Hi! My name is Alice and I love to rock climb...but that doesn't mean I'm good at it. I'm just a normal girl living in Florida. I have a lot of friends, and I'm from the south, so I say YALL. I like cheerleading, dance, golf, dogs, cats, and the Red Hot Chili Peppers. I love spanish! I am a VERY opinionated Democrat, anyone who knows me and has seen my dad's car knows I was raised that way. (LOL)
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So there's this guy i like and he is my neighbor. i am 13/f and he is 14/m. i am best friends with his little sister and she says he really likes me and want to ask me out. he TOLD me he liked me after he broke up with my best friend Sarah* and i told him that i liked him too but we could go out bc it might hurt sarahs feelings. its not about the likeing part i KNOW he does, he always flirts and comes over and stuff so thats not a problem. SO.... all my friends met him when he and sarah were going out and they all think he is a stalker frieak and i HAVE to agree with them bc i CANNOT let anyone know i like him scretly... please help! what should i do??? (link)
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Your friends are probably saying this to make Sarah feel better. If you sense that Sarah isn't completely over him, then don't go out with him just yet. But if she is totally and completely over him, go for it. It's hard when other people are being mean about the guy you like, trust me, but it helps if you just laugh it off or come up with a really good comeback. I hope that helps, and good luck!
Alice
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I'm 13 years old and I really want to have a BF. However, I know that most BF/GF relationships usually begin by being friends 1st. How can I become friends with boys? (link)
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It's almost the same as becoming friends with girls. Just get into things they're into, like a certain sport or whatever. Don't act like a total airhead around them, either, just act like yourself. And if you're just making friends with guys to get a bf, and not to get to know them better, forget it, because the best relationships are usually the ones that come out of the blue and aren't forced. And that's another thing. Don't act desperate and flirty at first. Become good friends, and if you both feel like you want the next level, go for it, but if not, accept the friendship as it is, because he may have hot friends! (lol)
Alice
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Ok, this past year i have had 2 boyfriends. The first one was really great and I liked him alot. We were really close and i thought he cared about me. Then at one of my bff's b-day party's he was invited and so was my other bff. Well, my other bff and him went to look for the girl that was having the party's softball they lost in the woods. A little later they came out and my friend took me to the side and said he had kissed her. I was REALLY hurt. Then in the same day he broke up with me. This was his excuse:" I got my 1st cousin pregnant." Then, later on I found out it was a lie.
The second boyfriend I had was really close to me too. Then, he stopped returning my calls and all my friends were saying he was cheating on me. My bff(the girl the 1st guy kissed) said he had been calling her all the time. She also said she would talk to him for hours at a time. So, it really hurt me that she was doing this to me and rubbing it in my face. I don't wanna lose her as a friend, but why can't i hold on to a guy.....? (link)
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Your bff is a boy magnet. Keep her on your radar as much as possible. It's not that you're unliked by guys, it's just the guys you thought liked you were, well, playboys. Hopefully, now you know what to avoid in guys like the ones that will, if you will, tell you they love you but never say they're in love with you. Hope that helps!
Alice
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I started using Acne Free about 5 days ago, and since then my face has been itching like a beast. Has this happened to anyone else? It's started clearing my face us, but it itches so bad and dry patches are forming! My moms making me stop using it, is there anything else thats just as good? (Not ProActive, we can`t afford it) (link)
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Does Acne Free have Benzoyle (sp???) Peroxide in it? Because you may be allergic to it. Try products with Salicylic Acid instead, such as Clean and Clear. Your skin could also be terribly terribly sensitive, so try sensitive skin products. You could also see a dermatologist, which would be the best answer. Hope that helps!
Alice
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So, I was talking with this guy and I'm 15 and he's 16. We were planning on doing it because, I thought, we were basiclly dating. Today, I found out he had a myspace and apparently he has a girlfriend he never told me about or mentioned. I saw the comments she left him saying how much she loves him and then his replys and they were from today. I know this means he's basiclly an ass and I shouldn't be with him or care for him anymore but I really hurt. Should I just not answer his calls and have nothing to do with him anymore or should I confront him or what should I do? Should I tell his girlfriend that he was planning on having sex with me? (I've never talked to her before) Someone please help me before I lose my mind. (link)
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I wouldn't answer his calls or emails or IMs or whatever. But if you do plan on telling his girlfriend, don't just be all, "Hi, my name is Caroline, and your bf was going to have sex with me." because chances are, she will think you are crazy and will block you before you can go into deets. OR she might believe you, if she's the trusting type and if her bf has a sort of playboy reputation. Hope that helps!
