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hi i am 20/f and i have a problem i been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now and our relationship was perfect when we first started going out. well i think it was perfect before because hes a year older then me and we met in high school and he graduated a year before me. we did not really see each other all the time like 24/7 but when i graduated we would always hang out and went to the same college and we say each other like 24/7 and then our relationship started going down the drain and we always began to fight and i talked to him about it then and things started becoming good for a while and then i needed a job and he got me a job at his work which he is a security guard at he got me a job as a adminstrative assistant and then we were seeing each other even more because we worked together and we would always argue and fight over the little things in life. well after working here for about 2 month (i have only been here three months) this guy started working here. i did not find him attrative at first but i knew he was into me because this one time i was standing outside the building and he was standing there with his friend and when i was walking inside he opened the door for me and i didnt say anything but thanks and then a week later we were in the break room and he was looking for a drink and i was looking for a drink and he started a converstaion with me and we sat down and began talking. we became friends and we exchanged phone numbers and he called me and we would talk about things and one day he sent me a text message telling me that he was beginning to like me and he knew i had a boyfriend and then he started telling me when im going to break up with my boyfriend and things like that and then i stopped talking to him because my boyfriend was being real sweet and nice to me so i was feeling guilty becasue i was leading that guy on and i didnt want to do that and then i stopped talking to that guy and i just saw him yesterday and we had lunch together and he told me he still likes me and i been seeing a lot of him today also and i know im beginning to like him now because i think about him when im with my boyfriend or i will hang up with my boyfriend if hes calling on the other line. i dont know what is going on im so confused. do you guys think im feeling this way because i am having problems with my boyfriend and i just need someone to be there for me like that guy? or am i really beginning to like that guy? please someone help me . i need advice on what to do. should i stop talking to that guy again? please help me!!!!
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Hi, do you love your boyfriend? Do you like this guy? It sounds as though you are attractive and have lust for this guy were as you have a good relationship and love your boyfriend. I think I would choose love over lust, so I would probaly carry on with what you have with your boyfriend and just tell this guy, you know that you don't want anything serious and you've got a boyfriend and you would just like to be friends, nothing else. Why pack away a great loving relationship just for one guy that you will probaly after a while loose interest in? Think about this carefully. Daniel.
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ok. at your age there is no such thing as the perfect relationship. you can find a guy whose sweet and wonderfull and whatever but in the end you're gonna think, "hes great but i wonder if that guys even better? maybe THAT guys even nicer or that guys even more honest" youll wonder what else is out there. you need to give yourself time to experience all different types of guys before considering settling down. as for the fighting, in my past experience ive found that talking to someone TOO much, even if you care about them, can lead to catastrophe. its like you're mentally saying, ok im getting sick of this, but at the same time your thinking that evrythings ok since your talking to that one special guy. but since your only mentally saying this what comes out later is argument. and all the argument truly is is annoyance. give each other breathing room. as for the other guy, like i said before you're gonna want to see what other people are like. its like bargain shopping, look at all you're options before makeing any major decisions. as for now, you're at a crossroads, basicly which comes down to which guy you like better. you could even just say you want to "see other people" but still date if you know what i mean. i hope you made some sense out of my 14 year old ramblings. take care =]
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