My name is Heather im 14 going into high school. I play basketball and volleyball, and just enjoy partying and gettin out with my friends. Im really good on advice, like everyone comes to me. Things that are serious that i've done is helped a kid get out of wanting to kill himself. I'm realy nice and i just love to help anyone and everyone, ill try my best to help you out.
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im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m
Im starting to worry that i may be in that percentage range of women that never experience the pleasure of an orgasm.
Even when i masturbate, yes it feels good but nothing 'wow'
and i dont go in with the intention of having or trying to get an orgasm, mostly just to relax.
my boyfriend has tried everything, and its reaching that point that we're both feeling bad about it. I can get him off, make him cum everytime, yet he cant do the same for me. He's more determined then ever to find my 'spot' and to be able to make me feel how he feels when i pleasure him. But im worried that he wont and that he will feel not good enough.
Dont get me wrong, when im intimate with my boyfriend i dont do it with the intention of getting an orgasm. What he does, does feel really good, but yet ive never cum or anything.. Im extremely turned on and wet, so its not that im dry down there or anything. i just dont want him to feel anything less then amazing
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get a vibrator. to start put it in your clit. that should def make you go. you have to sometimes really think hard about it. when i could tell i wasnt going to orgasm i would make my boyfriend go really slow in me so it made me think about it more untill i could feel it building up then he would start giong normal. try watching porn or a movie with a sex scene. this happened to my friend too so dont worry and she finally just started having sex and having an orgasm. also you should try and get a type of creme you can get on pure romance. com or a sex store and it makes your clit more sensitive.
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I went to a doctor's appointment for a lump on my neck. I hadn't told my husband about it because I didn't want him to worry for no cause. They did some testing, biopsies and all, and it's come back that the lump is cancerous. With a little further testing and looking, I have more than one of these masses in my body. My doctor wants me to begin chemotherapy. I haven't told my husband still. Things don't look good. How do I tell my husband that I have been diagnosed with cancer and need to undergo chemo? (link)
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id say turn it around and picture if he had it and had been hiding from you... either way its a terrible thing to hear about, but its really important you tell him.. if you dont think you could make it through a convorsation without crying, i would say leave him a letter. sometimes leaving a letter you can express a lot more of what you want to say than in person, cause in person you forget a lot of things. dont wait any longer.. and best of luck and i hope everything goes well with your chemotherapy..
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Let me first start by giving you a little back ground information. My ex wife became pregnant when she was 20 and I was 19. Even though it was earlier than we both expected to become parents, we were thrilled and so excited to start our family together. We got married shortly after she gave birth to our son Matt. Soon after that, we had another son, and then a daughter. From my perspective, everything was great. That's why I was so blindsided when my wife came to me 9 months after our daughter was born claiming she wasn't ready to settle down and be a mother with divorce papers in her hand. Almost overnight, I became a 23 year old single father with a 4 year old, 2 year old, and a 9 month old. After the divorce was final, I rarely heard from my ex wife. She had begun living a life that I didn't necessarily approve of filled with drugs and alcohol and, while I wanted to keep my children as far away from that as possible, she was their mother and I didn’t feel like I could entirely keep them away from her. The last straw, however, came when I let my daughter, Alyssa, (who was 6 at the time) stay with her when I took my sons on a hunting trip. I was supposed to pick her up at noon the Sunday we got back. I spent the entire afternoon calling my ex wife’s apartment with no answer. At 5 that afternoon, I finally just went over to her house where I found her front door wide open and her passed out on the couch from mixing a few too many drugs with alcohol. Her neighbor came over to the apartment and told me that my ex wife had taken Alyssa out one night and come home completely plastered. Thank god her neighbor had woken up and decided to take Alyssa back to her apartment. And this is just one example of many. After that, I told my ex wide that I didn’t want her to see our kids anymore which devastated her so much she entered rehab. She got clean and for the past ten years has seen the kids a few times despite my hesitance. My kids and I have been living a great life together away from my ex wife. A few years ago I began dating another woman whom I am now engaged too. She gets along great with my kids and is an amazing person who I know will be a good influence on my kids’ lives. My oldest son Matt is now in college, but Colton (my middle son) and Alyssa still live with me. Since I have become engaged, my ex wife has become crazy about spending time with the two of them. She wants them at her house every weekend and doesn’t want my fiancé to parent them at all. She is trying to tell my daughter all kinds of lies about why she left, and how I am a horrible person for trying to keep them from seeing her. She tells her that the entire thing was my fault and all kinds of horrible rumors about my fiancé, who went to high school with my ex wife. She has asked both of my kids to move in with her. Colton told her absolutely not, but Alyssa is confused about the whole situation and doesn’t know what she should do. I have full custody of them so essentially it is my choice about whether or not she can see them. I don’t want to take them away from my ex wife, but I don’t want to lose them myself. I am still worried that she will resort back to her old ways and put my kids in danger like she has their whole lives. Am I right to not let my daughter move in with her mom? (link)
