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Hello, all- I'm Becky. I'm 16 years old but wise far beyond my years, so hopefully you can expect some good advice from me. I'm not here to spit out cutesy answers to every single question- I won't be a bitch, but I'll be sure to tell it like it is. Just accept it, and consider less-than-sweet answers as tough love. :]

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Okay, so I want a pen pal. Not like writing mail back and forth but like IM. How can I get one like, it'd be a girl. BUt i don't wnat to like have my stuff all over the internet

I've used the site Interpals.net for pen pals before, and I'd highly recommend it. Though you do have information out on the Internet, you can specify just how protected you want it to be- you could set it so that no one could see your info unless you add them as a friend, etc. It's also quite easy to find pen pals with specific specifications you're looking for: girl/boy, age, location (continent, country, state/province, city). You can even check off the ways you prefer to communicate with any given friend: email, snail mail, IM, etc. One great feature of Interpals that is especially cool (and is the reason I joined, actually) is that you can have pen pals from all over the world- France, Japan, Australia, South Africa... everywhere (surprisingly even from Antarctica! Though of course they aren't native Antarcticans, but they do live there). This feature is really nice, in my opinion, because you can have the opportunity to get help learning new languages (most everyone speaks at least enough English to communicate effectively), and you can learn about different cultures.

It's a really cool website... I hope it works out for you. :]

~Becky
[16/f]

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i have an account as an advicenator. but i am never on as much as i used to be,so i would like to delete my account but i dont know how.

Try the FAQ next time; it was pretty easy to find the answer there. http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?f=38

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have an eating disorder.[i'm not one of those skinny girls who has them.]
&& i've told mii close friends about it.
but 1 of them [whos like mii sister] says shes getting worried about it && said if i don't get help then she'll get it 4 me by telling someone.
i tried 2 tell her that i can't get help cause mii parents will find out && they aren't the "okay we'll get help for you" type parents.
their the "i'm gonna hurt you 4 being stupid" type.
&& theres nothing i can say 2 her to even try 2 convince her 2 not tell.
but she keeps saying that unless i get help then shes gonna tell.
so what i wanted 2 ask if any of you had any suggestions of a way 4 me 2 get help without mii parents knowing?

Talk to a counselor at school. That's the best thing I can think of; they'll be able to help you work out your disorder and probably help out with the parental issues you have going on as well. Good luck, and don't be upset with your friend: she's just worried about you and wants you to be safe.

~Becky
[15/f]

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which is better for editing pictures?

Photoshop elements or photoshop CS3

anyother info on either would be taken :)

thanks xx

Photoshop CS3 is a much better program. Unfortunately, quality comes with a price: CS3 is about &650, whereas Elements 6 is around $100. If the price is cool with you, I'd get CS3; I've used both and I liked it better. If it's not, Elements a wonderful program, it just has less tools and such.

If I were you, I'd check out the 30-day free trials (go to http://www.adobe.com/downloads/ and click try on whichever you'd like; you'll have to sign up first). I think you may only be able to get one free trial though, so you'll have to decide which one you'd like to try out.

Good luck on choosing a program! Let me know if you have any more questions. C:

~Becky
[15/f]

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ok, so, how do you get avril's look in "my happy ending" ? like, when she's playing the piano. thnx in advanceee.
exoh.

at about 0:28-0:31, like that.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C2eUCfREAbw

My guess would be that she is wearing a whole lot of black mascara and eyeliner on both her bottom and top lashes and lids. It also seems that she is wearing a cream-based gray shimmery eye shadow, and maybe a lighter (white-ish) shadow of the same cream-base closer to the top, under her brow (blended in of course with the gray).

~Becky
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i shaved my puibs 4 my girlfriend and it left all these red dots all over the area right above my dick wat r they and how do i get rid of them



P.S. they wernt there when i shaved they apperd tha day after

That area is very sensitive (obviously), so shaving it most likely irritated the skin. There's also the possibility of ingrown hairs, which can be itchy and uncomfortable and not fun at all. The best thing you can do is just let the hair grow back and not worry about it- there's a very big possibility that if you shave again, the red bumps will be back. You could also just deal with the red dots if you (and your girlfriend) really dislike the hair- it's your call.

~Becky
[15/f]

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i was wondering...do you know how to try out for the clique movie?? because i am really interested...i already went to the webiste and signed up for the newsletter but are we suppose to send a headshot to someone? please let me know

I'm sorry, but casting is already over. You can view the main cast here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Clique_%28film%29 .

~Becky
[15/f]

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I live in a country where the drinking age is 16 for low alcoholic drinks (so under 15% I think, or 10%)
I'm 15 and a half.

During the holidays I've been going to some bars, with some good friends,and I've had maybe one or two beers. I get served anywhere I go, but if I don't get drunk(I already have a high tolerance level) but just drink one or two drinks...would that be ok?
Or is that considered as wrong and immature?
And by the way, my friends aren't making me drink, we've all drank before, no one has made the others drink or anything like that.
We respect each others choices, and there's people in our group that don't drink.

