hey ppl ma names lizzi
imma writer, a dancer and i play five instruments. i love to talk and give advice so ask me anything!
*im at camp at the moment and therefor cant take any messages. sorry for this inconvinience but i will be back in about two weeks to answer any of your questions. HAVE A GREAT SUMMER! =]*
Liz~
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okay. there is this school that i am going to for my 10th grade year and i want to go to this school and then i dont. i have known my whole class scince pre-K and now everyone has a great bond with oneanother. i want to graduate with my class and i have made a huge friendship and here is this thing. i am so sad about leaving my crush. i know i shouldnt worry about a boy for this but this year i had this gut feeling that he liked me as well and i was afraid to ask him and im still afraid to call and ask him if he liked me and if he did i would really like to go out with him. he flirted with me so much at all these partiies and he did it infront of his g-friend and didnt care. they broke up like the next day. anyways its one of the top schools in the country and i got in and my parents want me to go and im really scared to leave. each time i think about it i just cry. i have had so much fun with my grade and NOW i have to leave them. i have told my parents how i feel but they say they want me to have this oppurtunity. my mom told me she would still keep me invloved and stuff but it just wont be the same. im just so confused becuase 1 its alot better than my other school 2 it hAS and excellent cirriculum and 3 it offers alot. my question is what i should do. my parents keep telling me that i dont have to do this but they really want me to. and if i do decide to go i would really like to call my crush. i just have this big felling that i was right and still do. how would i do that? i dont know what to do. and its so much pressure and my parents keep telling me they understand but i feel like they dont. what do you think i should do. im not quite sure anymore cuz at first i was so freaked out and thought it was so cool but now im not so sure i want to go anymore. im so confused right now and i cant get it out of my head. so can someone help me. i need real advice. its funny im always giving advice on this site and this is my first question asking. so please help me!! (link)
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i understand where both you and your parents are coming from. they only want the best for your future and i doubt theyre truly pressuring you as much as it feels. if anything you're probably putting some pressure on yourself because you can't make a decision. as for your grade, if you're truly friends it won't matter where you go to school. theyll still love you and you could always hang out after school. as for that guy, theres going to be plenty out there. but if you want to go for him just do it! get yourself out there and take a chance. if he likes you back it also shouldnt matter whether you go to a different school. im not saying you should go, and im not saying you shouldnt, im only trying to make the first option less scary so you can decide what you really want to do. good luck, i hope i helped =]
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My friends don’t have that much self confidence. They always ask me how they can become more self acceptant, and to be honest I have no idea what to tell them. I have very little, maybe even no self confidence. I always feel like my friends are better people, and I know that’s wrong. I know I shouldn’t compare myself to others because they are not perfect (no one is), but I can’t help it. Last year everyone told me I was a little “look-hard.” Basically meaning I was ugly, and people always told me how I was not a nice person... blah blah blah. This year though, I have people telling me how “gorgeous and beautiful” I am, and how I have such an amazing personality. How can that change in over a year, I just can’t bring myself to believe what the others are saying. How can I have more self confidence and help my friends have more also? I want to be able to help my friends, but at the same time, I need to help myself too. ♥ (link)
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the best way to become more self-acceptant is to not care so much about what others think of you,because in the end changing yourself for others instead of yourself only affects you in a negative way. your onnly becaoming what other people want, and ignoring your own feelings. the only people you should ever be worried about are those who care about you and that you can trust. and around them you shouldnt have to feel self-concsious at all. dont listen to how people think you look or should look, because really they wouldnt care whether or not you actually change. pass this message along to your friends, because it seems they need to do this too. comparing yourself to them only brings you down, as you said. you dont need to compare yourself to others just to feel good, and neither do they. all of you have to truly believe that youre worth more than what other people may think(but at the same time dont be conceited),and those who truly care will notice you for these traits. take care, and good luck. i hope i helped =]