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Kids in between divorces is always a very hard situation. I believe that if your daughter is old enough to make a truely responsible decision than you guys should atleast meet a compromise on visiting. Ive seen this happen to many of my friends, the other parent will come back into their lives after years and try to give them perks and buy them over or tell them lies to get the kids to live with them. It is not right. If your daughter is about 16 or 17, I feel as though she would be mature enough to live with her mom and protect herself from the bad things. But everyone is different. And with a child in high school, partying is a huge influence and her mother may not really be strict or care what she does. I think you and your daughter should have a serious conversation, let her know what truely happened, and your concerns. Alyssa may not be mature enough to completely understand the whole situation, and you shouldn't let her make a decision until she truely does understand.
Its important that your kids do have a relationship with their mother though, and maybe you shouldn't let your daughter make the decision until she is of legal age, which is 18 where i live, to do so.
I hope I helped and good luck with everything.
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Me and my boyfriend have along distance relationship, he lives in a different country. I have cheated on him twice and told him the next day and I am trying to change and I know I can. But how do i prove that to him when we can't even be around each other and hang out. (link)
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i got cheated on many times, and the trust went down the drain and there was no hope for it. with out trust, nothing will work. I always wanted my ex to reallly understand what he did, like try every day to make it up to me, talk to me let me know what he is doing at allll times, it seems annoying but it makes them feel better. send him gifts. Always talk to him. Its gonna be really hard, but if you truely want to change and prove it to him it should all work out. just put yourself in his shoes
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16/f ive been depressed for a few years but then i met this guy and it changed everything. we dated for a year and i was the happiest person alive. then we broke up and it killed me. but i got through because we were stil really close and i still saw him everyday. he just recently told me that he is moving in 2 weeks. i have cried everyday and will continue to cry everyday about this. i cant stand knowing that i only have 2 more weeks with him before he moves 15 hours away and i will probably never see him again. but the thing is, to deal with all this i burn myself with a curling iron. i dont know why i do this but it gets my frustration out and helps somehow. but people are getting suspicious since im starting to have all these burns everywhere. they are big burns too and it makes a huge hole in my skin. i have scars from this. i dont know why i do this and i need to stop now. (link)
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sounds like my life, but i do not burn myself, instead, i used to like scratch myself, or take excess amounts of drugs. My bestest friend ever, in the world. shot himself in the head. died. He would call me to run away from home, everytime he thought about killing himself, idk. everything. The pain i expereinced from that, was incredible. I had never felt that in my life, and went into a permanent depression for a couple years. still am fighting it. the feelings of depression, i understand you. its terrible. no hope at all. i wanted and thought about killing myself from days. i could not do so because i know how much my best friend fucked up me, and i had to stay strong. i miss him to death, but honestly, when your gone... your just gone.
me and my boyfreind of 2 yrs just broke up, he cheated on me, plenty of times. he was the only one who got me through that whole time, him gone kinda numbed me.guess what, he moved to florida, i live in new york. he just forgot about me... sometimes, its better to have people in your life, than not at all. i am thankful hes alive, idc he cheated on me.. i can deal with that, it happens. you can deal with your break up, it happens. i know how much it hurts for him to be gone, i really do.. but i got over it.
you have two choices.. dwell on it, get sad, hurt yourself, put yourself down.
or.. get strong. after two years i decided its rather sink or swim. things that hurt you, just try to turn your mind into thinking thank god its not this bad.. or not think about it at all, whenever your mind wanders to it, block it out. start working out, tanning, idk what you do.. but it gets a lot of pain out and anger. have a close friend to talk to, even if they dont act like they understand or care (that was my situation)its better to get your shit out. Write in a journal, cant believe it but i did.. A guy can not change your life, you can not let him.. there will be many more guys, i promise. im stil single, and lost as shit as to where i am going. If your down, get a counselor.. i went, but for me it only reminded me how much i have problems everytime iwent.