I'm just wondering what it would seem like for others?

Well, legally it's not okay. Regardless of the fact that you are only 6 months or less away from the legal drinking age for your country, you aren't actually at a legal age yet- you could still get in trouble with the police, or your parents, or the bar. I'd say just wait another few months and be glad that once you hit 16 you'll legally be able to drink- most of us have to wait til we're 21. C;

~Becky
[15/f]

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I think I might have diabetes. Both my sister told me today I might have diabetes cause I drink alot, because I get thirsty alot. So I looked up alot of the symptoms and I think I might have it. Anyone who has diabetes could you answer this and tell me some of the symptoms and stuff I might want to know like how you get tested like what they do and stuff? Any answers would be greatly appreciated. I know I can just look the symptoms and stuff up online, but i'd rather have answers from people who actualy have diabetes. Please and thankyou in advance.

I don't actually have diabetes, but I know people with both types so I hopefully can help you out.

I'm not sure which type of diabetes you think you have. Type 1 or Type 2?

Type 1 is something you are born with- it's in your genes and can't be prevented. No one knows the cause of it, but what happens is that your immune system attacks your insulin-making cells, so your pancreas can't make insulin anymore. Glucose that you get from food needs to get to these cells, but they can't because they're destroyed (your pancreas can't ever make insulin again) so the glucose stays in your bloodstream, making your blood sugar very high. Some symptoms are:

* peeing a lot
* drinking a lot
* eating a lot
* losing weight
* feeling tired all the time

To deal with Type 1, you need to get regular insulin shots or get insulin from an insulin pump to help your body work better and keep your blood sugar level normal. Also, you need to live a healthy lifestyle with the right diet and amount of exercise, as well as test your blood sugar level daily.

Type 2 is something that you acquire during your life- you aren't born with it. No one really knows for sure what causes people to get it, but most people who do are overweight, many have family members that have/had diabetes, and most are over the age of ten. When you have Type 2, your pancreas still makes insulin, but your body doesn't respond correctly to the insulin, so the glucose can't enter your cells still, just like in Type 1, so your pancreas still detects false high blood sugar levels. It tries to fix the problem by making excess insulin, but over time it wears out from so much extra work. When this happens, it actually can't make enough, so then you may get high blood sugar for real. Some symptoms of Type 2 are:

* peeing a lot
* drinking a lot
* feeling tired often

To treat Type 2, you need to make sure you're eating healthily and exercising enough (just live a healthy lifestyle) and check your blood sugar level regularly. Also, many people take insulin, or medicine that helps the insulin they already have work more effectively.

To find out if you have either type, have your mom set up a doctor's appointment- with blood tests, they'll be able to diagnose you. Keep in mind though, that just because you drink a lot doesn't automatically mean you're diabetic- any of the symptoms by themselves can mean something different than diabetes. Still, if you really think you have it, a doctor's appointment can be a good idea.

I got most all my info from here: http://kidshealth.org/teen/centers/diabetes_center.html - check it out, it could help you with more questions, or you can send more questions you may have for me to my inbox and I'll help best I can. C: Hope I helped!

~Becky
[15/f]


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i am 14 this year and i am still 1.48cm,what do i need to do,to grow taller?

Well, if your parents are short too, then there's nothing you can do about it. It's in your genetics, and even something as drastic as growth hormones would probably not help you out, because doctors are mostly only willing to give those to people who are having problems reaching the height they are supposed to reach (based on their parent's heights). The best you can do is make sure you sleep enough (8 hours a night), eat healthily, and exercise- putting your body in a healthy routine will help you reach your full potential height. All the magazines say wearing different types of clothing makes you look taller, so I suppose you could look into that if it really bothered you. Cheer up, though- girls (and boys) don't stop getting taller until their late teens/early twenties, so you may still get taller for the next several years! Hope I helped. C:

~Becky
[14/f]

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f 17

now being serious
I think big is beautiful
I look at women like Queen Latifah and Tyra Banks
and they are Thick beautiful women

but then you have the Paris Hilton's and the Nicole Richies
who are dam near a string and thats what america thinks is right.
thats what men think is "Hot"

but to me they have little girl bodies

now i'm a thick girl and i love it
but i still sometimes feel the need to be thin
not because i'm not happy with myself
but because of the way others may look at me
my skinny friends get attention from guys our age
but i get it from men that are 20, 21 ,22

I jus really want to know Is big BEAUTIFUL
or am i just buggin'?

Personally, I think it's all about attitude. I view Queen Latifah as a really beautiful woman because from what I've seen, she has a great personality- always smiling and laughing, and she just seems really bubbly and nice. To me, that makes her beautiful.

