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How do I decide between my possible soulmate and another guy
First, thanks for reading this. I've been dating a 40 yr old man, Chris, for a couple of weeks, and we get along really well, I like him a lot, and he feels the same way. Last week, I met a guy online, Jon, who is 26, much closer to my age of 22. Jon and I have an amazing connection, he's everything I ever wanted in a man, except that he smokes...and he lives two hours away. I'm having trouble deciding which relationship to pursue. Should I drop Chris and see where things go with Jon, even if I'd only see him once or twice a week, or forget about Jon and keep seeing Chris, who lives in my town? I'm so confused, and I really need help! Do you have any suggestions on what I should do to decide? Thanks!
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the younger dude....definetly cuz if you choose the older one itll just seem like a father daughter realationship
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Hey there,
Ok I am just going to throw this out there and I hope you see it as just me looking at the situation from a different view point. Why do you have to chose right now? I mean you have only been dating Chris for a couple of weeks and you just met Jon why not see them both casually for a couple of weeks? That way at least you would have a clearer picture of the situation and a better understanding of which guy better meets your needs.
It's just a thought I am throwing out there, best of luck!
By the way someone said that internet dating doesn't work well that is how I met my husband he is my true soulmate and we have an awesome marriage, so it does work sometimes...Never give up hope or settle for less then your dream man!
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Well i dont know if you want advice from a 13 year old. however if you like older guys you should stick with cris and seen you more about him. seen jon is more what your looking for in a guy and its just 4 years differant maybe its him. nevertheless you should go and what you heart and mind says. if your not sure try find out more about them two then make your finally dision. hope ya pick tha right one
hope i help =]
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you should definently go for jon and dump chris. hun, your 22, and chris is 40!! hes gona be so old once your his age.
even though jons 2 hours away, your relationship with him could probably go somewhere. in a couple of years, you might even love each other.
if jon comes to love you, then he'll probably quit smoking if you tell him　too.
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hey,
I have a point of you, and i will share it with you. i have answered alot of questions before about people who do online dating, or you know, meet someone on the internet and start loving him and stuff.
First of all, i was going to tell you about how i don't believe in online dating and that it never works out,but since you are going to see him and meet him ,than its not a problem.
More and More, in this situation, its not important how many days a week you'll see anyone one of them, or how long the distance takes to their houses, but the most important thing is to figure out which one that your more attract to,and which one shares alot of stuff with you and you have alot in common,and which one do you really like. And i can't help you with that, because that goes back to you,therefore, you have to follow your heart, and see to where does it lead you and which person does it choose,and trust your instincts.
There fore, i think that i've said all i can to help you,but there is another point i want to clarify to you. I have always thought that age gaps do not really matter unless they are more than six years maximum,but don't you think that chris is a little to old, no offense, but don't you think that oneday, you will still be 33 and he'll be 50, a little to old? don't you think?
I guess what i am trying to say, that jon, does actually happen to be your age, and there is alot in common between you and him,besides that he's really sweet and understanding.
But all in all, it goes back to you in choosing who you really want, i clarified some points for you and made things clearer, but i can't decide your own future and love life for you,but i am always there to advise you,therefore if you need any furthere help ,please be free to contact me.
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Hi, personally I think you need to mix with someone your own age group like Jon. There is 18 years between you and Chris were as theres only 4 between you and Jon. You say that you and Chris get on well. It sounds as though you could be really good friends with him and go out with Jon who is a similar age group to you. However this is your decision. Daniel.
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ok yea. please dump chris. that is gross hes 40! ok go 4 jon u might love him in a couple of years. please what ever you do just dump chris.
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You said that you met Jon online last week. By that, does it mean that you have never met him in person? If that's the case, I don't think it would be a good idea to stop seeing Chris just for a chance with him. Also, are you even sure that you want to meet (in person) someone that you've met online last week?
If you've already met Jon in person, that's a different story. It's still going to be easier for you to be with someone that lives in your town, but if you've met him in person then at least you know what you're going for.
Other things to consider: do you think that Jon likes you back? You said that Chris likes you. If you're not sure, it's not really worth the risk, is it?
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