I know how much pain your going through, honestly i do. Its terible. worst thing in the world. i would rather break every bone in my body than to expeiernce the pain of depression. if you ever need anything, im here.
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How do you move on when your ex-girlfriend who cheated on you after a five year relationship, text you messages telling you how she misses you, how she misses your touch, your kiss and that we shouldn't loose contant cause she still has interest at heart for me and that she doesn't see herself sleeping with her current boyfriend because she is afraid that he won't do it like i did? (link)
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hey wow seems like my life. im a girl though, hes the man whore. alright, well this helps in all honesty. basically you got two choices, cut this clean and be happy yourself, or make your self miserable. its all on you
stop responding to her messages. no matter how mad they can make you, sad, or upset
wait. an hour, and after that,think about how she is the one who messed up, and she is the one who cheated on you.
secondly, delete every single thing that reminds you of her, pictures on internet, anything on facebook or myspace if you got it, pictures in your room, basically anything and seriously everything.
third,spend your days in thought of how she is the one who fucked up, she is the one who cheated on you, its completely her loss, not yours. and she knows that
fourth, do not answer he calls, do not ask anyone about her unless you ready
Andd.. hate to say it, she sounds like a slut. I know im not a slut, i got morals. I just ghot fucked over two months ago from my two year relationship, now he wants me back. I would never though, say i want him back because i wanna fuck him basically. disgusting
she sounds selfish, she just wants to fuck, she donest care about how you feel, not trying to be mean, but thissoudns like the truth.
and, if you fuck up once, you'll do it again.
you deserve better, idk you, haha but you honestly need to follow what ive told you... and you will be alright. just like me, you'll be happy again
cut everything off, and then only good things come your way. promise
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can you help me my boyfriend was seen flirting with another girl what do i do? (link)
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just tell him it made you a little uncomfortable and in a nice way you didnt really like it.. dont hold it in, dont think bad of it. everyone flirts, just depends how mucch and how often.. especially if your still young, let him live, and you do the same.. its life, but communicate. if he cant respect it and it truely bothers you, end it
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18/f, i've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. he's always telling me how much he loves me and doesn't wanna lose me, and how beautiful i am, the whole nine yards. the problem is i have severe jealously issues, and almost ALL his friends are girls, and he is a flirt! he doesn't try to be, it's just his personality. he's not like a ladies man or anything, he only had two girlfriends before me [that only lasted like a couple months], they are just his friends, but i cant shake the issue. he is ALWAYS texting girls, and will like purposely turn the phone away from me so i cant see what theyre saying. it's not like im trying to be nosy, but that would make anyone wonder, even though he used to read my msgs when we first got together, although he says he "doesnt remember". even if he comments his girl friends, he'll say stuff like he loves their profile picture, and all his comments always have the little winky flirty face ;-). it really kills me inside, even though i know it shouldnt. i know people say "just remember he's with you and not them", and i know, but for anyone who has jealousy issues, you know it still hurts and you still wonder. he's never given me a reason not to trust him; he's the only guy i've ever dated who HASN'T cheated or used me, but i still wonder. i've talked to him about it several times, and when i do he either gets upset and says he would never hurt me, or gets defensive and says stuff like "fine i wont talk to any girls ever again!", which just upsets me more. he has every right to have girl friends and i dont want him not to, but just cant help the way i feel. i dont want to control him or know EVERY thing he's doing, but i just hate when i come across those things or he's texting his girl friends when im around and it feels like i get punched in the stomach. he was texting one last night and i kept making faces and he finally was like "do you just want me to turn my phone off?" and i was like yeah. i honestly dont think he'd ever cheat on me. ALL his friends and family know about me [if they dont actually know me] and he talks about me all the time, but sometimes i wonder if there'd be a girl who would know about me, but wouldnt care, and be trying to hang all over him and stuff. guys look at me and flirt with me quite often, but i dont have many guy friends that i regularly talk to, and i tell him EVERY THING guys say to me as far as trying to get with me and stuff, and i guess it just sux to know that he has ALL these girls for friends, and i dont really get told anything. how can i fix this? i hate that im so jealous. i always have been, and it's not always so bad, but sometimes, it really is, and i NEED to fix it. what should i do? i just cant shake it. (link)
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you really need to talk to him about it, im sure you already have, but to his face in person tell him how much it just bothers you. ask how he would feel if it was you texting a bunch of guys. but just expain, it hurts you that you flirt with them, and that also its rude that hes texting other girls while he is with you.. if it gets to the point where he cant make some kind of change to make a compromise with you, you gotta think about keeping the relationship or not.. being happy is all that matters. and if your wory constatnly and wonder.. i know that feeling, after awhile, its just not worthit.