Also, it's hardly fair to say that thin girls have little girl bodies and don't deserve attention from guys- I'm thin, and that's just the way I was built. There isn't a double standard in this situation- the skinniest girl in the world wouldn't be nearly as beautiful as she could be if she was always frowning and glaring and had a mean, bitchy personality. But she could be just as beautiful as Queen Latifah if she just had a happier look on life, and let people know.

I know it's totally cliché to say "Oh, looks don't matter as long as you're beautiful on the inside!" But in my opinion, it is true to some extent- focus on just being yourself and having fun, and I'm sure you'll get plenty of attention. C:

~Becky
[15/f]

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Hi, I have been looking at 2 different electric shavers by braun.
Braun pulsonic ($300)
Braun 360 Complete ($200)

Now I would like to know the main differences. They both clean themselves, They are both cordless. What is the BIG difference. Do you own either of them? What do you think of it? Is it worth it? Any opinions will be good. Thank you in advance!

I don't own either, but I looked both up, and it seems that "the Braun 9585CC Pulsonic Shaver wit LCD Screen is the world's only shaver with over 10,000 micro vibrations per minute helps to expose and cut more hair with every stroke." (from Walmart.com description) Is that really worth an extra $100, especially when they both have "patented technology lifts problem hairs that lie flat to the skin to avoid missed hairs in hard to shave areas"? (also from Walmart.com) It's up to you, but I'd say you'd be fine with the 360. C:

~Becky
[15/f]

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I am really under weight and my mum thinks i am bulimic, what should i do>

If you aren't bulimic (or anorexic, etc.) and you are extremely underweight, it would probably be a good idea to talk with you mom and ask for help. I think if you explain to her that you aren't bulimic but being so underweight worries you, she'll believe you and she'll help you out. It would be a good idea to schedule an appointment with a doctor- there might be a problem with you that's not allowing your body to digest your food or something, which could lead to severe weight loss (such a thing happened to me several years ago- I lost 20 lbs. way too fast, when I was already rather thin). Your doctor should be able to help you out if it's a problem with your body. However, it could be a simple problem of not eating enough, for any reason. In that case, you obviously need to eat more- but not all junk food, because it's not healthy for you to pig out on junk even if you're really thin. I'm sure you and your mom could work out a diet plan to make you healthier. Hope I helped! C:

~Becky
[15/f]

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ignorance is bliss
what does that mean?
and what does this mean?
if ignorance is bliss, why arent more people happy?

"Ignorance is bliss" means that people feel better if they don't know much about a topic. I guess the other quote is implying that everyone is ignorant, but I'm not entirely sure.

~Becky
[15/f]

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has anyone been a member of the army rotc and had a scholarship? if so, could you tell me what it was like and how much tuition they covered?

I haven't been a member so I can't tell you what it's like, but I found the page with scholarship and tuition info- hope it helps! C: http://www.goarmy.com/rotc/scholarships.jsp

~Becky
[15/f]

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Do you know if is possible for parents to access text messages sent to and from a cell phone? Aside from on the phone itself.

It's possible for them to look at the texting bill and see what numbers you texted to and when, and what numbers texted you and when, but they can't see the content of the text message itself as far as I know- except for on the phone. C:

~Becky
[15/f]

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What is a website that offers free pen pals, that is safe, & most importantly FREE

only search advicenators.com


Try doing a search next time; it's really easy. C:

http://www.abroadlanguages.com/penpal/ This one looks good; it is a pen pal service and it's free, and the program looks decent. Hope it works out for you! ^_^

~Becky
[15/f]

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okay, the shape of my V, i dont know if it is normal.

its not like this... (|)

its like (/). i have a piece [thick, it looks like swollen kindof] piece of skin sticking out between the ( and ) it just looks like a big mess. is that normal? i've tried searching for a while. and the guys i have been hooking up with havent said anything about it

I'm sure it's fine, as long as you aren't in pain. Everyone is shaped differently. If you're really worried about it, you could visit a gynecologist, but I doubt there's anything to worry about. C:

~Becky
[15/f]

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i discharge A LOT! is that normal?

Yes, it is. Especially right before your period starts. C:

~Becky
[15/f]

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Okay, is it more or whenever i shave my pubes they start appearing the next day.. is that normal? Because whenever i shave, the next day they start sticking out again, i mean, i like having it nice and smooth down there, im wondering if it is just me?

also, if i try to shave the appearing hairs away i get a terrible rash!! so i have to wait about 5 or 6 days.. or a week, to shave again, and thats really uncomfortable.

so if its not just me, whats going on? and how can i stop them from growing back so fast!

That's normal- and the itchiness and rash is normal too, because the skin is very sensitive down there. I don't think there's anything you can really do about it- it's just the way your hair grows. However, you could try to use different methods of hair removal- like Nair (make sure to buy the bikini formula, otherwise it may be too strong and burn your skin) or wax strips. Another alternative would be a professional bikini wax, which would last longer but not forever, or laser hair removal, which would last longer but is expensive. Hope you find something that works! C:

~Becky
[15/f]

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