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Confidence
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My friends don’t have that much self confidence. They always ask me how they can become more self acceptant, and to be honest I have no idea what to tell them. I have very little, maybe even no self confidence. I always feel like my friends are better people, and I know that’s wrong. I know I shouldn’t compare myself to others because they are not perfect (no one is), but I can’t help it. Last year everyone told me I was a little “look-hard.” Basically meaning I was ugly, and people always told me how I was not a nice person... blah blah blah. This year though, I have people telling me how “gorgeous and beautiful” I am, and how I have such an amazing personality. How can that change in over a year, I just can’t bring myself to believe what the others are saying. How can I have more self confidence and help my friends have more also? I want to be able to help my friends, but at the same time, I need to help myself too. ♥
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first of you are right nobody is perfect. You shouldn't listen to what other people say. Listen to the good thing that people say and ignore the rude things other people say. Another thing to do to boost your confidence is look in the mirror and say things that are great about yourself. And one more tip is walk like you own the place then people will see how much confidence you have even if you have little it will look like alot!
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It is sometimes hard to accept the skin your in, but you have to believe what you hear if you hear it from more then one person! If you hear from more then one person that you are beautiful, then chances are.. your beautiful!You probably changed over a year, many people can change in that amount of time! Getting older certainly will change the way you act, and the way you look. So if people are telling you your beautiful, and have an amazing personality, you better believe it! Because after a year of being put down, you probably decided that you needed to change.. and without knowing it.. DID!
As for your friends, explain to them that you are going through the same thing! You all can help eachother, after all thats what friends are for! Developing self acceptance is hard for anybody, they need a boost! You can be the one to give them that boost! :) hope this helps
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You shouldn't really care what everyone thinks of you.But,the best way to be self-confident is to be positive.
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the best way to become more self-acceptant is to not care so much about what others think of you,because in the end changing yourself for others instead of yourself only affects you in a negative way. your onnly becaoming what other people want, and ignoring your own feelings. the only people you should ever be worried about are those who care about you and that you can trust. and around them you shouldnt have to feel self-concsious at all. dont listen to how people think you look or should look, because really they wouldnt care whether or not you actually change. pass this message along to your friends, because it seems they need to do this too. comparing yourself to them only brings you down, as you said. you dont need to compare yourself to others just to feel good, and neither do they. all of you have to truly believe that youre worth more than what other people may think(but at the same time dont be conceited),and those who truly care will notice you for these traits. take care, and good luck. i hope i helped =]
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Just dont care what people think. I mean really, are you going to know most of them when youre outta school? NO! Maybe a couple, but not most.
Just be more positive
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Dont' worry about what other people think because whatever you think you are, you will become. If you think you are ugly and a mean person, you will seem that way to others. But if you think that you are fun, pretty, happy, ect., you will be. Just try to have a good time with your friends and give them positive reinforcement and compliments. It feels good. Good luck.
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