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breakup pain
I had been into a net relationship with a boy from Aus for the past 4 years. We never heard each others voice or ever saw each other (except thru the net pics we shared).Four years was a long time to me and I could not stand the pain of being away from my loved one for so long.I desperately loved him.There was a time when he took me for granted and stopped being in touch.But then he was sorry and came back.And he really changed. But loving a boy on the net so desperately and knowing that I would not be able to see him for the next few years was a real pain and so I backed off from the relationship. He asked for a reason and I gave it to him. His answer was something like..."Sweetheart, Thank you for replying back and wish you all the success for the future. I like to walk in the rain cuz no one can see me crying... Good Bye. Yours__Michael"
It was a pain to me too but I don't think he thinks so. Its so hurting. I've been a failure in relationships even in the past and I don't feel like going for a relationship ever again.But deep down I secretly long for a person to love me.Though I have a lot of really good friends, I long for someone who'll call me his own.I know I am loved and wanted but the feeling remains.I try to distact myself by engaging myself in activities but nothing helps.And I can just not stop crying and like to stay all alone. Please help me!!
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Hi, there is a famous saying "love hurts" and I guess they do mean things like this. You see, long distance relationships usually don't last long. The best thing you can do is go places were you have a really good chance of meeting someone. These places can be places like:
Night clubs
Pub
Mall
Disco or party
Or walking through the park even
Library
The only way to get love is to go up and get it. You've got to create the opportunity e.g. ask someone out, start a conversation, to actually get anywhere. Being alone and crying isn't going to solve it, in fact it can make you even more sad and depressed. You will just have to come to terms with how you feel and turn over a brand new leaf. Just create the opportunity and Im sure eventually you will get a boyfriend and find love. Who know's you might have a bunch of guys going for you. Just do the best you can. Daniel.
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Find yourself sweetheart, Pull yourself together. I know all of the pieces in the puzzle dont fit right now and they wont right away. You feel an emptiness in your heart and only YOU have the power to fill it up. And by this i dont mean with love of other guys or people. I mean from love for yourself and god..Learn to love yourself first and put god first.. He is as close as your heartbeat...you do not need anyone to fill up that emptiness in your heart. Define yourself, Define your life and who you want to be. Do not depend on others to make you or break you. This takes time, months but stay persistent and dont give up because there will be amny times that you feel like you have to, trust me, trust yourself. If you want to talk IM me AIM:Keosha15 or Email:Keosha15@aol.com Im here for you. - Keosha
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well, 4 years is definately a long time. but if you really love each other, you can wait a few more. if you feel that he doesnt believe your sorry and that your not hurt, tell him so. but unless you want the relationship to go any further dont give him a hope of continuation. as for finding someone to love you, just keep looking. never give up hope and never back down. but of course, make sure your cautious. wanting love desperately can cause you to make rash decisions that normally would take much longer. be patient and keep your spirits up. love will come to you in time, but that doesnt mean you should ever stop looking. take care of yourself, i hope i helped =]
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hey I understand nobody likes to be alone but like don't always be in a rush to find someone just focus in your life school family friends and then eventually you'll find the right you'll find him unexpectedly... just don't be always lookin for someone because life isn't always just bein with someone.... trust me you'll find the right one unexpectedly its happened to me before well hope I helped=)
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Hey, first off realize that you have the rest of your life ahead of you. Don't think that you will never get over this, because eventually you will. You aren't expected to find the right person right away, because almost nobody does - that is what dating is for, to experiment. Don't let this or any other past relationship stop you from going at it again. Really think about it: if you made friends with somebody who turned out to be a jerk and made your life miserable...are you gonna not have anymore friends because of that? That would be unreasonable.
If you can find somebody to talk to it about, whether it be a sibling, a friend, or yes even your parents, I think it would help a lot. Ask your friends to do what they can to take you out and cheer you up. I'm sure they would be glad to help and wouldn't mind at all. Have fun! Doesn't matter with who or where, just go out and enjoy yourself and your friends. Don't be afraid to ask them to do that for you.
If you're weird like me, you can just listen to a lot of music (no not the depressing kind). It helps me because certain music puts me into a certain mood, and usually helps me forget about things. You need to find things that you like or liked to do and do them again. Find something fun and interesting to do and do that. Talk to people about it and don't let this stop you from having fun or going at it again. Don't actually go and find a particular bf, just go out to find a good guy friend. It takes time though. So enjoy yourself and cheer up - good things come to those who wait. Hope that helped and good luck.
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hey,
i read your problem , and i understand what your going through. But honestly, online dating should never be taken as real relationships, because you just keep on chatting and chatting, sharing pictures and using web camera and doing this and doing that, but then at the end, something happens, and you let go and forget all about that person, and when time comes and you remember the memories you had with that person online, you will just say that you were wasting your time and having fun, and if it could be considered as anything, then it would be considered as a crush. you simply wasted all your time on this person, and you got so wrapped up in him and loved him dearly, that later on you discovered that your not going anywhere with this online dating thing.Thats exactly what happened to you. This is your story, and now you put an end to it, and i definitely agree with what you did, because you should have ended this relationship a lond time ago and you should have known that you weren't leading anything serious.
Moreover, we all want to be loved by someone, and to have someone to stand there beside us, care about us, love us, be there for us, ask about us, hug us, comfort us, wipe our tears, and share our smile, joke and fool around with us, and more and more of that. but you can't sit on a chair and wait for love, because life comes when it is time for it to come. So move on with your life, and meet new people and make good friends, and if you sometimes feel that you really need to talk to michael, you can , and i won't tell you not to, but talk to him as a friend, and mabye even a best freind, but i guess i'd be right when i tell you not to believe in online dating and i think you know now what i mean. Just try to concentrate on your life, and work on the past, but don't just sit and wait for the future and the love it would bring for you.But one way or another, i promise you that there is someone out there who you will meet later on in your life, and will love you and cherish you ,because from the way you talk, i see that you are a truly amazing and caring person and you deserve all the best.
So good luck, and if you need anything else, please be free to contact me.
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maybe he took your answer to backing down on your relationship as you wanting to break it off with him? how about meeting someone new? you could go out with a few good friends to look for a new guy? i know this sounds absolutely insensitive right now but it's not really finding someone but to enjoy your friend's company and to enjoy yourself again. i'm sure you won't end up alone but for the time being it sounds like you need several shoulders to cry on and time to heal. Cry all you want and all you need; crying is actually very therephutic. right now it may seem as though the whole world is just crumbing around you but be assured it isn't you just need someone to cry on who would understand the situation and who understands you. in time you'll heal and i'm very sure that you'll find someone. i heard this once and i find it is quite true it says: everyone has the exact love life they want. if you want someone to love you you go and find it! because when you go and find it it'll find you right back =] hope you feel better soon and good luck!
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