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I am 14/f and I haven't had my period since early May. I've gone for over two months without getting my period. I'm starting to get concerned about it. I got my first period when I was 12. Lately, I've started eating a lot healthier than I used to. I used to eat ice cream every night and eat a lot of snacks that were high in calories and fat. But now I eat snacks like fruit and yogurt, and I try to balance out the number of servings I eat from all the food groups. Also, I've started running more to get in shape for lacrosse (3 mi. every morning), and I swim on a swim team (twice a day 5 days a week). I've lost about 10 or 15 pounds since the last time I had my period. I know I'm not pregnant because I haven't had sex. And I'm not anorexic, I'm 5'6" and weigh 125. I eat regularly, about 2000 calories daily. So why haven't I had my period. Am I at risk for anything serious? How can I change what I'm doing to ensure that I get my period again? Thanks, I'm so worried! (link)
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since no two women's bodies are alike, the fact you havnt had your period may be completely normal. you're still young, and your body is continuously changing. i suggest you definately tell your parents(if you havnt already) and see a doctor. Your change of diet very well couldve triggered this, but in that case your body's merely adapting and you should be fine. whatever the case is, i definately think you should see a doctor as soon as possible. take care. i hope i helped =]
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I had been into a net relationship with a boy from Aus for the past 4 years. We never heard each others voice or ever saw each other (except thru the net pics we shared).Four years was a long time to me and I could not stand the pain of being away from my loved one for so long.I desperately loved him.There was a time when he took me for granted and stopped being in touch.But then he was sorry and came back.And he really changed. But loving a boy on the net so desperately and knowing that I would not be able to see him for the next few years was a real pain and so I backed off from the relationship. He asked for a reason and I gave it to him. His answer was something like..."Sweetheart, Thank you for replying back and wish you all the success for the future. I like to walk in the rain cuz no one can see me crying... Good Bye. Yours__Michael"
It was a pain to me too but I don't think he thinks so. Its so hurting. I've been a failure in relationships even in the past and I don't feel like going for a relationship ever again.But deep down I secretly long for a person to love me.Though I have a lot of really good friends, I long for someone who'll call me his own.I know I am loved and wanted but the feeling remains.I try to distact myself by engaging myself in activities but nothing helps.And I can just not stop crying and like to stay all alone. Please help me!! (link)
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well, 4 years is definately a long time. but if you really love each other, you can wait a few more. if you feel that he doesnt believe your sorry and that your not hurt, tell him so. but unless you want the relationship to go any further dont give him a hope of continuation. as for finding someone to love you, just keep looking. never give up hope and never back down. but of course, make sure your cautious. wanting love desperately can cause you to make rash decisions that normally would take much longer. be patient and keep your spirits up. love will come to you in time, but that doesnt mean you should ever stop looking. take care of yourself, i hope i helped =]
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So I'm trying to watch a vide on windows media player and I found the audio doesn't correspond with the video. I mean, it's the right sounds, they're just played late. Is there any way to fix this? (link)
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ive had the same problem and im not aware of anyway u could manually change the note frequencies, but you could try contacting any local computer store(especially where your computer was purchased) and see what they have to say. if anything they can reset it and see if it aligns the sound better. hope i helped =]
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People tell me I have a reasonabley good voice but I want to make it really good. What exercises can I do to make it stronger cos at the moment I hit a high note and my voice sort of totally disappears. It's real weird! (link)
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if your voice isnt naturally high your not going to be able to hit those notes without alot of practice. but at the same time make sure you dont practice too much because this can damage your voice. make sure that when you sing you use your diaphragm(its a muscle located in the bottom portion of your stomach area. when you breathe out/sing, try to push the air out of your lungs from their instead of your chest. this will ensure a louder voice and the ability to hold notes longer. You could also practice scales, or even use a piano to help guide your voice, by pressing the keys one at a time going up and trying to sing along with it. try to project your voice as you do this, but dont scream out the notes, as that wont help you or the people who happen to be nearby. Whatever you do, takeit easy and dont overwork your vocal cords as this could lead to serious problems later. i hope i helped =]
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i've got a broken leg and it has to stay in a cast for weeks. I mean, ages! Im stuck with not a lot to do so im just eating loads of rubbish and im worried im gonna get fat.
