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gayy brother
My brothers gay..
Its not that bad.. i mean.. hes not really girlie.. hes 18 and still lives with us tho (he graduated).. his boyfriends come over all the time.. and im ok with that.. its not too weird.. but when i talk about it with people.. its hard.. and almost like.. embaressing to say hes GAY.. but i know that there is nothing ot really be embarresed about? help?!
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Please, first, take every point from your question and look at what you are saying through the eyes of your brother... As if HE was reading your question. You start out saying that he is gay - but it is not that bad...meaning that he is not really girlie. If I was him, I would actually be offended because my own brother thinks it is bad that I am gay, but acceptable or tolerable because I am not real feminine. So, he has to be macho to be accepted? Understand? First point - Behind your perceived acceptance there is actually a level of shame or embarassment, and you may or may not be disguising this shame as well as you think you may be.
Second, it sounds like he decided to announce his homosexuality recently and you are still in the stage of trying to understand. I am sure that in your heart of hearts you really want to be understanding and accepting and caring towards your brother. You've known him all your life, right? But to say you are not accepting would make you look bad. If I was your brother I would appreciate your honesty because he too felt the importance to be honest with those he loved. But don't allow your honesty to turn into bigotry. For the sake of your brother you must be willing to learn. So tell him "I don't quite understand, I am having a hard time really accepting that I have a gay brother. I want to, but everything I know about being gay seems so wrong. Can you help me?" Please understand this...What you are going through now is most likely something he has been going through for years. Do you think he has never been embarassed or ashamed of being gay? I don't know one gay person that did not wish at some point in their lives that they were not gay. So, be honest, be open, get to know your brothers priorities in life. Now that he is honest with his family, he is ready to move on and just live. Your underlying shame will always be there unless you educate yourself now. There is no shame in honesty, unless its paired with hatred.
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its not anyone's right or business to judge your brother's decisions. i've heard recently that 1 in 10 people are gay. its not a rare thing anymore. be proud of your brother for the person he is and not his preferences. when you tell people that your brother is gay just think of the person he is, the brother you know, not what people think of him.
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People wont judge you for something your BROTHER is. And if they do, that is totally stupid. My uncle is gay and I tell people all the time. Im not embarassed at all. Usually people reacct with, "Really?! I know someone thats gay, too!" Its growing more and more and people are coming out this generation more. So, most likely the person you talk to will know someone who is gay. If so, they wont judge you. If anyone judges you for your brother being gay or says anything mean about it, theyre NOT worth your time so just walk away.
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just except the fact that your brothers gay, and go on with your life
hope i helped :)
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Hey. I know it may seem tough to talk about with people but first of all if you are proud of your brother and except it make sure people know this! And second of all, this is nobodys business except for you, your brother, and your family. If your brother isn't worried about coming out I don't think you have any reason to not feel the same way. If it makes you uncomfortable though don't feel you have to talk about it because you 100% do not have to! Hope I helped!
♥ Kelli
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Stand up and be proud of your brother who is an individual not a title.
There is no need to feel embarrassed about him with other people because if they don't like it then they know where to go!
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Well, since you didn't really ask a question, I won't really give an answer. Just a comment:
Get over it.
He's your brother. You shouldn't be embarrassed by him, especially when you claim that you are okay with it. Either admit that it bothers you, or get over it. The world would be a better place if people would stand up and be honest about their beliefs.
(Sorry if that was a bit too blunt for you. But you just did one of my pet peeves. Cheers.)
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what is the question?
if its about being embarasses then i guess i could see where you coming from. Being gay isnt lets say trendy as of now. but i mean it still should be socaiy acceptable.You Know. I mean know and have been friends with some gay people,but i dont think that sexual orientation should matter. People should deffinitly not be judged by this.
I am not sure if that helps but i really hope it does.
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