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am i a slut
Okay i'm 12/f about to turn 13 in 2 weeks =] ! I really like this boy and yesterday i went to his house to hang out and i d k if this is slutty or what ? Well we was over there watching the Grudge and i was just laying by him, then we like moved to the floor and all the sudden he leaned over and we started making out. I like got on top of him and we like started having dry sex with are clothes on. Well he knew my turn on spot is my neck so he was kissing my neck and i just got really in the mood so he rolled over on top of me and we kept on doin it. Well then we stopped cause we heared someone upstairs so we were just laying there. And i let him finger me. And i was giving him a hand job all night !! Like every minute. Then hes like how bout you suck it for meee ? and i was like omg i never sucked one before soo yeah.. but we went downstairs but then we came back up after we did some more stuff.. okay now heres where it gets bad. We were laying on the couch and i like sucked his dick about 3 times and he wanted moreee. but we didn't have a condom . Well he fingered me again and left a huuuge hickey on my neck. Wow thats alot of stuf. Do you think thats slutty and just give me some advice on what i just told you . I feel slutty and guilty and i feel like hes useing me.
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Okay honey, let me start by saying that I am almost 16 and me and my boyfriend JUST got to the stage you're talking about and we've been together for almost a year. Obviously you need to figure out what you're comfortable with.
I understand that you're a horny teenager, and I understand that desires go back and forth. Some days I'll be dying to have sex with my boyfriend, other days I'll think it's repulsive (and more importantly, how much it'll hurt!). I get that. But you need to remember the consequences of starting this so young. First of all, it will hurt. Like a bitch. Not to mention you won't even start feeling pleasure until the 3rd time or later. Trust me, if you wait until you're older, it will be so much more special.
So to answer your question, no, you're not a slut, but be cautious with this boy. Boys talk. You don't want the wrong words to get spread about you.
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Hey, I'm 12 too, about to be 3 in like a month.
First of all, I'm not going to judge you like most people are doing right now.. You're 12. youre about to be a teenager. youre hormones are acting up, you tend to be like... idk.. but i know exactly how you felt. you wanted to do more. i've been in that position.
me and this guy were talking for a long time, and one time we just started to makeout.. well, he took his hand away from my waist, and started to slide down to the button of my pants.. i was feeling like how you felt so i didnt care, and i let him. well, he kept on, and he was about to finger me, but we heard someone coming so we stopped. thats as far as ive gone with somebody. were dating now, if he tried to do more, i would let him. me and him trust each other with everything.
the answer to your question, is that i dont think youre slutty. a slut is like, if you have sex with 10 guys when youre 12. or like, youre dating somebody and you do sexual related things with other people.
i hate to say this, but i think im a slut. i broke up with my ex boyfriend for the guy that i told you about, then i broke up with him. i thought it was all good, until me and the guy started talking again and i kissed some guy. right after i kissed the guy, a couple weeks later i dated my friend. then i broke up with my friend for the guy that i told you about(again). right now, i couldnt be any happier with Brian(the guy). But yeah, thats all i have to say about that..
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Well, in all honesty its hard to see a 12/13 year old girl do any of this. It's a shock, not because I think your a slut, but because you'd even feel ready to get that far. In answer to your first question, yes, I think this boy was using you. I don't know how old HE is, but to say "how bout you suck it for me" is not only inappropriate but the definition of an asshole.
I guess the question is, do you regret it. Was the entire situation something you actually felt comfortable doing, or did you feel pressured into it. If you can't say no now.... when will you be able to?