how can i exercise so that i dont put on loadsa weight without actually hurtin my leg real bad? (link)
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well the first thing you should definately do is not eat too much junk. Consuming sugary and fatty foods without exercising frequently will deffinately gain you some pounds. besides that, depending on how much of your leg is broken, i sugest floor excercises such as crunches(lie flat on the ground with hands behind head. lift torso and legs up at the same time a few inches off the ground and hold for a few seconds. repeat as many times as you wish) also try to work on your upper body strenghth. you could try one-legged pushups or (if your in a wheelchair) you could even push yourself up from the chair using the bars on either side and hold for a few seconds(obviously make sure the chair is in lock mode while doing this) try pull-ups too, and while your doing them try to squeeze your stomach muscles in at the same time. i hope you get better soon! hope i heled =]
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my boyfriend & i have been dating for almost 6 months. we love & respect each other very much. the furthest we've been is 1st, & we don't even do that anymore. i try my best to respect my parent's wishes which consisted of hugs, cuddling, & an occasional kiss. lately it seems like they're becoming more & more overprotective with this rule. my boyfriend came over last night & i had a stomachache & didn't feel good. so, he put a pillow on his chest/stomach area & let me lie on it. he spread his legs out so i could lie down while he sat down comfortably. our "private parts" weren't touching indirectly, because i know my dad doesn't like that. he was rubbing my tummy to try to make me feel better. no one told us to stop so i thought they didn't mind it. then i overrheard them talking about it today & how disgusting it was. how my "private parts" are above & below my tummy so he should never touch there. so then i told my parents later on i wouldn't do that but i just feel bad that they keep assigning random rules left & right & i feel like a bad person, because i do. my boyfriend is hurt everytime i tell him we can't do something because my parents don't approve of it, but they always feel uncomfortable telling us that. he feels like they don't trust us. & i feel the same way. why don't they? we don't do anything majorly wrong. i'm trying so hard to gain their trust. when we're alone, we do the same as when we're around them. i don't want to do nothing around them & then do more with him when we're alone [nothing past a peck] because i feel weird about that. like i'm sneaking or something. someone please help me fix all of this. i've talked to them about it many times but they just don't listen. they say they're too old fashioned. but they're really hurting my relationship with my boyfriend. we have a lot of love & sometimes we want to show it physically, but just with a hug & an occasional kiss. they're married & have sex, so why can't they understand that? ugh i can't take it anymore. thanks if you can help. (link)
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its completely normal for parents to be overprotective when it comes to their daughters' relationships. especially in todays world, alot can happen if theyre not cautious. im sure your boyfriend wouldn't try to harm you in any way, but as the people who were put on this earth to protect and love you it might take your parents a bit longer to understand that. One thing though, how old are you? maybe they feel that you and your boyfriend(especially your boyfriend) aren't mature enough to respect their wishes so they constantly make more boundries. as for trust, i doubt it's you they have a problem with. In modern times men have had much more of a tendency to harm their female partners than the other way around. I bet you theyre taking that into account. My advice: try talking to them again, but come from a different angle. Let them know that you love them and that you know they love you and that theyre only trying to protect you from any possibility of something happening. How well do they know your boyfriend? maybe getting to know him better can ensure them he wont hurt you. The first few years of dating are both hard on the parent and the child. In time things will get better. If they dont listen now, dont ever stop being trustworthy, and dont ever stop trying. Take care, and good luck! i hope i helped =]
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This isn't a question, but what the hell. Hi, Liz!!!!!!! =]
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ohh i thought they monitered the questions....?
