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How do I tell my husband I have cancer?
I went to a doctor's appointment for a lump on my neck. I hadn't told my husband about it because I didn't want him to worry for no cause. They did some testing, biopsies and all, and it's come back that the lump is cancerous. With a little further testing and looking, I have more than one of these masses in my body. My doctor wants me to begin chemotherapy. I haven't told my husband still. Things don't look good. How do I tell my husband that I have been diagnosed with cancer and need to undergo chemo?
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If your fear of "things don't look that good" is keeping you from telling your husband; then I suggest you ask your husband to accompany you to your doctor and have the doctor tell him. You can also, if you are a member of a church or Temple, confide in your clergymen and as your clergymen to help you tell your husband. (please read on)
Having just gone through Breast Cancer treatment with my wife I know how you must be feeling. My wife found what she thought was a lump while showering. When our doctor confirmed it was a lump and scheduled the first in a line of test and procedures; my wife informed me that of the lump. We went through the procedures together every step of the way. Thankfully the cancer was caught early and my wife is now cancer free.
Yes it was the most scary thing either of us have ever gone through but going through it together made us stronger both as individuals and a couple. We were also very lucky with the doctors we chose who helped us every step of the way.
You say things don't look that good. Please don't go into cancer treatment with a fatalistic attitude. With Cancer treatment is less than half the battle, the rest is attitude. Somewhat like the children's story the little train that could. I know I can beat this is what you have to keep telling yourself.
I know chemo therapy works. a woman in my wife's office had inoperable cancerous tumors. They started her on a course of chemo therapy and radiation; this was less than 6 months ago. Today they cannot even find the tumors and she is considered cancer free. She will be followed very closely, most likely for the rest of her life. A small price to pay to be cancer free.
Tell your husband or ask your doctor or clergyman to help you tell him. Keep a positive outlook and don't give in to fatalistic outlooks, yours or other peoples and follow the doctors orders.
Good luck.
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id say turn it around and picture if he had it and had been hiding from you... either way its a terrible thing to hear about, but its really important you tell him.. if you dont think you could make it through a convorsation without crying, i would say leave him a letter. sometimes leaving a letter you can express a lot more of what you want to say than in person, cause in person you forget a lot of things. dont wait any longer.. and best of luck and i hope everything goes well with your chemotherapy..
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