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well i have a question really.im 14 years old and a freshman in high school. my question is, today i went to my friends house because a close friend died of his.
well we started to tlk and he began to hug me. i thought it was for the simpathy then out of no where he kisses me. BUT I STOP! and then we tlkd a lil bit more and wen i was about to leave he kisses me again and we made out. he was on top of me kissing my neck. and then rolled over and i was on top of him( this boy was a ex i had, but i broke up with him for a nother a-hole) he started again to kiss my neck and then kida ish on my breast then i let him pull iht up and started to kiss my breast. then i looked at my necklace(happens to be the cross) and i stoped. he kept saying sorry and, blah blah blah. bhut i really wanted to cry and wanted to go home. i left to his door to leave his house. and he kept hunnging me saying im sorry soo sorry..
when i was wlking home i started to asl god for my forgivness i didnt want to be like girls in my town(known as having sex and drugs all the time)
bhut whyi do i feel this way-. i dont want to be like my friend who things quick bhut lil by lil, having her breast sucked, then having a naked boy rub her naked, and eventually having sex..- i dont want to be like. i mean i can say no cuz i have i was near iht. i just need more advice. to make feel more cofident and staying away from having sex. bhut nothing is ever perfect. so if anyone could please comment
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Okay let me start off that a lot of the people below me are extremely harsh and clearly do not notice that they're talking to a 12 year old girl.
Now listen. I'm 14 years old. I regret so many things I've done in the past. I was DISGUSTING! So I want you to learn from me. DO NOT COPY ME! I am proud of myself now. I've learned from my mistakes and I'm very happy. I've made the SAME mistake about... 10 times. Yes. 10 different BOYS. Yes. Boys. Because I was uncontrollable and horny and had no self respect. And I thought it was okay for me to do these things. I didn't come out of the womb having sex but I grew up in the suburbs. Drugs, alcohol, and sex were the only things that registered through my brain. I started experimenting when I was 8 years old. I regret it. I let so many selfish disgusting boys take advantage of me. And then I lost my virginity at 12 years old. You wouldn't believe me if I told you what I've done. Up till now I have a boyfriend who is extremely protective of me and I myself am NOT and never will be afraid to say that he loves me. He respects me and my body and stops me before I make stupid decisions. I love this man and trust him. The sad part is... I cheated on him TWICE. TWICE. With three different "boys". It was a long distance relationship and we never saw each other. We only talked through instant messaging. Therefor I didn't get the attention I needed and I went along and did what I thought was okay to do. Since I was very small I watched porn. No one ever caught me. I thought porn was magnificent and in reality it's DISGUSTING AND HORRIBLE AND I HATE IT! I can't even look at porn anymore. I think it's sick. I can't stand it. And it's degrading and sad. Now the whole point I'm pointing towards you is that....
Learn from me..... don't copy what I did..... You'll regret it babe... trust me. I was sick. Don't be the same.
And to the people who said "Oh ew you make me sick you're disgusting" HAVE SOME FUCKING HEART! SHE'S A 12 YEAR OLD GIRL! If you don't have anything respectful to say then don't say shit at all!!! I WISH you knew how it felt. You insensitive pricks....
God bless you child. Please I hope you grow up to be a beautiful pure woman instead of a dirty uncontrollable hag like me.... :
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I think you know if it's slutty or not and you really need to reach inside of yourself to discover this.
Obviously, it feels very wrong to be doing this or you wouldn't have been concerned about being perceived as a slut. From here, you should take the time to decide if you want to do the right thing and discontinue these activities or if you want to disregard your gut feelings and pretend it is acceptable behavior.
It is a fact that when people feel slutty/dirty/whorish they reach out to people they feel will accept their actions and tell them that they are not doing anything wrong. The fact that you are questioning this tells a lot and I hope you do understand that. I also want to note that just because someone here claims it is not slutty behavior does not make it alright--YOU know what is really going on. To put it simply, your conscience is screaming at you.
You obviously have been jumping into some things you are not well-prepared for and your conscience knows it. I suggest you take time to look at yourself and where you are now headed in life. It is not healthy or intelligent to rush into sex knowing that your sex-partner is attached to another person. It is not right to help someone betray their partner, of course.
What I'm saying is, the next time some guys says he really likes you or loves you it doesn't mean that sex needs to follow. It doesn't matter if he gives you attention or not because this is the WRONG type of attention you need to be able to blossom into a wonderful human.
Prostitutes have sex every single day with various men/women and never feel any emotion for them so that alone tells you that sex doesn't mean anything.
When you interact sexually with a person without getting to know them at all then it does put a stigma on you. The person will perceive you as sexual and empty. They see that you will make them feel good physically but have nothing else to really offer them. Most, if not all, of these sort of relationships burn out quickly.
