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My mom and the pill
Okay im only 14!! turning 15 in a few months..well anyways me and my boyfriend have been going out for about a year and we`re still virgins and my mom is all like "you are getting birth control" and i say"no i dont want it" and i dont get why my mom wants me to be on it so bad. i mean me and my boyfriend obviously talked about it but im not ready to lose it till im about 16 going on 17.. and my mom keeps pressuring me and another reason why i dont want to do it is cause it makes you fat.. how do i get her to stop!!. please help me
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well she just wants to make sure your protected, cause a year is awhile and shes probably figurin that you'll be doing it soon, if you already havent. Listen go on yazmin, i promise it doesnt make you gain weight, it didnt make me gain any, if anything i lost a couple pounfs from it. hopee i helpedd! you should apreciate her offer not many moms say that
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Your mom really does want to help you out. Birth control doesnt straight up make you fat, there may be an increase in appetite, but some girls actually loose weight when they start birth control. Birth control does not only just protect against pregnancy but also helps cramps and depression before your period and usually makes them lighter. It helps you out. Also you know exactly when your period is going to be if you take the pill. also, it might make your boobs bigger. haha. Hope I could help! Also, when you do start doing it, it will make worrying about pregnancy alot easier since if it is taken correctly, it is 99.7% effective against pregnancy.
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Your mother clearly wants you to be safe & protected & that's great! Just have a talk with her & tell her everything you just said to us. Tell her you aren't ready to have sex & don't plan to do anything until you are a certain age (& when you're ready.) Also, reassure her that when you do decide to become sexually active, you will talk to her then about getting on birth control. Even if you aren't sexually active, birth control is still great to look into. I used to be on it (& plan to get back on it soon) & it definitely helped my periods & cramps. Weight gain is a side effect, but not everyones body will react the same. Infact, I noticed I maintained my weight (even lost a few lbs) while I was on it. It all depends on the person. But if you ever decide to get on birth control & you are experiencing problems with the brand you are on, talk to your gynecologist & they can switch you to another one. The person who responded below me doesn't really know what they are talking about. (Yes, you can switch brands if one doesn't work out & no, you do not need to be on birth control for the rest of your life.) Hope that helped. :)
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It's obvious that your mom just wants you to be safe.
Heres the thing with birth control that not many people know- when you're on it, you have to STAY ON IT. prety much for the rest of your life. So if lets say I take a pill right now and i'm not having sex until like another 2 weeks, I can't wait until the day of the sex to take the pill I have to take it everyday because what the pill does it stop the hormones that your body produces which can make you get pregnant like ovulation and your period. But of course you need your period once a month so you have to go off of the pill for about a week and a half for that but any other time you're always on it. Not only that but it causes bad side affects and mood swings.
Tell your mom that you are not having sex nor are planning on having it until you are ____ age. Then we you do, you both can talk about different types of contreceptions.
Oh and by the way- if you use one type of pill you cannot change the type of pill you use (this is what i've been told). So choose one and stay on it if you do!
You usually don't gain weight on it- maybe just about 5 pounds when you start to because your body is not use to it but you usually don't.
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She wants u to be safe lolz!
Just tell her thatu r 2 young 4 that and whenever you r ready, you ll feel free to tell her about and start tkin it.
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well maybe you try talking to her with you and yourboyfriend how you feel and maybe she should understand
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Well, one thing I would do is promise her that I would tell her if I was starting to change my mind. Tell her that birth control pills have a lot of side effects and you don't want them. Tell her that if she's worried that you will decide suddenly one night that you want to have sex, you will use condoms and then tell her that she can leave one in your bathroom or something. If she wants, she can check to see if it's still there and as long as it's still in the bathroom, that means you have not yet had sex and aren't thinking of it. If she ever finds it gone, that means you need to talk about birth control again. Does that make sense? Just emphasize to her that you are mature and responsible and that she can trust you to be open about your needs. Be sure you know all of the facts about getting pregnant, including the fact that he does not have to orgasm inside you in order for sperm to get inside and cause pregnancy.
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