Alice
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Im so bored this summer! I have no friends..It sucks. I do during the school year but when summer comes no one calls me to hang out :( what do i do (link)
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Why don't you call them? I mean, the worst thing they can say is no. But if you want to meet new friends, you can audition or help with a play, or (if you go to church) help out with Vacation Bible School, or join a summer sport team, like soccer. Get involved in your community and you will have a ton of friends in no time!
Alice
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I like this boy he always stares and smiles at me. I was in flag football and i was on his team and then this girl joined after me and later at lunch he walked up to me and said im training you for football alone then the girl said what about me and he said no way!! I have heard lots of rumors that he likes me and im starting to not like him but i still don't know if he likes me. i'm so confused does he seem to like me??? (link)
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Either he likes you, or he is one FRIENDLY guy. Is there something about him that is making you start to not like him? Because it seems like he's head over heels for you. If you're still into him, you could try flirting to encourage him. But if you're not really that into him, you need to be polite but not flirty, you know? Like when he smiles at you, smile but don't like blush or flip your hair. I know this sounds really confusing, but basically listen to your heart, and if you like him, go for it, but if you don't, don't encourage him then leave him. Hope that helps, and didn't confuse you too much!
Alice
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I am a 15 year old girl in Australia. My boyfriend is getting really serious, He has started talking about how he's going to ask me to marry him sometime soon and i'm getting really freaked out. When i tried to tell him how i feel, he got all upset thinking i don't love him. I really do, but he wouldn't listen. He got sp upset he started hurting himself a little and when i apologised and everything he finally calmed down, he told me he could have killed himself, and he kept using that against me, Until i was crying.
Later he told me he was sorry and shouldn't have said any of that stuff. But every time i try to talk to him about how i feel, he threatens me with suecide. I can't do anything because i am scared he will do something really bad. (link)
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Wow. There's a relationship that isn't healthy for either one of yall. I would get out of that relationship soon, before you are trapped. Explain to him that you love him as a brother, or a friend. He will probably threaten you with suicide and things like that, but hopefully it is just talk. But if he does hurt himself again, immedietly (spelling) tell an adult you trust, so they can get help for him. I hate that that's happening to you, but I hope my advice helps.
Alice
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Mmmkay. How to begin...
So, my best friend is the guy in this situation. We've been friends for a few years, and I'm closer to him than anyone else, and he feels the same. We can, and do, talk about anything comfortably. But I have feelings for him that go beyond friendship. Sometimes I think he feels the same way. People often ask if we're going out. We tried the 'friends with benefits' thing for a while. Meaning we made out a lot, no commitment, but then he got a girlfriend. But really, beside the fact that we don't do anything that would count as cheating, our relationship hasn't changed at all.
But his girlfriend HATES me. When I hug him, she gives me dirty looks(but I hug everyone, it's not a weird thing). She ignores me when I try to make friends with her. Not to mention she's bad for him. He's always walking on eggshells around her, constantly afraid he's saying the wrong thing. She is extremely manipulative and has him a hundred percent whipped.
We always joke about how we're going to get married; we even have the names of our children planned. But the other day, Lucas said something about it that sounded dead serious. I remember his exact words: "You know how some old married couples are just so content? That's how we would be. We'd never fight. It would be perfect."
The other day something happened that really confused me. We were laying on my bed watching a movie(well, it isn't really MY bed. I recently had foot surgery so I'm crashing on the futon until I can climb the stairs to get to my room). I sat up for a second, I can't remember why, and he put his arms around me and pulled me down. I apologized because I thought I was blocking his view of the TV and that's why he moved me, but he said "No, I just want to hold you." So we were cuddling and he kissed me on the forehead. And there have also been other situations since he's been with her where we came close to doing something we shouldn't have been doing.
So the actual questions here are:
Should I tell him how I feel or wait until he's single again(I have a feeling it'll be soon with her jealousy)?
Should I talk to him about not getting intimate, or should I just stop it if the situation arises?
Any other advice you can offer about the situation would be helpful as well. (link)
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I think his girlfriend already knows (call it gut feeling or a woman's intuition) that he likes you and not her. She's so mean to you because she knows her guy is slipping away. I wouldn't cheat with him, because most girls can spread rumors, and they are usually believed. I would wait until he dumps her, or vice versa, and then tell him you feel the same way. It sounds like you two are in love (LUCKY!!!) and I wouldn't let it slip away, but do try to wait until you two can be with each other without feeling guilty. Hope that helps!