So, yes, it is slutty behavior. Yes, you should discontinue sleeping around because it is totally wrong. Yes, you should start listening to your conscience and following what you KNOW is right and not what the media and your peers try to feed you. Yes, if you are questioning your actions then they are, most likely, very wrong and you should discontinue them.
In addition, people do care if you're a slut. I care. I don't want you to become a statistic. I don't want to see you here feeling worse about yourself, falling deeper in the hole. I want to see you grow as a person and KNOW that you are better than these activities.
You'll feel better about yourself when you know you have changed. Work on yourself and don't fall into this dark hole of having sex whenever a guy seems interested and pays attention to you. You are worth something right now, don't make yourself worthless to others. Resolve this with yourself, make sure it never happens again, and learn your lesson from these experiences. With all of those met, you will be able to overcome this and will only carry it as a burden to tell others about your experiences--to help enlighten them on what you had to learn through heartache.
What you have been doing has serious, even dead, consequences. Here are some examples:
Oral sex consequences (wow):
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Herpes information (yes, you can be born with herpes and it can spread even if there are no sores present):
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Mutual masturbation consequences (hpv, herpes):
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Proof that condoms are not 100% effective on preventing STD transmission:
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You CAN get pregnant while on the pill:
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STDs are extremely common; 80% of Americans have herpes:
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(Graphic) Photos of what STDs can do to your body:
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The financial costs of a pregnancy:
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Who cares about virginity anyway? You should!:
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...seriously!:
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ANYONE can have an STD, even if they are a virgin:
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I hope you do what is clearly appropriate for you and take steps to work on yourself. If you have other questions like this, please feel free to ask me! :)
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Sweetheart, your not a slut but if you have any doubt he is using you, you need to find out if he is or not.
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Babygirl.
First to know if you are acting slutty we need to know about the guy.
How old is he? If he is older than 15 thats not the best thing...
How long have you known him? Just starting to.. Not good ethier...
How many times have you hung out with him before doing shit? Just a few.. Eh..
If thats how it is you are acting a little slutty.
I am not calling you a slut though because I have done FAR worse and im only 14 turning 15, but I didnt do anything til a while ago.. But anyways.
Does he even like you?
Are you dating?
Do you like him?
How does he treat you?
You should ask yourself those questions and see if he is actually using you or not.
But yes I hope that helps..
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look girlfriend if you think he's using you tell your best friend about it or (I KNOW THIS IS EMBRASSING) your mum!.
If you don't feel comfortable doing these things tell him about it and if he really cares about you he will understand.
At your age you shouldnt be doing that sort of thing but I known sex is temping!.
Don't have sex andtil YOU want to its your choice and your body try to save it for someone special!
ps. about being a slut when I was a teen I masturbated about 2 times a day so don't worry about it!
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Sweet heart, I have to say it was inapropiate behavior and you shouldnt have done it.
There are over 200 disease you may have now.
I am hoping you will take my advice:
1) Tell your parent(s) (maybe just mom!)
REMEMBER:
1) Everyone makes mistakes
2) This insident WAS A MISTAKE!
3) I can learn from every mistake.
4) Think before you do!
These may be hard but are the best things to do and remember!
"xxsima answered Sunday July 9 2006, 7:46 pm:
Hun, get off this site. Go see a therapist. You are way too young to be doing this.
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Harsh! See your parents not a therapist!
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Perhaps you feel slutty and guilty because of what oters let you believe. Don't listen to anyone, you're not hurting anyone and there is no "right" and "wrong", "should" or "shouldn't" in such things. Just make sure you do what you like. People that would consider you slutty don't know what they're talking about.
best luck
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Hun, get off this site. Go see a therapist. You are way too young to be doing this.
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first you to young to be on here and second to be a slut you have to sleep with more than one boy. i aint trying to make you feel bad, but damn girl you are 12 you should'nt even be thinking bout doing that.you already maked your decsion and all but next you need to be more careful, because you may not be his first and no matter what age you still can have STD's. Don't let guys take advantage of you like that. he probably was using you. you said that you like this guy and he kind of does too, but how you know he like you? dont let him think he can use you for sex girl. if hwe starting to inorge you, he used you. but if he do its ok nobody is perfect, everybody makes mistake. all im telling you is not to make that same mistake.