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Okay my boyfriend wants me to give him head the next time we fool around. My question is how exactly is it done. Do you suck on it the whole time or just slide it in and out of your mouth? And what are some tricks I could do to make it interesting. (link)
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what my boyfriend absolutely loves is after i have been sucking his dick lol and it gets reall wet from your spit, to slide your hands down it and twist, especially at the top of the penis. and just go up and down ,dont let it get too dry though. Also, another thing you can add in is just playing with his balls just like grasping them and idk how to explain it.. but it gets him every time. also go as deep as you can, swirl your tongue around.
if you cant do this its fine, but i see when hes about to go to suck his dick and move your hand up and down on the shaft and try to keep going when he comes and even after. its kinda hard and totally up to you, cause its a personal decision
hope i helped. have any other questions feel free to ask!
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ok so me and my boyfriend broke up and im over him in a romantic way but i still wanna be friends he hasnt talked to me sine we broke up but i wanna talk and i wanna be friends
how do i do that without seeming needy and desprate like i want him back because i dnt
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hate to say it, my boyfriend did the same thing to me. i didnt let him keep me on the back burner.. and i wouldnt talk to and or respond to him once period. i wanted him out of my life... its the way it goes unfortunately, especially if one wants to be done and the other still wants to have something, they cant keep talkin to you as friends, it makes it even harder on them and wanna move on.. its gonna take a while till you can be friends again, just give it time.. its hard but you gotta understand it. but a text now and then or message askin how hes been is prob ok
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what are some unique ways to turn on a guy because i already kiss his neck and ear and rub his back and everything but i want to try something new. also no going past second so no touching him 'there'. thanks so much! :) (link)
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my guy goes crazyyy when i rub like massage the inside of his upper legs near his thighs
also if you rub or massage the outta part of the ear and like stroke it he'll go crazyy.
also, giving a guy a massage is good, like on his back. also kissing the back of his neck, and blowing on it. :)
hopee i helped!
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Okay im only 14!! turning 15 in a few months..well anyways me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a year and we`re still virgins and my mom is all like "you are getting birth control" and i say"no i dont want it" and i dont get why my mom wants me to be on it so bad. i mean me and my boyfriend obviously talked about it but im not ready to lose it till im about 16 going on 17.. and my mom keeps pressuring me and another reason why i dont want to do it is cause it makes you fat.. how do i get her to stop!!. please help me (link)
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well she just wants to make sure your protected, cause a year is awhile and shes probably figurin that you'll be doing it soon, if you already havent. Listen go on yazmin, i promise it doesnt make you gain weight, it didnt make me gain any, if anything i lost a couple pounfs from it. hopee i helpedd! you should apreciate her offer not many moms say that
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I have little bumps on my forhead
all over and at first it started out
with just a couple but now I have a lot.
I think they are black heads.
I tried using black head stuff from neutrogena
but it didn't help.
Does anyoen have any ideas how to get rid of
these bumps? (link)
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if they're lil bumps that arent like black, lol they could be white heads or ingrown zits. Dermo tologist is the best person to go to for anything=]
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I am 16 years old and I have missed my period for almost more than 6 months. But during that I have been getting these abdominal pains, which, most of the time, feels minor and i feel little pain. But then there are these huge abdominal pains that hurt so bad i can't even move! It worries me so much. I do have an appointment for a Gyno which is on the 23rd of January but I feel it should be sooner because it sounds so serious to me. People tell me I might have a cyst, but I wonder if my symptoms are related to a possibility of getting/having one? Does anybody have any ideas on what it could possibly be?
