs at me when she messes something up, makes a mistake, or doesn't understand something. I don't know what to do about this. Any advice?
Thanks
wow! thats completely wrong for your mom to call you a slut! obviously at some point ever parents is gonna call their kid ignorant because honestly, we are, but you should sit her down and explain to her, be like, "mom you always get mad at when its YOU who does something wrong and you hurt my feelings when you call me a slut!" I know it sounds completely unreasonable and impossible to do with a mom like yours, EXACTLY like mine, but i did it and my mom started crying and saying how sorry she was and we're doing so much better! i even kiss her goodbye in the mornings when i go to school! TRY IT!
xoxoxox, i hope this helped!
Jessie
I have like long straight dark hair and it has a little blond,black,and red mix,but i was woundering what good color highlights woulg go good with my hair?
I was think of like a gold brown.
i don't know what their talking about, no offense... but to do something with your hair youd have to go a shaid lighter or two. Unless you want to do something drastic like put bright red in it or something, you know? go a little bit of a lighter brown and you can do anything! xoxox, i hope this helped. PS. black hairs cool! i have it to excpet mines curly, keep it! don't mess with it! your gorgeous anyway! xoxox, i hope this helped~
Jessie
does anyone know anything that will make my hair grow longer like a certain shampoo or what i mean i strighted it but i dont when i dont need to, and its pretty healthy i mean theres some dead ends but i dont wanna get it cut bc its just starting to grow. anyone know any products that makes ur hair reallllly healthy or that will enhance the growth of your hair!?
The products don't ever work! I am doing the same thing you are to. i get my hair trimmed every two months and when i get it trimmed, for the first couple weeks it groes longer/faster than ever. but if you let dead ends stay it only weighs down your head and doesn't let it grow. the best thing you can do is cut it! i JUST asked my hair dresser yesterday. don't waste your money on the crap.
xoxoxo, i hope this helped
Jessie
does anyone know how to get white teeth and fast if its somethign liek baking soda or white strips whats the best kind of product you can buy that will make them super white
use Crest Vivid White Toothpaste! o! and get invigorating mint flavor, its the best one.... xoxoxo, i hope this helped!
Jessie
ok so lately after i dry then straighten my hair and go to brush it and its really staticy and starts like sticking up..is there anyway to stop it from sticking? thanks so much!!
same here. you should use brilliant brunett (if thats you hair color...) finishing cream or you can use John Frieda secret weapon. they work really well! but only use the amount of like half a dime AFTER your hair is straightened and BEFORE you brush it. Hope i helped!
xoxoxox
Jessie
Last night I found out a friend of mine, whom I haven't really spoken to in awhile, has been diagnosed with cancer and might die. He's left college to live with his parents so he can get treatment and I'd like to write him a letter of support but what do I say? I don't want to make him uncomfortable and I don't want to be morbid, but I do want him to know that I care about him and wish him all the best.
wow... that's really unfortunate. I'm trying to think if i was in his position... i probably wouldn't want to talk about it and just want to live the remainder of my life, however long, normally. Maybe something like:
Dear_____,
I know we haven't spoken in a while but something hapened today and i thought of you! (make something up from like and inside joke or something) Also, i heard you were diagnosed with cancer. I'm so sorry to hear that. I feel really bad that we haven't spoken in so long. Maybe we can get together some time and talk? I wish you the best of luck and hope you are ok...
I don't really know what kind of relationship you guys have but i think it might be better if you called him not write a letter. I think it's a tad bit too formal, you know?
xoxoxo, i hope this helps.