FIRST TIME: a mistake
SECOND TIME: wasnt thinkin
THRID TIME: you a damn FOOL
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you're not old enough to be on here and you did that with a guy? i don't know if that's "slutty" but it's inappropriate for your age. <3
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you...wow everything you did with this boy...i have never done one thing of all the things you have done and im turning 15 next month....well obiously your not the first for this boy....and its also your fault you let him use you like that...when he kissed you , you kissed him back when he kissed your neck you didnt really go "oh no we shoudldnt do this im not even a teenager yet stop" no you said "oh yes" when he wanted to finger you you said "sure" when he wantsed you to give him a blow job you said "well aww i have nver don that before...but ok lets just go downstairs" wow seriously you should not be doing any of this...seriously you make me sick
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Hi, I think your way to young to be doing things like that. I don't really believe there is such a thing as a slut, but I think 12 years of age is pritty young. Daniel.
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You're not even old enough to be on this site and you're doing that stuff? Seriously. I wonder what you're going to be doing by the time you're 20 years old. I'm not going to call you a slut or anything because what you do is your decision and you did it because you wanted to. If you REALLY like this guy then why do you feel guilty? You're doing the wrong things to get attention or whatever it is that you're trying to do. I honestly don't see why you did all that stuff anyways? I think I answered your question. No I don't think you're a slut, but I'm going to be honest with you and tell you that if that's your way of getting attention from a guy or whatever, you're making a mistake.
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First of all, You said that you like this guy and he kind of does too, and therefore you're sort of dating.Moreover, all the things you did were with your boyfriend. On the other hand, to be a slut is to fuck more than one boy at a time,and to have sex with a different one practically every night. So your not a slut.
Second of all, he could be using you for sex and to do these stuff for him, and in the same time, he couldn't. And to judge about that, you'll have to wait when you're in a difficult situation for example, and then you'll know, if he stands beside you and is there for you, then he loves you and cares about you and is not using you, but if he doesn't and he ignores you then he is using you.
And although, i am sure that your not gonna keep waiting for a situation to happen to judge about that, so mabye one night when your hanging out together, and he starts doing something, try to tell him" lets not do it tonight" or " i am tired" or "i am not in the mood" or " lets do something else" and if he agrees, then he's cool and isn't using you, but if he gets all pest off and insists, then he is using you.
In conclusion, if there is any further questions or worries, please contact me.
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damn girl sorry to say this but it seems that he used you luckily yall didn't even go more but seriously your only 12 turnin 13 and you doin theses thing imagine when your sixteen and the reason why you feel guilty was because you know he wasn't the one you wanted to do that with you did but with him because you were into it and couldn't stop your hormones but you know wait when your older with the right guy that you love to do these things and you'll feel better control your hotmones missy
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sorry to say this but
you might have made a bigggg mistake.
your gonna be only 13
and are doing this stuff.
if you guys didnt think and just went at it
and didnt have a condom and still had sex then you would of had your whole future ruined.
atleast you didnt have sex.
but getting fingered and giving a handjob and blowjob.
thats just wow.
maybe you two should have thought a little mor.