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I was wondering if anybody knew a good 'wash-in, wash-out' temporary hair color product. There's this party coming up soon and all my friends want me to go blonde(my natural color's dark brown) for it, but I don't want it to be long term or even more than 2-3 days. I just need something that'll temporarily make me blonde for like 6 hours. (link)
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im not aware of any product u can buy at any pharmacy stopre that will lift your hair color that much, unless you're planning on using straitght bleach. as far as i know, maybe if you use a really poweful dye without any type of peroxcide or bleach can you make it temporary. and even if it is temporary, it will last at least a month or two. my advice: if you choose to dye it, settle for keeping it in a while instead of just six hours. most dyes like that can bee taken out with about 25 washes. im sorry i couldnt directly tell you what you wanted.but no one had answered yet and i decided to give it a shot. but i hope i helped =]
also you might wanna try directly asking lady_modern she almost definately knows more about the subject than i do
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Hello. I have an appointment to get my eyebrow pierced tomorrow and a tattoo on my shoulder. I've already decided I was going to get a butterfly tattoo on my shoulder since I have a butterfly tattoo on my lower back. I'm sorta trying to look for more designs though just in case I find something better. I am wanting either something with butterflies, or something with stars and moons. I want a really pretty design. I've been looking soooo much for some nice tattoos. It's hard though cuz I keep finding all these sites where you have to buy the design and download it and everything. I want to just be able to save the picture as it is, so I'll be able to send it to the guy who is doing my tattoo tomorrow. If anyone finds any really nice butterfly or star and moon tattoos that would be good on someone's shoulder, please let me know! I'd really appreciate it. Please answer back asap cuz I don't have much time. I don't want the tattoo to be huge either, but I also don't want it too small. I guess you could say i want it to be medium sized. (link)
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heres a few images i found:
http://radiofreephoenix.com/images/tatoo%20butterfly%20sticker.jpg
http://images.google.com/images?q=tbn:WD7Nlx8yCBiBoM:www9.yatego.com/images/41381e55ed6bb3.4/ya34a.jpg
http://images.google.com/images?q=tbn:JmiHCM5SGTB1IM:graphics.ravenmoondesigns.com/images/butterflytat_name.jpg
besides that go on google and look up butterfly tattoos, butterfly designs, etc
hope i helped=]
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hi i am 20/f and i have a problem i been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now and our relationship was perfect when we first started going out. well i think it was perfect before because hes a year older then me and we met in high school and he graduated a year before me. we did not really see each other all the time like 24/7 but when i graduated we would always hang out and went to the same college and we say each other like 24/7 and then our relationship started going down the drain and we always began to fight and i talked to him about it then and things started becoming good for a while and then i needed a job and he got me a job at his work which he is a security guard at he got me a job as a adminstrative assistant and then we were seeing each other even more because we worked together and we would always argue and fight over the little things in life. well after working here for about 2 month (i have only been here three months) this guy started working here. i did not find him attrative at first but i knew he was into me because this one time i was standing outside the building and he was standing there with his friend and when i was walking inside he opened the door for me and i didnt say anything but thanks and then a week later we were in the break room and he was looking for a drink and i was looking for a drink and he started a converstaion with me and we sat down and began talking. we became friends and we exchanged phone numbers and he called me and we would talk about things and one day he sent me a text message telling me that he was beginning to like me and he knew i had a boyfriend and then he started telling me when im going to break up with my boyfriend and things like that and then i stopped talking to him because my boyfriend was being real sweet and nice to me so i was feeling guilty becasue i was leading that guy on and i didnt want to do that and then i stopped talking to that guy and i just saw him yesterday and we had lunch together and he told me he still likes me and i been seeing a lot of him today also and i know im beginning to like him now because i think about him when im with my boyfriend or i will hang up with my boyfriend if hes calling on the other line. i dont know what is going on im so confused. do you guys think im feeling this way because i am having problems with my boyfriend and i just need someone to be there for me like that guy? or am i really beginning to like that guy? please someone help me . i need advice on what to do. should i stop talking to that guy again? please help me!!!! (link)
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ok. at your age there is no such thing as the perfect relationship. you can find a guy whose sweet and wonderfull and whatever but in the end you're gonna think, "hes great but i wonder if that guys even better? maybe THAT guys even nicer or that guys even more honest" youll wonder what else is out there. you need to give yourself time to experience all different types of guys before considering settling down. as for the fighting, in my past experience ive found that talking to someone TOO much, even if you care about them, can lead to catastrophe. its like you're mentally saying, ok im getting sick of this, but at the same time your thinking that evrythings ok since your talking to that one special guy. but since your only mentally saying this what comes out later is argument. and all the argument truly is is annoyance. give each other breathing room. as for the other guy, like i said before you're gonna want to see what other people are like. its like bargain shopping, look at all you're options before makeing any major decisions. as for now, you're at a crossroads, basicly which comes down to which guy you like better. you could even just say you want to "see other people" but still date if you know what i mean. i hope you made some sense out of my 14 year old ramblings. take care =]