Jessie
ok so im getting braces this thursday but before that i need to make a decision whether to get the clear or colored ones. the clear ones are NOT invisilign just to let you know the clear ones are basically the same as the colored ecept they match the color of you teeth. now the thing is with the clear ones if you eat something like chocolate, your braces would turn brown which i dont really want to happen but they say it doesnt happen if you brush your teeth a lot (which i do) but like in school if i have like a chocalate bar or something i cant brush my teeth in school and the other thing is pratically all my friends have the colored ones and i really havent seen many people with the clear ones.
can someone help me figure out what to decide?
thank you so much
sorry its kind of long
DUDE! i'm getting them this thursday too!!!! 9 AM BABY! (if this is danielle... omg)but i am DEF choosing the colored ones! i'm really upbeat so i'm getting lime green and hot pink. Be spontanious and not boring!!! and if your cool like me and go to camp, you can get your camp colors for the summer!!!! (BLUE AND GOLD!!!!!) YEAYA! don't be a pooper! GET COLORS!!!! (BRIGHT!:))
xoxoox, hope this helped!
Jessie
hey people i love to write songs, poems, and stories, well i want to right more songs but i have righters jam..i cant think of wat to right..so can anyone give me ideas, some lines...show me some of your own work (i promise i wont steel your songs)(i wouldnt want any 1 steeling my hard work so i wont steel yours) anyways plz help me thanks...
OMG! I LOVE to write songs and poetry and stories to! What usually provokes an idea in my head is when i'm feeling a really strong emotion. My beset ideas come when I'm sad or mad. Those are when you have the deepest thoughts. Watch The Notebook or some other cheesy movie (those are my favorite kinds of movies... hehehe) Titanic is a good one!!! They will make you sad and might make you want to write. If you have a writers block and you try to write, it won't be good. Wait till you have that urge to sit down and express yourself, thats when you'll really shine! IM me on tengrls2colors and I'll help you! hope this helped, xoxoxo
Jessie
ok, well every time i shave, when im done, my legs are always really itchy. its not like a rash, but it wont go away. what should i dot to stop this?
That happens to me to! Because it's winter you get dry legs and if your shaving without shaving cream it just makes it worse. You should use the good stuff like the man's stuff because the womens stuff isn't for good skin, it just smells good. I use Colgate Shaving Cream. Creams are MUCH better than gels. After you get out of the shower, put on moisturizers like dove or something instead of the body works crap. Johnson and Johnson body lotion is really good! I hope i helped! xoxoxo!
Jessie
I have a problem with people being jealous of me. I don't know why they are - I'm not extremely beautiful or wealthy. I'm just an above average looking girl with average intelligence. I don't have a bf either, so this makes their jealously all the more perplexing.
I have a part time job with a union, and can afford to live on my own. I have an appartment I rent, a car, and a lot of nice furniture. I own about 150 CD's and 70 DVD's.
I by no means am rich, but only have myself to look after. So I can afford to spend my paychecks on what I please. I had saved up a bit and just bought a new futon and recliner. That made some of my friends REALLY jealous.
This one friend of mine makes just as much money as me but says that most of his paychecks go towards paying credit card depts. I have never had a credit card so don't have this problem. My sister is also jealous of me because she owes money to student loan payments. I never went to college so don't have this problem. Some of my other friends don't have cars, and are always saying how lucky I am to have one. But they don't relize how much money I put into it. I just paid 400 to replace the breaks. I wish I could just enjoy what I have without people feeling jealous. I earned it. What can I do, and how can I stop people from envying me?
As long as your not obnoxious and act like having all those things makes you better there is nothing you can really do. You can invit your friends over a lot so they don't feel like you think you're too good for them or something. Also, so you don't make it sound like your place is better, you can ask to go over their places just as often as them coming to yours! xoxoxo, i hope this helps!
Jessie
Ok, before I ask my Q, I just want to make this clear---IF YOU DON'T KNOW A LOT ABOUT MUSIC, DO NOT ANSWER. I don't want anyone saying "oh drink some honey and tea and that will turn you into a huge opera singer."
My range is from E3-Db6. I was a soprano for a while, but I switched to mezzo because my mid-voice notes are stronger and richer than my higher notes. My problem is: From D4 on up, my notes sound kind of thin and weak. I can sing the notes easily, but it doesn't sound rich like my mid-voice register. If fact, it sounds like two different people singing. But last week, I had a 3-hour choir rehearsal, and near the end my higher notes sounded rich and like the same person singing. Why is this?