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sweetie sorry to say it i believe he def. is.. Guys are assholes, and its hard to find a good one now a days. How old is this guy anyways.. Dont let him take advantage of you, and no matter how much you like this boy.. your age is pretty young, but things like this happen. Just remember, any guy who makes you feel uncomfortable or pressures you into something you know you shouldnt do, isnt worth it. Dont feel guilty just learn from your mistakess, dont let it happen againn. best of luckk
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well you came on this website askin for advice and im a 15 year old chick thats NEVER done half of what you just did....um how old did you say you were again...????12 turnin 13 is HELL TO YOUNG omg i cant believe you did all of that shit OFCOURSE he using you !!!he sees you as a slut and decides that"hey this girls gonna do anything i ask her to do so why not ask?"ew i cant belive you....sucked him at such a young age when i was 12 i woulda puked if i heard something like that!!girls like you is what gives us good girls the name "sluts and hoes" well its good that you feel guilty about it and never do that again at this age...at your age you should be running around like a retart and having water fights with your girls.do you know that you can get STDs from that???(sexually transmitted diseases)
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i dont really think thats slutty, because thats when you're moving on to all different guys and doing stuff like that, but i do think that 12 is too young to do that. he could also tell other guys what you did and they'd think you were easy and they would do the same thing. i say just be careful and think better next time. hope i helped <33 briana
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ok you are in so way slutty being a slut is like doing this stuff with like so many diffrent guys. and people may say that 12 is a very young age but im 13 right now (almost 14) and what is to say are are to young and you are inmature i know ur not yes you may be young but there are allot more peopl out there doing this stuff and much worse im not in anyway saying this is right but dont feel so guilty just know not to do it agian if you dont want to. learn from your mistake dont feel horrible ok. if you dont want to do it again they its simple dont ok but if you feel its ok no one can stop you ok well im sorry if you feel like a slut bcasue your not well i hope i helped ttyl good luck*!!!!
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I wouldn't say you are slutty because that's a very offensive term, and usually the people being described by it have no problem with what they are doing. But I don't think that you should be going that far with a guy, especially if you haven't even gone out with him. In my opinion you are way too young to go that far.
First of all, the spread of STD's is steadily in creasing, and also you have no idea what this guy will tell people. Your reputation could be ruined. If you feel guilty and think he's using you, then obviously you know you shouldn't have gone that far.
I really don't mean this to lecture you because you've probably heard this thousands of time. I just hope that you decide to take it slower in the future. If you do all of that on the first date, how can any guy respect you? and how can you be in a relationship where you aren't respected? even worse, how can you live if you lose respect for yourself.
Sorry if this became a huge lecture, but I hope it helped you anyway.
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Yeah uhm. I'm sorry to say but that is pretty slutty. Your only 12 & your doing stuff like that. Your gonnah end up getting hurt. Espesically if your feeling guilty. You deffently need to stop.
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hi hun,
well you are only twelve, and even so turning 13 in 2 weeks, 13 is still a imature age, for most.
I dont want you to be offended, but I'm going to be honest and say yes it is slutty. You both are just using each other for pleasure, and that is wrong. In the end your hurting both of you guys.
Its more though that your doing way to much heavy stuff thats not ment to be done for a very long time, and with someone you trust and actually "love" beacuse this situation sounds more to me like lusting and raging hormones.
Be careful.
<3
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i want to ask you a question: what are you getting out of this? did you truly enjoy it, or were you doing it to make him like you? think hard about this. if youre only doing it to make him like you, then you deffinately need to stop. you are only 12 years old, hon, and you are too young to be doing these kinds of things. ill admit i have done SOME of the things that you talked about (i stopped at fingering and hand job...no sucking for me, thanks) and i felt like the biggest freakin slut. i hated the way that i felt after we did that, and so i stopped. if hes pushing you to do this, then hes IS NOT worth being with.
hope this helps!
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sorry but i think it is slutty, but it doesn't mean you are a slut. it gets hard to say no sometimes, but i would just be more careful when you two are alone, because you are way too young to get pregnant. and remember condoms don't always work. so just be careful.
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"Slut" is a huge insult. I don't think you're slutty, but I do think that you need to be more careful. Don't let guys take advantage of you like this. It's true--he probably was using you. But that doesn't make you a slut! You did what you did--don't have any regrets, because it's in the past now. But if it makes you feel so bad afterward, my advice is to not do it again. You're going to end up hurt, emotionally and probably physically (you don't know what diseases he's carrying!) But don't feel guilty. You made a mistake, everybody does. =)
-Lea
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i don't think it's slutty.
and i mean...if you like him, then try and find out if he likes you too.
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You are 12.
People this age shouldn't even be watching this on TV let alone practicing it.
Lay off this for a while. You will get hurt in the end. and someone your age isn't ready to take on something this serious. There are MANY risks involved. Carry on and you can mess up your life.
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