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I'm 18 he's 21. We are thinking about getting married after 1 year together. He has a lot of sexual fantasies of being with other girls but says he can try to forget about having sex with more people and settle down. Is he REALLY ready for marrige? (link)
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first of all, being together for a year doesnt seem long enough to think about marrage, especially since you both are still so young. from my experience guys dont truly mature until theyre almost in theyre 30's(this might sound horrible but if you think about it you'll see what i mean) anyway, every young guys dream is to experience a bunch of different women, and if you tie him down now, theres no way to be certain he wont be unfaithful. my advice: wait a few years. let him do whatever he wants in this period, let him get all of his wild fantasies out. if he loves you, he'll wait, and if you love him you can do the same. i hope i helped =]
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14|Female...For about two years ever since I found out my dad cheated on my mom...my life has been completely different, i use to feel really confident about my body but now i dont, i feel over weight and ugly (even though im 89lbs)I also have really bad trust issues now..I dont want to be like this anymore I want the old me back, My mom says the best way is for me to talk to someone about it but I cant talk to her because I know that it will upset her about the dad thing and I cant talk to my older sister because she will think im just going through some teenage stage...my mom suggested I see a therapist but i dont know if I want to or not because it just seems weird telling a stranger my feelings...and also I know they cost alot of money so I dont want to just waste money if I am going through a teenage stage but I dont think it is just a teenage stage...Im just really scared I am going to do something crazy if I dont tell people how I feel. So my question is...should I see a therapist or not? (link)
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my first answer would be to not go to a therapist. in the past ive found that they can be less than helpful, always concluding they know exactly whats going on in your mind, even if they dont. i have the exact same problem. I know how hard it is to block out the love of others because for some reason you cant trust them enough to let them in. there is not easy answer. do you have any really close friends, that were with yu before all of this happened? talking to them might help. Talking to strangers about your problem definately isnt the best solution in this situation. nobody knows you better (besides yourself) than those who've been with you and who care about you. Just keep trying, and try to not look at anything in a negative way. life isnt about the way you look, no matter how many materialistic people will tell you otherwise. in the end all that matters is what the world looks like to you, not what the world thinks you look like.(im not sure if that made perfect sense but i hope you understand it well enough) take care of yourself. i hope i helped =]
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15 / female / Pennsylvania (if that helps with the things-to-put-in-the-box thing)
Hi, I have a penpal from France. We have been sending letters back and forth, and now I want to send a shoebox of American things.
But what kind of things should I put in it?
So far I have:
American Dollar/quarter/etc.
A magazine
Photos
Yeah, that's it. Pretty sad, I know, but I'm clueless. If you could help me think of ideas, that would be great. And I would like it if the objects would have purpose (not like a pack of stickers or stuffed animals).
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have you ever been in one of those giftshops that has a bunch of small trinkets and whatnot displaying their patriotism and love for their own state? maybe you could get her a few things from there. maybe even a few postcards of major landmarks(such as mount rushmore or the statue of liberty). these stores can be found especially near train stations and airports in major cities. this maybe harder or easier to do depending on what part of pennsylvania you live in. maybe you could even get one of those minnature american flags u hang up on your car window. or maybe one of those i
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Okay I've been doing crunches a lot to work on my stomach area but I jsut noticed that like if i look down at my stomache the uppers sides(like under my chest) go in, and the middle sticks out more down below. Is that bad? or does it mean i'm working my upper abs more than my lower?
Helpp i'm kidna freaking out.
15/F (link)
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actually, i have the same problem. it's nothing to worry about though, loosing your lower stomach is a lot harder than loosing the upper portion. try to vary the type of crunches you do and see which works that certain area the most. make sure you eat alot of dairy products too (and i dont mean ice cream and chocolate) it helps trim down your stomach, especially around your waist. hope i helped =]
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does anyone kno any sites or anything where i can get good icons for my myspace!? (link)
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my suggestion is myspacepranks.com they have tons of the most random icons. chek out my myspace ive got a ton(the links on my page). another site would be toxxic.net. they dont have as many icons but they have really cute graphics. I hope i helped =]
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