And I get really heavy discharge, and it comes out anywhere from a gray color to a yellowish color that smells horribly bad.. so I don't know if that relates to the problems that I have above, but I hope it helps at least somewhat.
But as a note, I do have the option to go to a male Gyno (since the one I made an appt. for is a female), however I am extremely uncomfortable going to one. I would hate to sound sexist (which I am not one), but I would feel my privacy is invaded so I chose not to go to a male. Also, the female Gyno I have is the only female Gyno that covers the insurance that I have in my area (like within 20 miles) so I can't just "go find another one."
.. And no I am not pregnant nor sexually active; I am a virgin.
Thanks in advance!
p.s.- sorry this is really long but i appreciate it for taking the time to read this. (link)
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I once had a cysts, when you go to the gyno, tell them you think you might possibly have one, all they do is give you a ultra sound, and they'll know. Then they have to put you on birth control. =]
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okay, i really like this guy named Richie that i've known for awhile but one of my friends also likes him. i think that he is going to ask me out soon and i want to say yes but i dont want to hurt my friends feelings because they really like him too. i dont know what to do. plz help! (link)
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Talk to them about it, one thing i learned is if you're friends cant be happy for you than they might not be worth it. Its not like its their Ex boyfriend of course they might get a lil jealous though. hope i helped=]
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wat is a fast/easy/free way to lose weight because i have bad self control and eat too much. im not too fat and if i diet my mom will notice. i just want some ways to gain more self control and get in shape. (link)
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A good quick healthy way to lose weight is to run everyday, for atleast 20 min. Replace two meals with a healthy cereal, haha mini wheats are really good because they fill you up and they're low in fat and cals. And to try to drink water instead of other beverages.=]
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okay,i love my boyfriend to death and would do anything for him.but he drinks,dips,and smokes and i hate it.what i hate the most is that he tries to lie about it to me and it pisses me off. he wont do anything when im around him so im not worried about him pressuring me into doing it.but im worried about him getting caught,hurt,or in any kind of trouble.so my question is what can i say to make him stop? (link)
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Well obviously talk to him about it, tell him your worried and you care for him a lot. Let him know you're just trying to be there for him and you dont ever want anything to happen to him. It takes people a longg time to finally get off drugs and stuff, so slowlyy have him try to quit or lessen how much he uses the stuff day by day.=]
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hello. I am 13/f, 5'2 and i weigh about 138 pounds. Is that really overweigh? Also, what is the fastest most efficent way to lose weight other then the excerise and eat less? Is there a SPECIFIC exercise i should do everyday? -thanks ALOT (link)
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Well one week i wanted to drop a couple pounds haha like 10. i ran everyday, as much as i could, drank only water mostly, and replaced two meals a day with cereal. It really works, and you're not starving or tired.=]
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ok i know this may sound like ok well i am a total weirdo or w/e but i have to know/am wondering how to prepare to makeout? like give me the total insite the total 411 (link)
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haha umm yeah dont listen to that last person. You dont really have to prepare to make out, like if you just eat food, take a quick drink or somethingg.. haha its no biggy. Make sure your breathe smells decent, once again it really doesnt matter. But when you make out, its so easy i always thought it was hard untill i did it. All you do is kiss, a couple times, then you start using some tounge, and go with the flow.=]
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Hey guys I'm 15 and my name is Jackie. There is this guy that I simply can NOT get over. I've alould myself to get hurt. Everytime I begin to sorta get over him, he says something sweet or flirty that gets me to fall for him all over. My head knows he doesn't like me, but my heart keeps getting tricked into thinking that he likes me. so anyway. I need some tips for getting over him.
thanks
xoxo (link)
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Oh girl im with you on that=P haha i get attached to guys and this guy right now ive been obsessed with him for like 7 months.. I always keep gettin my hopes up, and then he'll go chill with another girl or just like all the sudden act like he doesnt want anyting to do with me. Well we got into this fight cause i was being kind of a bitch to him cause i was just gettin sick of being so confused, and i told him how i felt like less than a week ago. Things turned out somewhat good, and idk where we'll go... but if feels amazing to finally know how he really feels.
[[You need to tell this boy how you feel]] seriously.
If hes a jerk and turns you down, then oh well then you can stop wondering what if he still likes me, and im pretty sure you can find another guy just as goood or better than him=] even though it will be hard its def. possible.
lemme know how things go!
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