That is a high range! and if you're gonna sing like that you need A LOT of warm up! so three hours of singing will make it sound really great! If you just start out singing in a soprano section with out proper warm up its gonna sound muffled, scratchy, airy, and unprofessional. If you want to sound like this all the time, you should act your choir teacher for some good warmups because that is what helped you. xoxoxo, hope this helped!
Jessie
Here's the deal: I love singing. I've been singing since 4th grade and I've been in choirs since 5th. I haven't taken voice lessons.
Now, I want to sing a song for a talent show, but my only problem is... MY VOICE IS HORRIBLE. I have experience, but it's just the way it SOUNDS, do you know what I mean?
I recorded my voice on my cell phone, and I got so depressed at the way it sounds.
What can I do? Will singing lessons help at all? Thanks!
I've been singing since I was two! I've never taken lessons either (i keep telling my parents to get me them...)But i was in a talent show at my school last year as well! Because I want lessons so badly, i've done a lot of research:
first of all, singing lessons don't give you a better voice than the one you have now. it helps you train it. You learn to read music and breathe correctly, etc. Secondly, if you've really been singing that long, it can't be terrible!!! IM me at tengrls2colors and i can help you over a mic! that's how i got help from my friends last year! The only thing you can do for now is keep practicing and listen to the way the singer of the song does it! I'm sure your not bad! xoxoxo, i hope this helps!
Jessie
I wasn't sure which category to put this under, so here it is. I got my 2nd whole pearced around january 15th. its now january 27th. ( 2 weeks i think lol ) i got it pearced with these earring in which are not real gold. My ear have been getting 'gunk' on the back of them. My ear are very senstive. I really want to take them out and change them into earrings that will not irriate my ears. Also i got my cartlidge pearced around December 23rd..and i'd also like to change this one. Would it be safe for me to change my 2nd whole now, like take it out really quick and putting in another earring?
i'd LOVE any help or advice you gave me!
They tell you not to, but it's not possible for your ear to close up in the amount of time it takes to take out your earrings and put now ones in. just before you take out the bad ones, clean the new ones so their all ready. And before you put them on, clean your ears REALLY well because this may be the cause. I'm sure nothing will happen. Just make sure their small studs like the ones they gave you when you got them peirced. For your cartlidge, its supposed to be six week before you can change them but if you could change those ones just like the other ones, i'm sure they'll be fine to! xoxoxo, i hope this helps!
Jessie
please answer this question if you're good at that kind of stuff. . i really need this advice. . .
there's this girl in my class, and i think i'm in love with her. the thing is, i'm afraid if i tell her it will ruin our relationship that we already have. we've been great friends since the second grade, and i just realized i love her. i'm just afraid that if it doesn't work out, our relationship will be ruined for, like, ever. but seriously, i LOVE her. . .
i also need some advice on how to tell her i love her. . .that would be of great help. . .i will rate fives for serious answers. . .
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Almost every boy and girl that are good friends end up going out at some point. And I know that if my best guy friend was in love with me i would go out with him! If she's your best friend then obviously she has intense feelings for you even if she hasn't realized them. Before you let her know. Start acting more like a boyfriend rather than a best friend and see how she reacts to the change. Then tell her. I hope things work out well! xoxoxo, hope this helps!
Jessie
i'm 15 years old & i haven't gotten my period for about two months. i've been having it since september 2004 & it's been sort of normal for about 8 months. i'm a virgin & i know this is going to sound extrememly juvenile but is there some way that i could be pregnant without having sex? as i said, i don't mean to sound juvenile but i've heard people say things like, "it's in the water" & is it actually possible? i'm just really nervous, & i'm racking my brain for an answer. could it just be that my period isn't on time? i haven't really been eating any differently. please don't treat me like an idiot, i'm just scared.
My friend has her period like clockwork, every month on the fifth. But she didn't get hers for four months and she had the same worries as you at 17! You can only get pregnant if his cum enters. I'm pretty sure you would know if you were pregnant. Also, because your only 13, your period is most likely just not on a normal schedule yet. I'm older than you and sometimes i skip for two months at a time! xoxoxo, i hope this helps!
Jessie