Alice
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hey! well im 15/f
and allright so ive been having boy troubles lately..i was kinda crushin a little bit on this guy and we were flirtin alot until i find out he just got a girlfriend so that went down then drain and now i feel like i cant flirt with him anymore. so i just sit there but he kinda still flirts with me! i mean i spilt somethin on my shorts lol and so i was changin into my boxer shorts in my friends room and i guess he told my friends sister to open the door and pull down the towel i had because supposively he wanted to see my ass and i dont know i didnt start flirting with him because i backed off since i found out he had a girlfriend but he still kinda flirts with me! he is so adorable and sweet and we can have such good talks and i was talkin to him on AIM and hes like jokin around sayin ohh didnt this boy look sexy today and i was like haha real funny! and hes like just kidding but we'll find you a boy dont worry. hes just sooo sweet!! but he really likes this girl and i guess has liked her for awhile but then why does he do this with me?! and like for stuff on AIM or whatever hes always like i love you lindsey?!
soo im just so confused... (link)
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If he is like that, you do not want to be the other girl. I know you like him, but you probably do not want the wrath of Lindsey upon you, because the girlfriend usually gets P.O.ed if she finds out who her man is flirting with, and it's usually at the girl, and not her boy. And think of it this way. If he was your bf, and he was flirting with Lindsey, even if she wasn't flirting back, would you be angry? Chances are you would look over the "adorable and sweet" boy if he was flirting with another girl. So if I were you, I would have nothing to do with him, try not to talk to him. I know it's painful now, but you'll be doing Lindsey a favor. Hope that helps!
Alice
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so there is this one guy!! and he is really really cute and seems really funny. ive always had my eye on him since like winter but ive never talked to him because i didnt know how to approach him. well a couple nights ago he I/M my friend and said somethin but she was gone so i was like this is kristen ..shelly is upstairs so then hes like asking me all these questions like what school do you go to..do you know these people? and hes like are you hot? lol and im like uhh..and so my friends brother goes up on his computer and shows him my myspace link and i guess this guy was like shes "aight" soo that kinda lowered my confidence but then i was like wait you play on this baseball team right? and hes like yeah and i was like yeah i was at your game tonight! and hes like yeah we suck but im the catcher..and im like ohh you did good! and then hes like yeah but i got to go take a shower so then he left and i was like allright cya. and how can i somehow talk to him again? i wish he would get my screename from someone and I/M me first because that way i would know he was interested or whatever! i mean ive had my eye on him forever and now i finally got to talk to him! i dont want to request him on myspace or I/M him first because i dont want to feel like a stalker or like him being i dont really even know you?...ive talked to you only once?..
i just dont know! do you guys have any suggestions? and i guess that he doesnt really talk to my friend much they dont hangout at all so i dont think she could help me!
also im so shy and always worried of what people think of me...i know i shouldnt i wish i wouldnt but i cant help it! thats why i dont want to approach him first. but lately this kid is all i can think of!? hes kinda popular so i dont know if he would go for me..since he said im "aight" looking..but i think i could maybe get him by my personality or something??
thanks so much. (link)
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You could have your friend give him your SN or have him request you as a friend on myspace. But if he's only gonna want you for your looks, he's not worth it. But it seems you guys had a great convo going, and so maybe if you could muster up the courage to IM him first(just a simple "hi" will do) I'm sure you guys would be talking in no time. Also, to keep convos going longer, you could research a little about baseball, like if his fave team is the Yankees, find out the player's names and positions and stuff like that. Hope that helps!
Alice
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okay so theres this boy and i REALLY LOVE him..im only 13 and people tell me i dont really know what love is but like love isnt a maybe thing right..? yeah.. you know if you love someone and i do love him but he used to act like he liked me but now he doesnt anymore it it makes me really sad..i feel like im not good enough but all my friends tell me im to good for him..( but hey their suppose to right? ) i think another part is hes 2 grades ahead of me..but he also is my neighbor and were kinda friends i guess but i want to tell him hwo i feel but i dont know if he will feel the same and it would make things akward..so what should i do? please help
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Love is just plain wierd. There's like a bazzilion different kinds. But what you have here is a little more of a really bad crush (that's the only kind I get) than love, because as much as we want to believe it's love, I think younger teenagers aren't expirienced enough to understand love. But that's my opinion. My advice is to lay low and see if starts treating you like a friend again. I'm guessing he found out you liked him and decided to be all mean about it. (That happened with me.) So if you back off, he may come to you. But if he does, don't rush things, and older guys tend to want one thing, so just be careful. Hope that helps!
Alice
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my best friend is scared of the dark. i can't get to sleep when i spend the night at her house because she keeps all the lights on in her room and i just cant fall asleep. so when she hits the hay... i quietly go to the light switch and turn the lights off. as soon as i do that she wakes up and starts crying! what to do???
thanks in advance
Frenchy♥
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Why don't you buy her a night light or a 3 setting lamp for her birthday? But if that embarasses her, buy a cute light instead.It's rude to sleep in another room because if the lights went out, she wouldn't have anyone near her. It also says "I don't want to be near you." Try to explain that nothing is going to happen to her in the dark. With the three setting lamp, you can have her put it on the brightest setting, then the second brightest setting, and so on until she can sleep in the dark. Hope that helps!
