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friend has cancer
Last night I found out a friend of mine, whom I haven't really spoken to in awhile, has been diagnosed with cancer and might die. He's left college to live with his parents so he can get treatment and I'd like to write him a letter of support but what do I say? I don't want to make him uncomfortable and I don't want to be morbid, but I do want him to know that I care about him and wish him all the best.
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I once had a very serious illness. The cards that I dreaded reading were the ones that harped on my illness. No one needs to be reminded that they're sick. I loved the ones that just talked to me like I was a normal person - you know, "How's the hospital food?" and all that. I also liked cute gifts, but then, I'm a girl. Oh, and it doesn't matter if you've lost touch - he'll appreciate that you're still thinking of him. -->NO morbid "I don't know what I'd do without you, etc!!
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My best friend has interminable cancer, send him a cute present and a cute card just telling him exactly how you feel, it helps and it won't make him feel morbid or uncomfortable, because it just shows how much people really care about you.
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yes this has happeneed to me only it was my brothers.....tell him that you heard bout his situations and that you are really sorry....that you will pray for him everyday and that he cant give up and keep tryin and if he sticks to it he will kill the cancer.
*~*~*~Raider*~*~*~
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wow... that's really unfortunate. I'm trying to think if i was in his position... i probably wouldn't want to talk about it and just want to live the remainder of my life, however long, normally. Maybe something like:
Dear_____,
I know we haven't spoken in a while but something hapened today and i thought of you! (make something up from like and inside joke or something) Also, i heard you were diagnosed with cancer. I'm so sorry to hear that. I feel really bad that we haven't spoken in so long. Maybe we can get together some time and talk? I wish you the best of luck and hope you are ok...
I don't really know what kind of relationship you guys have but i think it might be better if you called him not write a letter. I think it's a tad bit too formal, you know?
xoxoxo, i hope this helps.
Jessie
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Like others said, offer your support, tell him he's in your prayers and thoughts.
Write about some funny memory you had together, and mention that you'd really like to hang out again (of course only if you mean it) and leave your number or something. That way he knows you're there if he wants to talk about it, or if he just wants to hang out and be a regular guy. Maybe if you're still in touch with all the people you used to hang out with, you can organize a sort of a mini reunion.
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just let him know that you are there for him whenever you need support even f you havent been there in a while and that you hope everything turns out fine for him and maybe tell him that if he needs money you would be more than happy to fun raise for him or lend him something
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My brother's best friend just got through lukemia so he sent him a letter every week. The best thing to right is that you care about him and are there for him if he needs to talk. It's OK to talk about his disease, it would probably make him feel more uncomfortable if you refuse to mention it. Just tell him you support him.
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The worse thing you can do is pretend it isn't happening.
I think you should write, or call or go visit. Tell him what you are feeling. Don't be afraid to use the "C" word.
What tends to make people feel uncomfortable is when people pretend nothing is going on. They feel unable to talk about it...and they need to talk about it sometimes. Let him know you are there if he wants to talk. :)
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