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almost 17, nvr have had a real relationship :[
im going to be 17 years old in a week. and ive never really had a "real boyfriend" before. i mean i went out with like 3 guys, but that was all in middle school, and it wasnt anything like people have now in high school.. tomorrow im going to this party with my friend, and ive been praying all day to let me find a guy that wont just try to get in my pants and then leave. thats what always happens. it would make my birthday soo much better if i could just find a guy that i connect with, and that is actually interested in me and not only sex. especially the first night we meet. there are guys that want to meet me in person and hang out that are from myspace, they are my age and live by me but for some reason i always turn them down. every single one of them. does that mean that non of them are "right" for me? or am i just shy? i dont know.
tomorrow i want to get to know a guy and maybe even go on a date or two after the party. and then hopefully it can lead into my first real relationship
but i dont even know how to get started with that. i dont know how to act or what to say or anything..and how do i know that they actually want to get to know me and they arent just using me to get some? how can u tell the difference?
if anyone and everyone could help me in any way possible to make me think i might actually meet someone tomorrow night i would appreciate it soooooo much.
i always wish on stars that i see and i pray that i find a guy, but it never happens.
i really really think i deserve this. i know i can get a guy, because i do think im pretty. so thats not the reason.. but i dont know why i cant ever find someone that i like enough.
thanks sooo much xoxoxo
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okay, i know in high school its probly really hard relationship wise, but to be honest, girl to girl you sound desperate. you dont need to look for a guy, thats how a lot of people make mistakes they go out searching for love. dont search for love let it find you, so what if you dont have mr right. right now, then you have more time for you hang out with ur girls chill go to the mall movies arcade just have fun and do you dont worry about guys now when the time is right he will find you.
hope i helped EbOnY =)
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well... i am almost 18, a sophomore in college (it happens) and i haven't been in a serious relationship either.
you are right to reject guys from myspace. i tried going out with a guy like that once, because i thought he could be trusted since he was russian like me. it was pretty dumb, like i didn't know that guys think the same way no matter where they're from! if they're asking you out online, they are probably just looking at the picture and thinking "that's a hot chick, i wouldn't mind taking her panties off!"
anyway. the reason that i'm still single is that i'm afraid to open up. every guy that i've opened up to and became good friends with (or just was really open with for some period of time, even one night) ended up asking me out. unfortunately, i only do that when i know that i could never be attracted to the guy. point is, i'm using this example to tell you that sometimes you need to let them take a look deep inside you. tell them your fears, your secrets, the silliest things that could possibly come to your mind, things you are embarrased off. i personally can't do it with guys i find attractive, but that's just my problem and i'll try to work on that. maybe you have have more guts than me. or maybe we both need to work on it.
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i think you should just relax and go to your friends party and try to take to a nice guy you find. and your friends from myspace that want to meet you i personally dont think you should meet them. well if you want you guys should set up a meeting place and go with a few friends. i have heard alot of bad things that happen from my space. but just relax you will find a nice guy sooner or later.
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Don't try so hard. Just be yourself, and let your personality show. Never put on an act, or you will attract guys who like a person that doesn't really exist. You want to attract a guy who likes your true personality.
Also, when you are anxious and desperate it will show through. You don't want to attract the kind of guys who are into "anxious and desperate"!
If your main worries are about pressure to have sex, there is such an easy, EASY solution to that.
When you meet a guy you like, tell him up front that you are saving sex for marriage.
If the guy isn't interested anymore, then guess what? He just wanted to use your body parts! You saved yourself a lot of time and trouble and heartache.
Any guy who really likes you would be willing to wait. Mind did. :-)
By the way, I was 26 before I had a real relationship, so just because 13 year old are having sex these days, doesn't mean that's the way it should be. Also, sex does not equal a real relationship. Anybody can lay down and spread their legs, that doesn't mean they found their soulmate. That's also not the way to find one's soulmate, though it seems like most young people think it is. That's why they hop from one guy to the next because they are trying to fill a void that can't be filled through sex, but they don't know any better and just keep trying. It's very sad, actually. :-(
Good Luck.
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It seems like you've got a good head on your shoulders, my dear.
All I can say.. is just let it come to you. Dont worry the whole night about that certain guy approaching you. Have fun, flirt, smile, be yourself and eventually someone will notice you. Don't let it bother you :)
I think you can tell when they're using you. I mean, if he only wants sex from you, he'll be trying to get down your pants before the relationship, I'd assume. If thats the case, drop him. But if he takes the time to listen to you, to talk to you and to hear what you have to say, then give him the time of day. <3
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