Alice
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hi! Ok. here's my problem. see there is this guy and he likes me. And like I'll see him in school and we'll hug and then chat for like 10 seconds but that's all we really get to see each other. The summer is here now, and he keeps asking me if I want to hang out with him. But, see, I don't really know what his definition of hanging out is. Like, I don't know if he wants to come over or he wants me to go over his house you know? And I'm sorry, I just don't want to go to his house. And he wants to hang out just with each other but I'd rather have a lot of people. But that's another problem because he isn't really friends with my friends. I keep making up excuses and I feel really bad!! I don't know what to do!
P.S.- The guy is kind of cute, but like only sort of. He is also really REALLY short. :/ (link)
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Why don't you suggest "hanging out" in a group if you feel uncomfortable with just him. But if you don't start to feel more comfortable with him soon, you shouldn't be hanging out with him. Hope that helps!
Alice
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my best friend is scared of the dark. i can't get to sleep when i spend the night at her house because she keeps all the lights on in her room and i just cant fall asleep. so when she hits the hay... i quietly go to the light switch and turn the lights off. as soon as i do that she wakes up and starts crying! what to do???
thanks in advance
Frenchy♥
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Is her birthday coming up? Try geting her a cute nightlight or small lamp. The problem may be much more serious, though. If she still has problems, she may need to see a doctor to help her. Hope that helps!
Alice
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For my summer reading I have to read "To Kill a Mockingbird." I was wondering that if you have read it, what was it about, and did you enjoy it? Thank you very much. (link)
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I love that book! The print is fairly small, and the book is about 300 pages (I think.) I hope you enjoy it!
Alice
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My best friend ALWAYS has to have all the guys like her. Well, if a guy likes me or shows any signs in liking me she will try to get him to like her. She brags about all her guys, and she tries to flirt with the guys that like me. Why does she do this? I can't talk to her. What should I do? I'll give 5's. Thanks. And if you have good advice I'll give you the name of my column so we can talk more. Xoxo (link)
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She's probably insecure and must brag about herself to make herself feel good. It is very annoying, but why don't you try talking to her about the guys that like her, and not you? That may give her the confidence boost she needs to stop stealing your guys! Explain to her that there is someone for her, and someone for you, and they are two different people. Hope that helps!
Alice
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i have this problem where some days my stomach is flat and some days it isn't. it really never depends on what i eat it just randomly happens. is there any exercises that i can do ever night to make sure that my stomach will be flat the next day? everynight i do 17 sets of 10 crunches (that is 170 crunchs if you didn't feel like doing the math =D], 50 bicycles, and then i stretch out my abs. (link)
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Why don't you try a plank? It's a pilates move. What you do is you get into pushup position but instead of on your hands, you are on your forearms. Try touching your knees to the ground, then lifting them off over and over again. You could also purchase a fitness ball and do some exercises on that to improve your core muscles. I have the same problem, but I think mine is in my genes. You could also try cruches to the sides to work your obliques. Hope that helps!
Alice
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Hey :D well my eyes have always bothered me.. i have kinda darker brown eyes..sometimes they change to hazel but i wear black eyeliner and everything seems so dark! my eyes seem so boring i get so jealous of blue and green eyes (lighter eyes) because they stand out so much and are so much prettier! is there anyting i could do to make my eyes like stand out more or look prettier? ive heard about doin something with eyeshadow but im soo bad with makeup and stuff! and everytime i try to do the smokey eye or whatever it seems to make my eyes darker! by the way im 16/f! and i do not want colored contacts..i know i have to live with my eye color but i just want to know if there is anything i could do to make them stand out more??!
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Go to a department store and to a makeup counter, like M.A.C., Lancome, Clinique, or Este Lauder. They have great eyeshadows and eyeliners and the people there will show you how to apply them and make them work for you. If you'd feel more comfortable with an eyeshadow designed exactly for your eyes, try Almay's line of "Bring out the... [hazel, blue,etc.] They have instructions on the back and you can buy it at Target or Walgreens. Hope that helps!
Alice
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I'm not sure if I have the right category for this but I have these horrible stretch marks a little below my butt...and since it's summer I want to go out to the beach in a bathing suit but I dont know what to wear to cover my gross butt while looking cute & girlie. I have tried to get rid of the stretch marks for years but they aren't going away. Is there anything I could wear like a type of swimsuit or is there anyway to hide them? Thanks! (link)
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Why don't you try boy shorts, or a cute skirtini? Those are really cute and popular this summer. Have you tried Mederma? It's great for clearing scars. You can buy it at Target or Walgreens or whatever. Hope that helps!
Alice
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