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jealousy
my boyfriend and i have known eachother for a year but we have only been dating for 4 months...we liked eachother longer than that but its a long story but anyways, almsot every girl i know likes him and i get really jealous which starts fights because i am so scared he is going to leave me, but i dont know how to stop being so jealous..i love him and he says he loves me but i feel like one day he is going to realize he can do better and i will be left by myself. i also have really bad trust issues because while i was at the beach about a month ago he went over to his ex's house and he said they didnt do anything but after i asked him if he went he lied and said he didnt which makes me wonder if he lies about other stuff so i just dont know when i can trust him, i have started trusting him morebut its just really hard whenso many girls like him...so how can i start trusting him and get over my jealousy?
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Personally I think you are alittle insecure about yourself. You shouldn't be. If he chose you over everyone else. That must mean something right. For the trust issue: He's going to have to earn your trust. Sit down and talk to him about it. Set some guidelines. If he really loves you like he says he does then he will understand where you are coming for and respect your decision.
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Im not sayin you should just give all your trust all out to him,but trust him. i know the one lie make you cant even know if he telling the truth next time.but if he really likes he won`t leave you. well what i think that was outa odda was that he went to his ex's house without telling you.Everyone has a little jealousy in every relationship, all if you get out of the relationship and you see him/her with someone else. What i would do is tell him how i feel.
hope I help
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dont jump to conclusions when there's nothing going on that should force you to mistrust/ not trust him.
but do trust him that will make him feel special because you trust him so he will realize your special and not leave okay
dont make other girls get you to become the greeen monster
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Does he know that alot of girls like him? If so then he is still with you.
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It shows that he doesn't care about the other girls, only you. Don't even worry about it.
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Try getting REALLY close to him when you're out with him. That shows that he is off limits for the other girls.
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If that many girls like him and he is still with you then he must really be in love with you. I wouldn't doubt it a bit.
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Try sitting down with him and telling how you feel jealous when he is around other girls that also like him. It could help him open up.
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Try being more at ease when you are around him. Open up and talk to him more if you don't do it enough already.
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Show him that you can be the only girl that he needs and he will see that the others girls don't even come close to being like the girl that he has.
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-Jessica
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Hey,
When i was reading your problem, a thought crossed my mind. You have a terrific boyfriend,
who loves you and cares about you, and the best thing is that you own him and have him all to yourself,and your wasting all this because your too busy thinking if he will,in the future, like another girl and dump you,or if he will,in the future, betray you or cheat on you.
Your actions of jealousy, and your fights that are very unreasonable and meaningless to your own boyfriend who tells you i love you everyday.
These actioins WILL make him leave you, and start ditching you. i mean... its actually as if you are telling him" i don't trust you !and i think that you could be cheating on me with your ex!" and yet he still loves you and says nothing about it. But now, i am advising you and telling you to change that before its to late.
YOur boyfriend loves, cares about you and he trusts you. Therefore he did this part,and now,i know that you love him too and care about him, but there has to be trust, or else this whole relationship will have to end,and if there is trust then there will not be any jealousy of any sort.
And instead of thinking of all these thoughts you think about,why don't you think "oh my god! my boyfriend is sweet,because although alot of girls like him, he's still sticking by my side and loving me and wanting me"
Therefore, i am will tell you how to overcome this feeling of jealousy, to trust your boyfriend, and believe in him and his love to you. Because he does, and therefore, you have to be loyal too and do your part,because you don't want to be the wrong one in the situation. So show him that you are happy,and that you are lots of fun, and see what he likes to do, and do it with him, and change things about you that would make him like you and attract to you even more. You have something very precious in your hands, so don't lose that, because if you do ,then you will regret it so much, and not only that, but you will regret all the fights and dis-trust and jealousy you showed him.
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If he really likes you then he should have control on other girls and won`t leave you. I think it`s rude how he went to his ex's without telling you especially when you were gone. Everyone has a little jealousy in every relationship. Talk to him about it, tell him how you feel. And whatever he says - go from there. I`m a jealous person, i tend to keep it too myself alot but then i just builds up quickly and then comes out at the wrong time. Hope things work out. ♥
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